How do you move on after a break up?

#1 rukawa-kun

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 05:18 AM

Just curious, whether you have to meet a whole bunch of new ppl, go clubbing, express it artistically, talk to friends, write and sing it out, etc. lol

and also wondeirng how long does it usually take to move on?

#2 jaja13

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 05:39 AM

well, it basically depends the person.
but, speaking from experience. i allow myself to dwell on the break-up for however long i need.
and then i'll get a wake up call telling me that the guy is sooo not worth all the stress and sadness.
then i would just enjoy being single.
believe me, it's great.

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 07:05 AM

Kinda funny, 'cause this question was asked in another forum that I frequent. To answer your question...

Time heals everything.

Also for me, working out really gets my mind off things. I've been doing it for a while since I'm single and am getting pretty good results (physically and mentally). However, from the time you lay down in bed to when you fall asleep is when you'll do the most thinking. Fortunately for me, I have very good friends that are there for me. So I tend to just think about what my plans will be for the weekend.

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 07:24 AM

how do i move on?

write constantly, cry, do nothing at all, dont listen to music at all, and then be busy constantly, go out and all that whatever stuff, talk to friends till the AM. watch a lot of comedies......work out like crazy......read what i wrote to see how stupid and trivial things were.

how long did it take?

i was single for 1year and a half, even though i was technically seeing somebody, it took longer than that 1year and a half to emotionally move on. i would say about 2 years.

really........its not THAT big of a deal where i feel like im 'dying' anymore. i was just a kid.

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 08:37 AM

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 01:14 PM

Life goes on. Maybe time does heal everything but the memory will always be there. I'd be lying if I said that at one point I have not broken down and cried but at the same time I knew that one day I'll be able to pick up where I left and move on.

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 06:11 PM

I hang out with friends, focus on my studies.. basically everything than being all sad and thinking about a jerky ex-boyfriend.

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 06:51 PM

ugh..

drama, school, sports, work out, hang out with friends?...but mostly school/hangout

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Posted 25 September 2009 - 08:57 PM

i don't know.
i just focus on other stuff.
i move on super fast. xD

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Posted 26 September 2009 - 09:52 AM

I constantly tried to keep myself busy. Whether this was doing overtime at work, general cleaning, appointments that should have been made etc etc. I will do them. Time helps a lot. Its just when I stop for a moment and start thinking, that is when I will get extremely upset, so the best thing I can do is keep myself busy and limit that thought process of what happened in the relationship/how much I miss them. Time really does heal... but the speed I guess is different for everyone eh..

#11 rukawa-kun

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Posted 04 October 2009 - 03:38 PM

thanks for the opinions...

i've tried exercising, studying, meeting new ppl, trying new events, constantly running to class... and i can't recall a time when i've been so busy and running from one thing to the next, literally... lol.

but it still hits me the hardest when i wake up in the morning and having to relive the whole thing again... whether it's a short nap or cuz of my alarm clock... i can't get back to sleep