[baboxxyun]

I see people around me with their boyfriend/girlfriend and they seem like the happiest person alive.
But usually they break up, then its like their world just shattered. They become extremely depressed an sulk, cry, vent, ect....
Eventually i see them again, and they go back to being "happy," satisfied with the friends and family that surround them. But these individuals eventually find another 'partner' and start all over again. Personally, i see this as really pointless. The experience of dating is one thing, but to constantly search for that significant other and subconsciously expect a fairy-tale ending is another.
Personally i dont see why people do this. They will ALWAYS find someone to be with then end up getting hurt. I guess for me, i act on logic more than anything. My emotions come second, so logically (for me at least) its pointless to go through all these 'events' and not gain anything from it. Sure, the couples you see at the mall, TV, school make you feel lonely, envious, and empty, but chances are, that happiness is only temporary.

Im sure there are a lot of you that have seen or are individuals like this.
so my question(s) is/are....

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?

[Sephiroth]

I totally understand where you are coming from from this "logic". But thats how some people work. I will tell you, being in a relationship is great, it gives some of the best moments of my life that i still miss and cherish dearly to this day. Sure i get shattered when its all over, but that is life, there are ups and downs. Emotions should be balanced, to be happy, one must feel sad, then only can happiness be defined right?

I understand the logic first and emotions second. I used to be like that... that was until i realized that live was boring when it is too "calculated". Life and relationships are not a set of numbers you can manipulate to yield the best road to take, sometimes you just have to go with your feelings. I realized that while i was being rational, i could never be as happy as the people who were "irrational" or spontaneous... so i recently changed my view on life, it was almost a 180 degree turn. I actually came to this full realization after i met this girl in my class.... she was amazing, and we just clicked... everytime i would doubt it and think rational thoughts like "nothings good will come out of it", i just ignored it and eventually we became a couple. I can say those were the happiest times of my life... yeah, we broke up, i still miss her... yeah i am sad almost depressed, but i could be tortured in this manner over and over again if only i could relive those moments.

So if you ask if its better to love and be hurt or not love at all, my answer to you is, love... and be hurt.

[AoiAi]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other? I can't say for sure but I find that at times, I'm happier when I'm single but sometimes, I'm happier when I have a s/o. Haha... X_X

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other? Well, yes.

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other? I'm afraid of the heartbreaks. :\

[Mr. Chan]

I'm happier being with someone.

[naoto]

Im sure there are a lot of you that have seen or are individuals like this.
so my question(s) is/are....

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
NO. I am not happier being alone. I am happy being with a significant other (not that I have one), at times I would even enjoy the clingyness because you know someone is thinking about you.

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
Yes I was. My feet felt lighter when I walked down the street.

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?
Love...?

[rachilde]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
I'm equally happy. I find being alone to be liberating and relaxing. I find being with someone I absolutely adore to be warm and fuzzy and all that jazz. I'm much more specific in what I want. For example, I don't wake up in the mornings and think "gosh, I need a boyfriend" but if I meet someone I very much want to be with, then I might wake up and think "gosh, I'd like π to be my boyfriend" or "gosh, I'd be very happy if π were my boyfriend." Most days I wake up and think, "gosh, it's great to be alive" and many days I even wake up and think, "gosh, I love being single."

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
This is really a trick question. When you find someone you want to be with, then you would of course like to be with that person. But, in a situation when there's not someone you really want to be with, then I'm absolutely fine drifting alone. I love it in fact. I've broken up with people because I prefer to be alone than in a relationship. Am I happier when I've found someone I like than when I haven't? That's a very context-specific question--what if I like someone who doesn't like me back or he's an absolute douche or if he's got a girlfriend? Then no. If I like someone who does like me back and I can be with him--then sure, of course I'm happier than the flip side. I take it day by day. Dating isn't really a life goal for me. I just have an overall lust for life.

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?
I'm at a stage in life where I don't want a significant other. Why? Because I'm young, attractive, intelligent, and have a promising future and there is no point in my opinion to truncate the freedom of enjoying my alone time by pigeon-holing myself up with one person when I have no impulse or desire to settle down, marry, etc. I find steady companionship wherever I go in the form of friends. I am not lonely. And I definitely am not in need of free meals or movies or what have you. I don't have the energy for romantic commitment when I have devoted myself to so many other activities like my education, like my career, like my friends and family, and like my general enjoyment of life. I have love wherever I go. My family loves me. My friends love me. And I even have the occasional love of the poor guy who has the sorry luck of falling for me. I feel comfortable and well-nourished single.

[BloodPrincessShiroto]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
No

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
Yes i'm extremely happy when i'm around my fiance

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?
N/A

[bonjour tristesse.]

In a relationship, it seems that one is always miserable just because most of the time, we over exaggerate. We make something that isn't a big deal so big and it seems like we're never content, making the other person stress over it. Even though things like this happen though, I can stay that ups and down, I think that just the thought of being with the person you love is what really matters and the thought itself makes someone happier.

When someone is single on the other hand, there isn't as much issues you need to deal with just because you don't have to worry about impressing your s/o. You're more of a free person, independent and the type that can flirt with whoever you want.

[,astrolicious]

The grass is greener on the other side.

I think it's alright like... you have to learn to appreciate what you have.
Because once you don't have it anymore, you'll realize ... wow. What did I just let go of?

I always realize this after a relationship ends...
I don't want to make the same mistakes over and over again.
So I have to remind myself wow. : ) I'm happy.

p.s I'm happier with someone I think.

[XangelXtranX]

All these couples look so happy I feel a lil sad inside =/
Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
No, I really wish I had someone to love and share those couple moments, =/
I've never been into a real relationship since none of it lasted longer than 6 months but it was so nice to have someone to look out for you waiting to talk to you etc. -.- ( It's was long distance relationship, ..)

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
I'm not sure if ill be happier since i havent really been in one but i guess

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?
Well cuz life is so boring for me right now. I go to school and go home =/I hang around mostly girls even though I'm more comfortable around guys and I miss the sense of having another guy close to you, like that solid body o.o ...

[danielluv]

I like it either way, but in a relationship, my emotions become sooo much more intense. When I'm happy I'm so happy I'm floating on clouds, when I'm sad, I'm devastated. And caring for somebody makes each day so much more.... wonderful?

When I'm alone, I don't have to worry about my emotional breakdowns (at least in terms of relationship issues) and I can focus better, which I like. It's less drama, and yes, sometimes more boring, but sometimes in life you need to have that boringness.

[xo_sugar_ox]

if i had a crush, which is like 90% of the time, then i'd probably be way happier in a relationship.

i'm fine without an s/o but definitely NOT happier. it's really starting to get boring and lonely without someone i like being with me D: like seriously. it's REALLY starting to bother me

i will obviously be happier if i find an s/o

i really want an s/o (someone i like, not just anyone) because well, i want to be happy and feel loved. and i haven't had that feeling in a long time, at least from a crush. but at the same time i don't want to get with someone because of my bad experiences where me and the person will break up and end up not talking again =/ so i'm stuck

[x3Jae]

Some people are just "in love with love"
It makes them feel extremely happy but they can be happy without being in a relationship
Like me
I'm totally in love with love because it's the feeling that makes me happiest

I guess people are "happy around their friends/family" after a break up because there's no point in being depressed over it. I mean, you're not going to get back with the guy are you? He's broken your heart once, there's a chance he'll do it again

[Pandiiebear]

I guess people are "happy around their friends/family" after a break up because there's no point in being depressed over it. I mean, you're not going to get back with the guy are you? He's broken your heart once, there's a chance he'll do it again

I agreeeee! Family and Friends stay forever and I'll always be happiest with them no matter what

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Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
So far, no diffference but I like being single. I get to be myself without caring too much of what my boyfriend would think of me : \ Hopefully he wont be a reason I cant be myself!

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
I probably will be! Or just happier because of the company and person. hahaa

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?
Well first off, Ive never dated before because im scared and unprepared. Right now, i feel it isn't the right time to have one (school and timing). It seems I always end up liking the same person my friend(s) like. I guess its the matter of them telling me first making me stay low and shut up. I also dont pursue one because IM NOT READY. ugh. At this rate, I dont think ANYONE would wait for me.

[sumoberrylu]

when i am alone for awhile, i miss my boyfriend so i would say that having a boyfriend makes me happier. someone there to talk to, vent to, laugh with, hang out with and be yourself and not be afraid.

but at times, i miss being single. however, i still pick the relationship that makes me happiest.

[peppermintsugar]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other? No. Not at all.

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other? Very much so.

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other? Simply put, I'm that kind of girl that feels like she needs a man to complete her. I really want that special someone in my life, that kind of love that friends and family can't give me. I want to be in love, I want to get married and have a family. There's nothing about being single that I miss at all.

[muffinx3]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
I'm not sure. I haven't been single for a REALLY long time. I don't even remember how it feels to be legitimately single. :x

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
Yes? Cause I'm happy now.

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?
I like being in love. I like knowing that I have someone. I like knowing that someone loves and cares for me on a different level than a normal friend.

[daintymilk]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?
Well, not exactly "happy," let's just say I'm content with life. Neither happy nor sad, I'm just quite grateful all the things I have right now.

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?
Admittedly, yes. I had my highs and lowest point with significant other. Basically, it was like a rollarcoaster for me, I felt like the luckiest person in the world when I found him and the joy I didn't experienced while I was single. So I was the happiest person when I was with him. But I also had lows of all that I didn't experience when I was single as well.

What makes you want/ not want a significant other?
I'm nearly in final years of high school, at the moment I would like to focus on my studies. Also, I have great friends, family, supportive people so why do I need a significant other to fulfill my needs? I'm still young, I would like to have fun before committing a serious relationship. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have one but then I think of heartbreak and the pain I would have to go through.

[Lie]

Happiest to Least:
1.) In a healthy relationship
2.) Single but with prospects
3.) In an unhealthy relationship
4.) Single with no prospects

[Ji-In]

Are you happier when you are alone without a significant other?

Actually no, because i used to be sad when im alone. though i was contented but it was just ordinary and nohing special in my life.

Are you happier when you have 'found' your significant other?

yes of course. ive found my significant other and i feel like one of the happiest person in life
It is an undescribable feeling and i could never be happy like this without him. We also have fights and everything but its ok because i appreciate the time we spend together =]

What makes you want/ not want a significant other? more specially, what is it that 'drives' you to pursue/ not pursue that significant other?

because love is one of the most important feeling in life. every person needs love so do I.
i also like to love and care for someone and to be loved by someone. Knowing that youre the most important person in someones life is just an undescribable feeling =] Hes always by my side he understands me and we can share everything...
and personally i want to get married someday too, so there arent any reasons not wanting a significant other =]