[WatermelonTears]

So I've been dating the same boy for over a year. Last year he was senior and I was a junior. So now he is in college and working, while I am still in High School. I have after school sports, so I rarely see my bf and even talkign has become a struggle.

Yes, I know a lot of couples do long-distance and are fine. But I find myself becoming depressed and bored without him.

In the last few weeks I guess I've started becoming interested in another guy in one of my classes. We're partners in First Aid of all classes. So yeah i've touched/held his hand and other innocent silly things for class. And it was like yeah whatever, you're cool, we're stuck in this class together. But now I think I have one of those stupid crushes on him, and I'm really confused on what to do.

My boyfriend has become more and more negative towardshow our relationship is going and is less motivated to work on it with me, so I gues syou could sya im becoming less itnerested as well.

I'm torn between what I should do. I've only told one of my real-life friends about me liking this other guy. I'm afriad of being judged.

I';m not a slut. I would never cheat on my boyfriend... It's just I don't l know if its really "over." me and my boyfriend used to be inseperatable. best friends. and now its falling apart; depressingly slowing. And i dont know if it can be repaired or if its time to let him go... It's so sad and yet, i dont know.

[flyxme.]

soompiers cant tell you to leave or stay with your boyfriend
but think about what you want, who do you want to be with?
talk to your boyfriend about the relationship going down hill
ask him how he feels. whatever happens, dont cling onto the past.

if it were me, i'd talk it out with him
if it turns out he's lost all feelings
then i would move on and see how it goes with the new crush : )

i know its probably not an easy thing to do, but its possible.

[b.changg]

Mm.
Looks like quite a struggle you have there.
I'm not sure what i would do in your situation ,
long-distance relationships can only go so far
unless determined, right ?
Maybe you should confront your boyfriend, and talk to him
about these things .

Lack of communication between each other, and such .
o wo .

[damyoungji]

If your friend is trustworthy and knows the situation you are in, I am sure he/she will not think you are a tramp - that is, if she is a true friend. You haven't done anything with your crush and people's feelings can change easily if things aren't currently going well between them and the person they are currently with. I wouldn't think you are some desperate person who wants to cling onto someone for the sake of being a relationship =)

You should definitely talk to your boyfriend about this. If what you wrote is true, it seems like the feelings you both used to have for each other are fading. Whatever happens to the two of you.. should be decided by you both. Just make sure that when you talk to him about it, don't make it sound like it is his fault that everything seems to be going wrong these days. Just listen to each other and see if there is any way of improving your relationship (if that is what both of you want).

If you do decide to move on, let time to decide on what to do with your crush. Get to know him better and the such first =)

[WatermelonTears]

thanks guys
im tlkaing to him about it... and he just seems like i dont know. we both think we're distant, and its like i cant change i have shcool and he has school and work. it just is. and its hurting both of us...

[wenwen]

The problem with this kind of situation is that somewhere along any relationship, you'll have to deal with some sort of separation. eg working overseas, studying overseas etc. you can't break off a relationship just because you get bored from the separation. If that's the case then nothing will save the relationship.

Besides this is a common thing people go through especially since most girls date boys older than them so the boys tend to work earlier.

[dramaprincessxox]

If your boyfriend is not even interested in working on your relationship (which is essential if you're going to be doing this long-distance thing) then don't waste time. Break up with him. Not because you like someone else, but because that relationship is over. Whether you like someone else or not is immaterial, I get the feeling that you should have left him quite a while ago. Life is short, don't waste it on someone who doesn't love you anymore.

[Shaneira]

sort of understand how you feel. i think i NEARLY went through a situation like that, but because i (and my closest friends) always reminded myself how much my bf's working hard to make our relationship work and how much he cherishes me, it sort of always brought me back. by the way, i'm from europe and my bf's from korea so it's pretty challenging.
i guess you have to know your limits. if it's being too hard on you and if you know that you aren't capable of holding on to your relationship anymore and you might just both get hurt in the end, then maybe it's better to let go...

[,astrolicious]

I kind of went through said situation
And instead of trying to save our relationship
I used him as an excuse to pull myself away.
And in the end, nothing happened between us either.

So you have to consider what YOU truly want.
Like, don't factor in other people. Just think about you and your bf.

You can't save anything if you don't try right.
But if you really don't want to/don't think you can continue,
then I guess you should know what to do

[bonjour tristesse.]

It's funny because I'm in the exact situation as you are. My boyfriend is away and I'm still stuck in highschool. But think about how much you and your boyfriend has been through already. You guys have been together for a year now .. Would you be willing to let go of that relationship just because of a guy that you recently got to know?

[kkking]

similar thing happen to me...
my story is the same as yours just without the likeing another guy.
i think is time to break up..
that's what i did and i m not bored and depress thinking my bf is not with me
make the wise choice... you'll be happier
good luckk

[HaplessChild]

So I've been dating the same boy for over a year. Last year he was senior and I was a junior. So now he is in college and working, while I am still in High School. I have after school sports, so I rarely see my bf and even talkign has become a struggle.

Yes, I know a lot of couples do long-distance and are fine. But I find myself becoming depressed and bored without him.

In the last few weeks I guess I've started becoming interested in another guy in one of my classes. We're partners in First Aid of all classes. So yeah i've touched/held his hand and other innocent silly things for class. And it was like yeah whatever, you're cool, we're stuck in this class together. But now I think I have one of those stupid crushes on him, and I'm really confused on what to do.

My boyfriend has become more and more negative towardshow our relationship is going and is less motivated to work on it with me, so I gues syou could sya im becoming less itnerested as well.

I'm torn between what I should do. I've only told one of my real-life friends about me liking this other guy. I'm afriad of being judged.

I';m not a slut. I would never cheat on my boyfriend... It's just I don't l know if its really "over." me and my boyfriend used to be inseperatable. best friends. and now its falling apart; depressingly slowing. And i dont know if it can be repaired or if its time to let him go... It's so sad and yet, i dont know.

Be careful not to let your interest in the other guy affect your feelings for your BF.