[dekchampu]

Soompiers I need your help!!
Okay so let me tell you my story...SORRY it's SO long..

On Saturday, it was a rainy and boring night. Randomly my good friend Mikey called me up and asked me if I wanted to go the 95.5's Beat Birthday Bash where there was Akon, Lil' Jon, Keri Hilson, and Keri Hilson. So OF COURSE I wanted to go, so I asked my mom if I could go and surprisingly she said yes (i'm so sheltered because of her, she never lets me out at night). So I was like okay omg yay! So I told my boyfriend Andy and he was like ohh... have fun! And I was like okay i will! So Mikey came to pick me up and we went to the club where it was at (NOTE: this is my FIRST time at a club). Mikey is pretty well known so we were able to actually get up on stage with the performers... they were like only a couple feet away from me, it was soooo freaking awesome. So then when the performance was close to being over, Mikey was like he was gonna take me to Opera (another club; 21+) so he could introduce me to the owner so he will let me in for his birthday birthday party coming up. So we went there and I met the owner and everything and then we just chilled at Opera for a while, just talking about life, no dancing or nothing, just standing there. We didn't flirt or anything, just stood talking. And he was like hey, since you're out do you want a drink? I was like sureee! So then I ended up having 2 shots and 3 glasses of drinks (and water!). I didn't feel drunk or anything, just a LITTLE dizzy. soo then he was like okay well I gotta get you home before your mom gets mad! so we left at like 4-ish, while we were walking to his car, I guess the alcohol got to me and I started like not being able to walk. So then he had to like hold me up while we walked to the car. When we got in the car he was like oh man... i probably need to get you some food or something.. so we went to Taco Bell and in the drive-thru I started puking like crazy so he was like omg omg noo don't puke! no! so then he was like let me take you to my house really quick so you can rest a little and puke it all out. So then we got to his house and he took me to the bathroom, held my hair up and i just kept throwing up over and over again. So the whole time he was like freaking out b/c he couldn't take me home to my mom, she couldn't see me like this, all drunk and crap. So he called my cousin to ask if he could drop me off at her house but she wouldn't pick up and he kept calling her and calling her but nothing. While this was happening I passed out over the toilet. He woke me up though. And eventually my cousin called him back and she was at her boyfriend's house, so she was like uhh don't bring her right now it's too early, cuz she was dead asleep. So then Mikey told me to rest for a little bit so he let me sleep on his bed and both of us just passed out. His bed is really really big, and we were on opposite sides, so it wasn't like we were cuddling while we slept or anything, 2 hours later his phone alarm went off and we woke up and he took me to my cousin's boyfriend's house and dropped me off. So later my cousin, her boyfriend, and I went to a restaurant and Andy met us up there and then we went to the mall to shop for something to wear for Mikey's party. At the mall I told Andy that I had slept over at his house and he just like got really really mad at me. He wouldn't even like talk to me and shook me off his arm when I tried to hold him. He was like you shouldn't have slept there, he could have done something to you, and why did you drink you're so stupid. I told him that there was nothing I could do because I was pretty messed up, i can't go home drunk, the highway was completely blocked, and my cousin was asleep. but he was like you shouldn't have drank in the first place, he kept telling me that. But I told him it's my first night EVER going to a club I can't have a little fun? And he's like oh so what everytime you go out you're gonna be wild? Of course not but GAHH idk. and he was like well you should think next time and think about what the consequences... well i wasn't really thinking i was just trying to have fun...but he makes it seem like what i did so extremely bad, i mean it was, but you know...idk. and i want to make everything right, i don't know and he said it was wrong to sleep over at his house b/c just the fact that i slept over at another guy's house and he''s like he could of done something to you, you can't remember. but the thing is I remember everything I did. I told him every detail too. And Mikey wouldn't do anything to me because he's not like that. And plus my cousin has known him for 10 years and she even told him that he would never do anything like that b/c he's simply not like that. but he's still like just the fact that i slept over at another guy's house. so now he's telling me he'll only feel better if i don't go to Mikey's party, the biggest party i would probably EVER go to, but I want him to be happy, so I'm not going. But he's like you need to fix this, you made a big mistake, fix it! But the thing is I have no idea what to do to fix this. I didn't even think that he would be THAT mad... but he is. And he said he can never forgive me for that. And it hurt that at the mall he didn't even like talk to me or anything, he completely ignored me. I cried my eyes out last night cuz of this.. I don't know what to do, I want to make everything right. I asked my best friend for help and she tried to talk to him for me and this is what she said:

Yeah I don't understand why he's ignoring you like that...he's only making the situation worst. And he was telling me.."I'll feel better when she knows the answer to this problem" and I aske him what the answer was and he didn't even know....He even compared you to Lucy and I told him that was so stupid cuh she cheated on him with a mideng (black guy) and is nothing like you! >.< ....I guess only time can really make thing better! I'm really sorry babe and I hope he'll end up coming around! Dry your eyes and cheer up! You look prettier when you smile with those sexy retainers of yours hehe . You've done your part but he needs to do his part as a bf and accept your mistakes and move on...he's put enough of his input on it and needs to be there for you! Cuh with Tony when I last got john teshed up,,he was pretty pissed for a little bit but when he saw me cryin he eased up on me and we tried to work things out and talk about our sides and made sure I didn't go home upset but ave the problem resolved. And all we could do about resolving it was nothing but learn for the future and accept the problem and move on...there's nothing else you can do. And having Andy restrict you from going to that guys bday party reminds me of will and his ways :/

Lucy is his ex.... so this is what I said

Seriously, he compared me to Lucy? *SIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH* >_< I can't believe that...ughh that makes me so sad. Ughh this makes me cry. I didn't even cheat on him!! I'm so glad that I didn't read this at school (I'm home now, they closed school). OH MY GOD CHERYL WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME. like i really freaking love this guy like you don't even know. i want so bad for us to COMPLETELY work this out but i don't know. RAWR. I mean he said he accept my mistake and he said he'll get over it but i don't know it just bothers me. I wish Andy was sort of like Tony and not take me home until we worked it out but he didn't even want to be near me (and that hurt like crap..) and i hate it when anybody tells me not to do something, but i'm willing to do whatever to make it work you know? and now i'm just like GAHH because I hate that we fought over something so stupid, I thought he would understand why i HAD to sleep at his house, I couldn't go home, and I couldn't wake up my cousin b/c she just wouldn't wake up. I really really thought he would understand. I knew he would get mad but not mad enough to compare me to Lucy...i didn't even do anything. ahh i just want to die

then she said

I'm really sorry! I mean that's just how he is and I guess time is all he needs...you def have nothing with lucy so it's stupid he even compared. I guess that situation with Lucy was so traumatizing that he fears you might leave him or something! Have you two talked about it today? I mean I guess it's just affecting him so much he can't fully understand what you went through. Cuh I don't think he's ever gotten drunk before so he doesn't know how bad you need to be taken care of and whatnot...I'm sorry sweetie!

then i said

i'm just mad/sad/blah at the fact that he did compare me to lucy... i never compared him to jose or duong(exes) about this situation... or when anything bad at all happens... i never have done that. it just bothers me so much... >_<
ehh.. and he calls me insecure all the time but now he's doing it...

so i tried to get help, but nothing is helping... so help me, please?

[aznbakax]

Let's say you were in his position, wouldn't u feel insecured and angry?
I'm pretty sure the reason your boyfriend is feeling insecure, is due to his past relationship with lucy.
how long have u two been together?
I can't guarantee my advice would help you, maybe u could give him time to cool off? or maybe surprise him with something?
sorry that i couldnt help!
good luck!

[rabidfish]

See, you know you didn't do anything bad. I think your boyfriend's a little hurt because he should've been one of the people you, or Mikey since you were prolly out, called, y'know? idk. some guys get really upset when they find out afterwards, even if NOTHING happened. that's what happened to me. i'm sorry to hear that though and i hope it works out.

[KareBear]

I can kind of see his point of view though. Even though you Mikey pretty well, your boyfriend probably doesn't trust him enough. To you, Mikey is a friend. To your bf, Mikey IS a guy- he is your opposite sex. Ask yourself, if your boyfriend went out clubbing with one of his girl friend, and that girl offered your boyfriend some drinks, drove him to HER place to puke and slept in the same bed as him... How would you feel? Cause honestly, from an outsiders' point of view, it sounds iffy. He's most likely still hurt by the idea that his ex cheated on him so the idea of you sleeping in the same bed as Mikey is probably making him remember how he felt when his ex cheated on him.

It's probably best to leave him alone for a while until he calms down and start to think with his head again rather than his heart.

[peppermintsugar]

Your boyfriend isn't mad about the possibility of something happening that night, your boyfriend is angry about the fact that you couldn't control yourself enough to not get that drunk and take care of yourself. If you got that drunk with someone else, who knows what could have happened? And especially with you having slept over?

If this happened to me and my boyfriend found out I got wasted and slept at some guys house in his BED, my boyfriend would probably break up with me, lol, no joke.

[teaispink]

I agree with PristineNyte. You can hang out all u want but learn how to control urself, getting urself drunk like that is pretty irresponsible no matter how close u and ur friend are. My bf would be pretty pissed off too if i did something like that, he wouldnt dump me but he would sure give me hell.

Sleeping on the same bed with Mikey is just wrong... cuddle or not it doesn't matter. Mikey could've slept on the couch or floor no matter how big the bed is. What if ur bf did what u did? How would u feel?

[uchung89]

your boyfriend just seems worried about you.
you never know what could have happened...alcohol makes people do stupid things.
next time just control yourself better..

maybe Mikey should have called your boyfriend to let him know
how you were and that you were safe...

i'm sure if he cared enough he would've been there for you
as soon as he could.

not to sound mean, but a lot of things you did sound bad to do in a relationship.
even though it's not THAT bad...it's still pretty wrong...=/

i hope things work out for you though.
best of luck!

[&rea]

I don't understand why you didn't just call your boyfriend? I mean, if that happened to me, first thing I would do is call my boyfriend to see if he was okay with it. I mean, couldn't you have called him out of courtesy just to ask if it was okay with him? (This is not "Is my boyfriend okay with me hanging out with my best friend?" this is "Is my boyfriend okay with me sleeping over at another guy's house in his bed?" so I don't see it as him restricting you or being overprotective.) The fact that he had to find out after it happened is reason enough for him to get mad.

I'm sorry, but I have to side with your boyfriend on this one.

[OMGitzYOU]

You puke, this means your body is telling you that you DRANK TOO MUCH. Plus, you should have called your bf occasionally or something or call him to pick you up. He was pretty brave to let you go in the first place.

[<3 Kim]

I didn't read the whole thing but your boyfriend does have the right to be angry at you. You couldn't control yourself and drank too much. If your boyfriend went out, drank too much and ended up sleeping on a bed with a girl wouldn't you get pissed off also? (Even if he says he didn't do anything you would still feel uncomfortable right?) I would also side with your boyfriend as some of the others said.

There's nothing much you can really do now. Just give him some time to cool down, then apologize to him properly

[brownman90561495]

I don't understand why you didn't just call your boyfriend?

i echo this statement.

if i was the guy and my S/O did pretty much the same, this would be pretty much my first question - "why didn't you call me?"

'nuff said. i hope you two can fix things up. don't do something like this again in the future.

[HaplessChild]

Your boyfriend isn't mad about the possibility of something happening that night, your boyfriend is angry about the fact that you couldn't control yourself enough to not get that drunk and take care of yourself. If you got that drunk with someone else, who knows what could have happened? And especially with you having slept over?

If this happened to me and my boyfriend found out I got wasted and slept at some guys house in his BED, my boyfriend would probably break up with me, lol, no joke.

This.

You stay out all night with another guy and sleep at his home. Your "FRIEND" should have called your bf or taken you home.

If you're under 21 your butt shouldn't have been out drinking to begin with.

[Swtess]

Its understandable that it was your first time and everything but wondering, couldn't your bf just come along? He has the right to be pissed but really, he needs to grow up and not turn it into a guessing game where 'if you don't know, i'm not going to tell you.'

You're passed that stage already so be mature about it. You need to see his side and now just think about yourself and just because you've known Mikey for so long it'll automatically make your bf feel comfortable to let you roam around all night with the guy. Your bf needs to be a man and just tell you straight up why he's pissed so that the problem can be solved.

Btw, all the 'like' in this post is pretty annoying.

[jaeka]

Yeaaaaah. If my bf found out I slept in some other guys house, in his bed, he would get so mad at me. Dx How would you react if your boyfriend said all that to you? You'd be on soompi making a topic about it after you kicked his ass.
You gotta understand, bf was worried and probably a bit :S about you staying at some other guys house. I would say sorry tbh xD Hope all works out for you :D

[MNLV27]

Well it is technically your fault, like others said, you should of called your bf to come pick you up or something. Just because it's your first time going clubbing, or just going out in general doesn't make it right for you to just go drinking all you want. You gotta understand that your mom and your boyfriend was willing to let you go hang out with a guy by yourself, so the best you could of done is control yourself and not drink until you're puking and passing out. Learn about self control, please. If it was me, my bf would of just broken up with me for being irresponsible and stupid. Also, if I was in your bf's shoes, I would be pissed off too.

[AznDragon405]

Okay, to the self-righteous person up there that said she shouldn't have been drinking anyways cause she is under 21, are you serious? If you didn't drink when you were under 21 you probably didn't have many friends or are not in college.

I can see where people are going with this about how you're bf was mad at you but he is really blowing it out of proportion. He's acting like a child and making you figure out "the answer to the problem" and not just telling you himself. What you did was really not THAT bad. From my point of view, he should trust you more. Okay, so you went out with a friend you trusted and you slept over his house. Whoop-di-do. This was probably your first time drinking so you didn't know what your tolerance was. It is understandable that you let yourself get a little out of control. Next time though, now that you know drinking that much will have results like that, I wouldn't recommend doing it again. Just let your bf calm down and talk to him about it. If it's taking him more than like a day or two to calm down, he's got some serious problems. =]