[Maos]

so anyways i have this "best friend" whom i really hate. And to top it all off, she follows me to whatever i do.
1. I was majoring in political science and she majored in sociology. She then followed me to the same major as me.
2. She followed me to my last two part-time jobs and asked me to refer her, which i did. Except for the last part-time job in which i referred her to, she was late, so she never got hired (thank god)
3. I said i wanted to work as an office clerk at an insurance company, and she said if i got hired, she will try it too. But, I never got hired, so she couldn't get the job there either obviously since there was no one to refer her..
4. Because it's hard to find a job in political science, i decide to get a certificate in college and earn money from that. She decides to follow me and get that same certificate too. So right now we're in the same program, but i KNOW she's going to ask me to refer her to my workplace after that..AGAIN

So yah she follows me everywhere! She is SO annoying. If i like her as a friend, then it's fine. But i hate her. I especially hate her now since she follows me to whatever i do, even my career! I seriously think i'm going to go crazy, because no matter what i want to do, she follows me. And this is a CAREER i'm talking about. I seriously do NOT want to see her face everyday for the next 30 years until we both retire. She's my friend, not my DOG. I don't want her following me around everywhere. So i think i'm going to go crazy now. Just the thought of seeing her face everyday for the next THIRTY YEARS is going to drive me insane.

I know, i should just drop her as a friend. But it's not as easy as it sounds because we have a lot of mutual friends we know since high school. And plus, i like a mutual guy friend of ours. If i just drop my friend like that, our mutual friend (the guy i like) will think i'm a b*tch for dropping our friend. What should i do. She's driving me so insane that i actually thought of moving away to another state just to avoid her. that's how bad this is.

[klassikm3]

sounds like she really admires you

well if its driving you insanely crazy (that's what it sounds like) then just ask her whats the deal. ask her of her interests and suggest some stuff for her to take in and go for. sure she might take it the way as if you are annoyed (which you are) but its never gonna go away if you don't tell her. Friends don't hide the truth.

[choot]

man, i would've told her straight out face to face about it by now. i would've said "damn girl, pilot your own life!" lol. im just kidding. but to be honest, you have to approach her and ask her why is she pursuing so and so along with you. you have to tell her one day........the girl probably has no idea that its bugging you THAT much.

if you dont want her to work with you, just say "my workplace isnt hiring" lol. EVEN if there's a big sign in the front that says "WE'RE HIRING" lol. *jk.

i had a similar problem, but it wasnt as bad? i suggested different kinds of jobs she would like according to the things she like, and she just......stopped following me. i told her "you're REALLY good at math, plus you like inputting, so WHY ARENT YOU A BUSINESS ACCOUNTING MAJOR!?" lol. of course she's all....iffy about it....but i drilled her in. lol. "business accountants are needed at all different kind of places. plus, there's alot of hot guys who are business majors. hhahahaaha. but seriously, you should think about it!" (lol i dont think she realized that its hard to find a job with that major nowadays)

[teelee]

would it REALLY hurt you to just nicely tell her to stop copying you? (actually tell her you dont even want to be friends).

[myherox3]

You know, you don't have to refer her, you could have just said "no." If you hate her following you so much, why don't you talk to her about it instead of complaining on Soompi?

[fresh]

First, you should definitely have a serious talk with her asking her why she keeps following you. Well, then it seems like you either have to tell her that you don't want her following you around anymore and deal with criticism from others or else deal with her for a long, long time.

[hobobear]

i've learned a tactic today in class that may help... don't question their motives, just state how you feel and their actions that you observe.
start by saying
"i've noticed... that you have been having the same goals and aspirations as me, and it seems like you're copying my every move. i feel that you are using me to find you jobs and it's starting to irritate me"

[MrsKoizumi]

You should tell her how much it bothers you and how it's affecting you and your career. If she really respects you as a friend, she'll probably explain why she does what she does and try to understand. I second that she does admire you : )

Some people take it really far though, haha.
I hope things work out for the best!

Stay honest with each other : )

[B L o T T - ii]

omgsh!! i can really empathize with u on that!! i've been in a similar situation.. my friend was extremely "clingy" she was like my shadow

in the end, i just told her everything, she hated me afterwards, but hey, better than a copycat, right?