[crystal.star]

Does anyone else in here also experience that??? The love and hate kind of relationship?

Well, I'll go ahead and rant first...my bf and I constantly get into fights, constantly in my world
basically mean everyday of our lives. We fight, argue, get mad and sad everyday...but when it
come to breaking up, we both can't do it and always end up getting back together. Honestly, I'm
getting pretty sick of it...but for some reason, I can't seems to let him go? -__- My bf is determined
while I'm not, I get weak when it comes to him...it seems like I'm the only one that's doing all the
work, picking up all the shattered pieces and hurting myself just to make this relationship work out. =/

It saddens me even more knowing that he don't "trust" me, he told me straight up about it today..*sigh*
What happened was, I was upset about him a few days ago and decided to rant to a friend about it...
and when I told her, I was just speaking my feelings about how I really felt about him, but for some reason,
he knew about it and asked me if it was true. I admitted it to him, but I told him that it was bc I was upset,
I didn't mean to talk crap or anything...but he's like stop talking shiat about me to your friends, blah blah blah.
I asked my friend if she told him anything and her responses was...

"I don't have time to talk about you."
"What you told me is not even a secret, so why does it even matter?"

And for some reason, whatever I tell her about my bf, he knows...and whatever I tell my bf, she knows.
But when I asked them if they talk about me to each other, both of them deny to the end that they don't
talk about me and I need to stop assuming. I don't know guys, what should I do here? -__- In case you're
wondering, my friend and my bf has known each other for years..so yeah...errr, maybe that's why? Idk, I'm
just lost and confused...???

[orangekiss]

I think maybe you should stop talking to that friend about your relationship problem. Sounds like she can't keep a secret or maybe she feels obligated to tell ur bf since they are such close friends. I'm not sure.
As for your relationship, since you still have feelings for your bf, then I say give it your best shot. If it doesn't work out, then at least you won't have any regret. Hope that helps =)

[MNLV27]

Your friend and boyfriend are shady. If you told stuff to your boyfriend and your friend ends up knowing about it, it's obvious that they're both talking to each other. If it was only your friend that you talked to at the time when you were mad and he suddenly finds out, those are big signs that they're talking to each other. Yet, they both are denying that they're talking? If they admit it, it'd probably be alright since they were friends for years but they're denying it, that's just shady.

Maybe you should stop talking to your friend about your relationship problems? Your bf doesn't trust you? Did you ever do anything to lose the trust? You should tell him that, if you haven't done anything, he should trust you or else how is the relationship suppose to grow stronger when one of the main components in a relationship isn't even there to begin with?

You should reevaluate your relationship with both your friend and your bf.

[SHINEjaejoong]

Ditch them both. She was never a friend in the first place. He shouldn't be the one not trusting you. You are the one who shouldn't be trusting him. I mean, your boyfriend and best friend talking about you...You know what that means.
Im pretty sure they are a bit more than friends. Since your relationship doesn't seem to work in the first place, you should just stop picking up the pieces. He keeps breaking you and you are the one having to pick yourself up. Don't let yourself go through this. He is full of sh.t and so is that so called friend of yours.
F.ck them both. They can go to hell with their stupid backstabbing.

[peacee]

sounds like u guys are in some emotional induced relationship

honestly no matter how much u love him, let go. its not healthy for you or for him


have u ever heard the quote, "if you love someone, you let them go"? thats what i think u should do!


move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. you will probably feel like a big weight has been lifted from u once you do.

[x-rays-r-b-yu-t-ful]

You 'bad talk' your boyfriend behind his back, and you're saddened he doesn't trust you?

You expect your friend to keep it a secret, when you should have expressed your relationship problems to the one you're in the relationship with?

Oh how I do miss high school relationships.

[ladyb]

i loved how you said let me rant first. cute stufff HAHA

anyways first off, the whole on&off thing has got to stop. either break up for at least a few days to clear your mind and tell yourself "this is gonna happen again, am i really going to go thru it all over again?"

then ask yourself if he doesn't trust me, whats a relationship without trust? two strangers. and even then sometimes random strangers even trust each others. then it also sparks up, if you cant trust me what are you with me kinda thing.....

QUIT TALKING TO THAT FRIEND OF YOURS ABOUT HIM! it'll only fuel more to the fire. quit talking smack to her about him because she's probably twisting your words to him.


honestly you don't need this, and i'm sure you can do way better.

[sus]

hmmm they talk....
how else would they know
n y they get so defensive bout it

nn me and my bf use to fite every day.. it was drainer ... n i was the one who triedn to break up..
but always ended bk with him...
it continued for ages until HE broke up with me... n i made him come bak to me but the relationship changed..

i didnt fite wit him at alll cos he was like on the edge of breakin up again...
this lasted for a month until i couldnt take it ne more
so i brooke up with him.. but by this stage he didnt wanna lose me ... so we had a talk...we both compromised
and decided to change our ways...
it takes a lot of effort.. n now we're a lot bettter happi as

[PRRRETTYGLiTTERRR]

Yes, my relationship used to be like that but we finally agreed that we hate fighting with each other so we try to overcome things and ignore petty things that would make us fight Talk it out and obviously, stop talking to that girl! She's making the situation worse.