[piaoyi]

thank you

problem solved

please delete

[hobobear]

some guys are really unaware of what they do..
they might not initiate the conversation very often, but they never really realize that they don't.
they might of not hung out with you in a while, but wants to.
experienced all this jazz with my friend. and he only realized his doings after i pointed them out to him.

i think if you have a problem with the way your bf is acting, just point it out to him. don't start to go bazerk and complain and whine or else he may get annoyed.

and also, your bf doesnt say "i miss you " to you is probably because you live with him... and what's so wrong with your bf telling that college girl that you two are going out? o_o

and maybe your bf is starting to hang out more with the guys is because you're usually around him in the house and all, and he just needs some air and to hang with the boys.

[peppermintsugar]

So my bf of 13 months (who lives with me and other housemates) has been really confusing me for the past week. Confusing as in we're still together, but it doesn't feel like it most of the time. And I do not want to break up with him, I want to make this work. So please share some advice or comments.

Things that he has been doing lately:
-rarely initiates a conversation with me. usually i go talk to him first and he responds back briefly like he doesn't want to talk to me.
-when we do hang out, he usually invites our mutual friends.
-but he does care about me. if i haven't eaten yet, he will either take me out to eat or cook me something.
-he chats with his overseas friend (which is a girl everyday online) and says that he misses her, but has never said he misses me. however, he has known her longer than me....but still i'm a bit jealous.
-some random girl in 1 of our college class was just chatting with him and asked if we were going out, and he said yes.
-he's been mostly hanging out with his guy friends playing basketball and working out

Anyways is he losing interest in me? or am I over thinking this whole thing? And I've tried talking to him before saying that he seems different and always seems to avoid being with me. But he just denies it.

Well, if you live together, it would be kind of difficult for him to miss you. I certainly never expect my boyfriend to miss me since we live together.
And, maybe there's some sort of typo you over looked, but I don't see why it would be upsetting to you that when a girl asked if you and he were dating, he said yes. He's admitting to her that he has a girlfriend already >.> Why is that bad?

I don't think you should be worrying too much. None of these things seem that outlandish. Sometimes boys just sorta "forget" about important girlfriend things. For instance, lately, my boyfriend has been pretty upset about the fact that he hasn't been able to hang out with his friends (one of them being an ex of mine that I don't particularly like -- long story haha) and play Street Fighter. All my boyfriend wants in the world is me, and to be able to play Street Fighter. Not asking much at all, but sometimes when he doesn't get to for a while, he gets kind of moody and irritable and distant in general. Like, he'll play online for hours and hours without even saying a word to me. I really started to think he was getting bored of me, or was just tired of me or the relationship. . .

Tonight, he played for a little bit, and then took me out for a really nice dinner at Chili's. Just a random date out of the blue. Told me not to get dressed up or put make-up on because I look too beautiful as is. It was really thoughtful.

Point of all of this is: Sometimes they can forget, but when they do remember, and realize what they've been doing, they do try to make up for it. I'd say just give it some time. Maybe something is stressing him out with school or whatever and it's taking his attention away a bit. It really doesn't sound like he just doesn't like you anymore.

[Nana544]

It's not that your bf is getting tired of you. He wants time to hang out with his buddies too. I think you over analyze it too much. If you're still bother by it then confront him about it. It seems the situation makes you sad, tell him this too. Have a deep conversation with him.

[piaoyi]

Oh I didn't mean him telling that girl we're dating is a bad thing, I was just trying to show an example that he considers us as bf/gf...but just doesn't treat me like his gf. :/

but isn't it a sign when it seems like he doesn't really have anything to talk to me?

[peppermintsugar]

^^ If you live together, then not really. My boyfriend and I have lived together through our entire relationship (going on nine months now), and we love each other very dearly, but honestly, sometimes we just don't have much to say to one another. I mean, we experience pretty much everything together already, so there isn't that much to discuss, haha. I'm sure he isn't that interested in all the posts I'm making on here, or what I'm doing in Ragnarok Online, and he doesn't have much to tell me about him playing SFIV online, since I'm watching him do it right now. . .you see what I'm saying?

I can see why you would be worried, and how at first it might seem very strange, but it just takes some getting used to.