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Going separate ways. Did it ever lead you to attempting suicide?

#1 User is offline   kangxbyul 

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 07:03 PM

For those of you who have experienced traumatizing and heartbreaking break ups:
How far have you ruined yourself? I know it's a very straight forward question but that's what happens, right?
Well, honestly, I don't understand how someone could be with their significant other for years and with all those memories, experiences, and love, and leave a few teardrops behind and move on so quickly in the matter of weeks. If you truly loved that person and were loved back and that person really was all you had, how are you able to do that?
Anyway, back to my question.. Have any of you guys ever thought that suicide was the only way because without that person, you felt you were nothing? And if so, how did you recover from it and how are you doing now?

It's just a scary fact to know that love could change.. even the most unimaginably beautiful love.
And it's scary that that person could be with another person after breaking up and share the same kind of love.
Does it make sense? I hope I'm not the only one who thinks this is complicated.
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#2 User is offline   Mr. Chan 

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 07:10 PM

I never went as far as to want to commit suicide over a relationship. In fact, if someone were to die. I hope it would be my Ex.
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#3 User is offline   kangxbyul 

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 07:24 PM

^ Oh =/ Well, sorry to hear that it didn't end well.
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#4 User is offline   XangelXtranX 

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 07:46 PM

Mr. Chan is upset.
I don't want to regret after I die so meh.
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Posted 05 October 2009 - 07:49 PM

Maybe not that far, just cried myself to sleep for a couple days. Pain =/
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#6 User is offline   Mr. Chan 

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Posted 05 October 2009 - 08:04 PM

QUOTE (XangelXtranX @ Oct 5 2009, 08:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mr. Chan is upset.
I don't want to regret after I die so meh.


Damn right I'm upset. Before, I wouldn't really care so much. But today my ex managed to piss me off.
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Posted 05 October 2009 - 09:32 PM

I had a similar situation, but it wasn't JUST a break-up that led to those thoughts/feelings, it was multiple things all piled into the same month, lol.
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Posted 05 October 2009 - 11:58 PM

lolz@Mr.Chan; she PMS'd all over you didn't she?


uh, no.
i told my bf i would never die for him O_O
i'd cry my river and then move on,
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 06:28 AM

QUOTE (taebins_luver @ Oct 6 2009, 12:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
lolz@Mr.Chan; she PMS'd all over you didn't she?


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Posted 06 October 2009 - 06:30 AM

No. I knew that he changed me but as a grown person and changed beliefs. As for suicide .. It was hurtful, painful .. To this day everytime a close friend talks about him and his current girlfriend I feel sly and just leaves the conversation but it never got to a point where I was willing to sacrifice my life for him because he left me.
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 01:45 PM

Not me, but my boyfriend. It really scared me... he took a ton of sleeping pills and drank a bottle of Soju (I think?) and passed out on my back porch. He was even cutting himself all over his arm, at least 20-30 times, and the scars are still partially there. We're okay now, but I hate thinking back to that night... actually I was kinda making fun of him the next morning because he had a hangover and wouldn't stop complaining about it. tongue.gif
I don't have the guts to even attempt it, in case I failed and end up laying there suffering.... o_o
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 01:50 PM

^^ wow.

I would never consider suicide for an ex. I'd do what taebins_luver said smile.gif try to move on.
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 03:09 PM

^ Same. And even if you attempt to commit suicide, what for? It's not like it'll do anything.
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 04:02 PM

not to the extent of suicide O_O"
but i would start the waterworks everytime a person mentioned his name during the week we broke up
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 07:17 PM

I don't think its worth it to suicide over someone you dated, even though you "loved them"
takes time to move on.
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Posted 06 October 2009 - 07:34 PM

I'd be sad over the break up but never to the point of thinking about suicide. Even if you did do that, what good is that going to do? It's not the end of the world, life goes on. Like the quote goes, one mans trash is another mans treasure.
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Posted 07 October 2009 - 08:06 PM

Well.. some of you are saying what good would suicide do but if you and that loved one another so deeply and sincerely but the other person decides to leave, wouldn't you want to show proof of how much you loved that person and how much you were ruined by that person leaving? It's not a sense of revenge but... I guess just letting that person know how much in pain you are? If that person once loved you more than themself, it would make them feel something. I don't know if this is making sense to anyone but yeah, it's kind of the result of thinking too much. Hah.
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Posted 07 October 2009 - 08:47 PM

ive thought of hurting myself
and i believed that i was physically able to live but not fully live and be my total self for a long long time. =/

but we didnt break up. we were close to doing that.
but there were multiple events that lead me to think those thoughts.

i guess i have thought of suiciding for like 2 seconds.
the only way i can explain what its like to be so close to death is that...its just so easy and its almost relieving because at some point you just don't care anymore..about anything.
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Posted 07 October 2009 - 08:54 PM

Suicide never crossed my mind. Doing something stupid like running back and trying to get back together crossed my mind though.
I DID feel like I died a little on the inside though. To me that feels worse than physical death. Committing suicide would have been the easy way out, but instead I had to go through all that pain and emotional death.
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Posted 07 October 2009 - 08:56 PM

QUOTE (danielluv @ Oct 7 2009, 09:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Suicide never crossed my mind. Doing something stupid like running back and trying to get back together crossed my mind though.
I DID feel like I died a little on the inside though. To me that feels worse than physical death. Committing suicide would have been the easy way out, but instead I had to go through all that pain and emotional death.

this was definitely what i felt at first.
i felt that half of me was just ripped away.
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