[choot]

Of course I have a lot of good friends, who would be there for me when i need them, but i dont talk to them as often (which i kind of regret not contacting them more). The only one person who's been texting me, IMing me, or calling me is this one superficial friend of mine. She's a good person but she's a little too shallow. She wants to have a boyfriend who's good-looking, and pretty well off. Of course in the back of my head, i thought "because you think like THAT, you're not going to have any soon" She also has this tendency to tell me that everything in her life is going better off than any of our friends. She is saying she goes to the best college in CA, party with these frat guys, and a lot of guys are after her. Weird thing is.......when i visited her.......i dont see these so call "amazing guys" after her. Plus all these cute guys who she call her friends, arent on her facebook friends. She sent me a link, and it was just their private profiles. i mean, you can brag so much, but at least show me, more than tell me these things.

Do you guys still have these types of friends?

I did confront my friend about these things she told me. i asked her "how come that guy who you told me you like in class, isnt on your facebook friends?" and she would just TOTALLY take it out of proportion. sometimes i feel like she WANTS to brag about her life to make mine sound bad so i can envy her life.

Would you keep someone like this in a part of your life?

[Murdaaa]

Your friend sounds like a loser.

Just tell her straight up that she needs to stop lying.

Maybe she needs to go to the real city side to have a social life...

Ex. NYC

[babiloveyoo]

Do you guys still have these types of friends? Would you keep someone like this in a part of your life?

Hell no, why would anyone want someone like that as their friend?

[peppermintsugar]

Nothing wrong with keeping some acquaintances. You might not want to entrust your life to them, but they're fun to hang out with.

[myherox3]

Yes I would... I mean, I'm pretty superficial myself. I think that everyone, whether they admit it or not, is shallow.

As for your friend, just because they're not friends on facebook, it really doesn't mean that they're... not friends. Also, you do know that if she sends you a LINK and you're not friends with that person and that person's profile is on private then you can't see their profile.

"sometimes i feel like she WANTS to brag about her life to make mine sound bad so i can envy her life."

Welll, if you know she's making all this stuff up then there's no reason for you to 'envy her life,' correct?

[fredinsac]

Yes I would... I mean, I'm pretty superficial myself. I think that everyone, whether they admit it or not, is shallow.

As for your friend, just because they're not friends on facebook, it really doesn't mean that they're... not friends. Also, you do know that if she sends you a LINK and you're not friends with that person and that person's profile is on private then you can't see their profile.

"sometimes i feel like she WANTS to brag about her life to make mine sound bad so i can envy her life."

Welll, if you know she's making all this stuff up then there's no reason for you to 'envy her life,' correct?

^^Word.

[Mentos]

I don't think your friend is as "superficial" as you claim her to be. She just sounds really insecure.

First, I'm sure there are a lot of girls who would want to marry a good-looking and rich man.

Second, I think the only reason why you sound like you're in a love- hate relationship with her is because you've already decided that she's superficial and braggy. Therefore, whatever she says or does, you will just see her as a superficial, judgmental (ironic, isn't it?), bragging "friend".

By the way, your confrontation doesn't sound much like a confrontation at all. It sounds like you're accusing her (stop being passive aggressive), so I wouldn't blame her if she gets defensive.

And one last thing: you and your superficial friend are not binded by law or contract to stay friends. If confrontation (the right and proper way) doesn't work, then you guys can always go your own separate ways. Go find yourself a better friend who isn't always trying to compete with people. What is the definition of a "friend"? I think it is loosely interpreted and the word is abused too much.


And to answer your questions: I did have friends like that back in high school... and, no, I would not keep them around.

[Aphrodite]

I used to have a "friend" like that until one day I got fed up and just call her out on her B.S. I got to the point where I didn't want to hear her "awesome" life with these so-called guys and her perfect fashion career and trendy designer bags, clothes. There's a difference between telling your friend about what's going on in your life and taking it to the level where every conversation with them is centered AROUND them. Does she ever ask you about your life? If the answer is hardly or no, then that's not a friend. She's just using you to make herself feel better, look better, and justify her existence as something worthy. If you have to second-guess about your friendship, then it probably isn't a mutual friendship.

[greenana]

Indeed, your friend sounds so shallow. I don't even want to be friend with girls like that. I already feel bad for myself once in a while, I don't need a friend like that to make my life feel worse. You don't need a friend like that in your life. If your friend cannot stop lying then you better stop being friends with her.

[<3 Kim]

I used to have a "friend" like that until one day I got fed up and just call her out on her B.S. I got to the point where I didn't want to hear her "awesome" life with these so-called guys and her perfect fashion career and trendy designer bags, clothes. There's a difference between telling your friend about what's going on in your life and taking it to the level where every conversation with them is centered AROUND them. Does she ever ask you about your life? If the answer is hardly or no, then that's not a friend. She's just using you to make herself feel better, look better, and justify her existence as something worthy. If you have to second-guess about your friendship, then it probably isn't a mutual friendship.

^ Agree

I knew someone like that and it got so god damn annoying. Could not stand talking to her because everything was about her and her boyfriend. Even before that she used to like literally 10 guys at the same time and all she talked about were those guys, spazzing about them, thinking they liked her etc which none of us didn't care about. Everything had to be about her, she would diss her friends online and constantly rant about us. We all ended up ditching her, which she apparently went all depressed about but we didn't care anyway

[myherox3]

superficial =/= bad friend!

I used to have a "friend" like that until one day I got fed up and just call her out on her B.S. I got to the point where I didn't want to hear her "awesome" life with these so-called guys and her perfect fashion career and trendy designer bags, clothes. There's a difference between telling your friend about what's going on in your life and taking it to the level where every conversation with them is centered AROUND them. Does she ever ask you about your life? If the answer is hardly or no, then that's not a friend. She's just using you to make herself feel better, look better, and justify her existence as something worthy. If you have to second-guess about your friendship, then it probably isn't a mutual friendship.

Your ex-friend was more self-centered than superficial, imo.

[joie.de.vivre]

actually, now that i think about it,
i don't really care whether they are shallow as long as they are a good friend and person. most people just come and go anyway.

the girl sounds more insecure with herself rather than superficial. i would be there for her actually..

[naoto]

Keep them. Use people in your life. Don't think it's wrong, everybody does this. The world is cruel and any connections help when finding jobs, getting event ticket... keep them.

[B L o T T - ii]

i reckon ur friend is insecure

anyways, i always try to be nice to everyone. if u don't particularly like this friend, just don't be as close to her, but don't be enemies either (unless u really have to)

as for ur better friends who u don't contact often, GET INTO CONTACT WITH 'EM! XD keke.