[LyX]

First of all, I have no best friends, and no close friends...just friends to hang around with every once in a while...i have no problem with talking to ppl but its mostly quite casual....my best friend seems to be my bf...he has quite a lot of (close) friends though...
what sucks is: this makes me feel like I need him more than he needs me / I'm more dependent on him...because if I lose him I have nobody, but he still has his friends....

NB: thats why i get super pissed at him for minor matters (like not calling, not talking to me for just a short period,..)...because it always reminds me that I probably like/think of him more than he likes/thinks of me....its really hard to admit, but i think i'm just jealous of his friends and their closeness....i dont really think i can do anything about it but accept it...


anybody else who feels this way/knows what i mean??
for those who dont have a bf: how do u feel that you dont have a best friend/any close friends??

[HaplessChild]

I'm pretty much the same way. You just have to learn to be ok with being alone or actively seek out a closer relationship with someone else. I only have one other friend outside of my bf and I admit the only reason we're close friends now is bec 1. we live together and 2. I actively pursued the friendship and went way out of my way to be a friend for her. I mean WAY out of my way.

[sus]

hm maybe u should change ur ways
try to be more social
make new friends and dont be so clingy with ur bf
cos u know being clingy is unattractive..
if u keep gettin mad at him over those lil stuff..
he would distanct himself cos it will get annoying

try to join in with his friends.. then u can all hang out
it wont change unless u make it change

[Want2LoveU]

I know what you mean when I was younger I had 3 friends that I was close with, but all three moved away. From that moment on I never really had any close friends or best friends. For longest time I wished I had someone was beside, every time morning I wake up I wanting to hold that hand but it's not there. It makes me sad and lonely sometimes. At least, you have a boyfriend I think that is good enough, you should tell him how you feel. Jealous won't make you have close friends, how about you get to know your boyfriends friends.

[Gofishus]

Aw, shucks I'll be your friend =). Just pm me and I can add you on msn or facebook or something. I'm usually a good listener if you wanna talk about anything =)

[Becko]

im the same way. i have NO close/best friends at all. just ppl i'd hang out with here and there. no one to share secrets or anything with. but ive pretty much gotten used to it and its not bad at all. like the above post-er said, if u want, i'll be ur friend too. lol we can ALL be friends! whoo! PM me =)

[faithpuppy]

I had the same situation in middle school! but when I went to high school [and not a lot of people from my middle school was going there] I took the initiative and introduced myself to somebody at the bus stop. We now are roommates in university xD

maybe you should organize an event and invite friends to join you... like go to the movies or something =]

[bonjour tristesse.]

It's your decision on whether or not to have friends ; if you want to have some then you know you gotta be more social. You should at least try, it's better than knowing you tried than you didn't at all.

[Yunho<3]

I need a best friend!
Would you like to be my best friend?

[AS1AND0LL]

You could start being more open with others, people don't bite if you treat them right. I'm sure you're a fairly nice individual so just get out there and socialize with your friend's friends.. get to know more people that way.

[anonymous.A]

yeah.. i think you shoudl kinda try to stop being so dependent on your bf,
cause it might create some problems? idunno ><
& well you know..liek you said you have like friends, but no bestfriends,
but the thing is.. it'll take a while to make bestfriends right?
as long as you put the effort in, you'll be finee =)

[sparkerly]

I have no friends either! wooo /;

[joie.de.vivre]

i felt the same way you did during middle and high school, but things flipped 180 degrees in every aspect recently..lol.

you have to be open.
i don't mean just acting outgoing and acting happy.

you have to be a friend to have friends.

[damyoungji]

You're not alone. When I think about it, my friends are just there when I want to go out. But I rarely go out.
As for people at school, we are just classmates. We talk about private silly stuff, but other than that, nothing much.
It's like I know people, but I don't actually know them. Everyone is more like an acquaintance and that's it.

But at least you have a boyfriend =P

[LyX]

hey ppl thanks for all the replies + friend offers
but another question:
in the other thread alot of ppl said that they hang out with their bf 24/7 and that thats alright too....so it should be too bad if i hang around with my bf that much??
and also, if i start "looking for friends" now that means that i'd have to spend more time with them and less with my bf but i really like spending time with my bf too >.<

[Gofishus]

^ You can spend as much time with your bf as you want. But it's also risky because you're investing all your time onto one person...how do you know you and your bf will always be together. What will happen if you guys break up? Then you have no one to hang out with.

[sugarcube]

Judging from the replies, you're obviously not alone! I have 4-5 friends I've known since middle school and even though we're "close", I don't tell them much. We just casually hang out but I am hoping to find better friends who I can be myself around.

Regarding the boyfriend thing, you should spend time away from him because you don't want him to feel smothered.. give him (and yourself) some breathing room. It's good to have a social life beyond your significant other.

[Mr. Chan]

I have no friends either! wooo /;

I can be your friend.

^ You can spend as much time with your bf as you want. But it's also risky because you're investing all your time onto one person...how do you know you and your bf will always be together. What will happen if you guys break up? Then you have no one to hang out with.

I completely agree with you. The last relationship I was in was kind of messed up. I sort of had to either pick my girlfriend or my friends. Like an idiot, I chose my girlfriend and sort of ditched everyone. Her and I are no longer together and it was kind of weird hanging out with my friends again. Fortunately they understood my situation.

[sparkerly]

I can be your friend.

Haha yay! Hi new friend! lol


And on topic: I was just like you when I had my first boyfriend. I hung out with him a lot and relied on him for company. Bad mistakeee. I know it's hard to make new friends [well for me it is because i'm not much of a social person] and most of them already have their own group. But it never hurts to try right?

Good luck!

I should take my own advice lol

[- - eunnieboo. ♡]

i can't really consider my boyfriend at the moment my best friend, 'cause we don't see eachother very often..
but i know what'chu mean. my ex was pretty much the only person i felt comfortable with back in the day.

mainly probably 'cause you can barely trust anybody these days. :\

but yeahh. join some after-school clubs and approach a random person or something if you're in high school, or as faithpuppy said, organize a big event. :] those are always fun, and you get to know your friends betterr.