[Dorkii_Gurl]

My bf has a girl friend..
and i was whatever with her..(i dont know her btw)
but he goes over there sometiems while im at dance (he's 100% faithful so i KNOW he's not cheating..please dont even bring it up)
BUT
i do think that SHE has a crush on him
cuz he's honest with me and he tells me how she opens up to him A LOT..telling him like pretty much her deepest secrets..stuff her best friends dont even know
and i gotta admit..they're really quite personal..stuff you'd want to tell to people you HIGHLY trust or "love"

and i wouldn't be thinkin so much into it if they were BEST FRIENDS..but they're NOT..
he hasn't talked to her..for like..almost over a year maybe? and she's tellin him all this stuff

and when we were sleeping (we live together) his phone kept goin off and im such a light sleeper..
so I picked up his phone and it was jus his calendar reminder thing goin off to wake up him up for work
but i also saw that he got a text and seeing that it was from her, i read his text and it said...

me n u shoud f****, kiss, hold each other, hug, sleep together and a whole bunch of other stuff (I think MAYBE it's one of those chainletters..but i didnt see any 'send it to 10 ppl or you'll have bad luck' or whatever)

i told him about it and i asked him to tell her to kinda back off..like wtf ya know? even if it is a chain letter its a bit sketchy...
but he said hes not gonna do anything bout it cuz its not like he cares about her that way so hes jus whateverin it..

im TRYING to shrug it off..but its hard..im kinda "possessive" when it comes to girls..I think i backed off A LOT..but..idk..
how would u guys feel?
and should i keep pesterin about him to talk to her or jus leave it alone and see if she does anything else??
oh and they only text..they dont really talk on the phone..and most of the time she texts him first but she does the inviting ALL the time

he goes over there cuz..well..he's kind of a loner..cuz all his friends are jackasses and they talked crap about me so he left them for me..and i felt bad (sort of..lol) and encouraged him to go out with his other friends (which are only girls..) and he didnt want to (busy with work, rather spend time with me) but yea..so now he goes over there whenever he gets the invite since im at dance anyway
thanks for readin folks~

[Mr. Chan]

How would you feel about this?

I would feel the need to PHDTS

[SaintPink]

Ohh noo well if it seems like your boyfriend can handle it and you trust
him then just leave it alone even if its hard. She is the one with the crush on him
but maybe send her a text telling her to back off! that will be what I would do!

If it seems to be getting worse and he spends more time with her and they
get very close then you should start to confront them both...maybe she isnt aware
he is seeing someone?

[judii]

^whats PHDTS?

erm personally that chick is kinda f***ed up 0-0
if she knows that he has got a gf then she's just trying to steal him away from you...
and its also plain weird to tell some guy you're not really close with all your deepest secrets and sending msgs like that :S
and tell your bf to find some new guy friends...not hang around girls all the time

although it seems you guys trust each other a lot so maybe you could leave it except go tell that girl face to face he's got a gf and doesn't need one like her. hahaha that's what I'd do xd

[Dorkii_Gurl]

haha i was wondering what PHDTS was too..xD
but yea
She knows we're together..everyone SHOULD know (But i know she knows FOR SURE)
we are engaged....
(though he doesn't wear his ring cuz he doesnt wanna mess it up from work..and sometimes forgets to put it on..=/)

but yea..i asked him that too if i can have her number so i can talk to her myself and he said no cuz he doesnt want drama..blaaah..

[Mr. Chan]

PHDTS = push her down the stairs.

[peppermintsugar]

Not fly at all.
I would be absolutely livid if I saw that on my boyfriends phone from some girl.
I would definitely ask him to ask her to back off, and if he didn't, it would really make me wonder about some things.

[lovecubedlee]

i would personally beat her up.

[Kanzen]

Not fly at all.
I would be absolutely livid if I saw that on my boyfriends phone from some girl.
I would definitely ask him to ask her to back off, and if he didn't, it would really make me wonder about some things.

Uh, yeah. Me too.

Especially since he's your FIANCE and he's going over to a girl's house. I wouldn't let that fly at all, even if he's 100% faithful. Temptation, much... especially when she's sending him dirty text messages (chainletter or not, you don't send that to an engaged man.) She has no respect for your relationship; get him out of there.

That's just my two cents. =]

[rawwwr]

^
And also, if you don't resolve this now, the problem persist into your marriage. That girl will be a homewrecker.

[fredinsac]

He's an idiot. Why? He talks about not wanting drama but keeping that other girl around right now is nothing but drama. Fool, should find new friends.

[sumoberrylu]

wow if she sends a text like that..thats messed.

um i kinda dont understand why he wont tell her to back off. if he doesn't care about her and if hes already willing to ditch his guy friends for you then why can't he do this for you too? he should tell her to back off.