[Ramie.v]

What do you guys think?

I have a lot of gay friends so I just thought this guy was being offensive.

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*What are you doing?
:| �����������rvee���� says:
*Ummm
*Ventrilo, msn, and facebook
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*wow you have ventrilo?
*That's pretty gay
:| �����������rvee���� says:
*Since grade 5
*How is it gay?
*You think everything you don't do is gay
*So talking to my cousins in cali is gay?
*ok cool
*Guess I'm pretty gay then.
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*pretty lol
*wow...why are you like this now?
:| �����������rvee���� says:
*Like what?
*lol
*Well I'm just saying, you use "gay" as an insult often so, you must be homophobic.

I know I sounded like a real a-hole but I've been ignoring it for really long, but he just pushed me over the edge for using the word gay so loosely.

[Photogeek]

Honestly I use that word but its not like I want to insult people who like individuals of their own sex. It just comes out and I dont realize it until after I say it. I guess its a bad habbit, but If i think about it... It is insulting. Im trying to stop that habit because it doesnt even make sense when you use it to say something sucks and it's insulting to other people. I dont want to be a vulgar person, and I dont want to offend anyone.

[YoMi~]

It's really common I suppose, I kinda grew out of it. I use kool-aidgot instead

Edit: wow.. the word begins with a F and ends with a T (6 letter word, same meaning)

[bonbons]

I don't use the word "gay" as an insult. I dislike it when people say it as well.
and I cringe when I see people type it online, or call someone a "f a g" when they're joking. I don't think it's a thing to be joking with. seriously make me think lower of those who do write it.

[woahcrlo]

its a sensitive topic for most . my friends use it a lot , and i disagree with it , but i don't say anything as i don't want it to be a topic when talking to them . i used to say it but now i don't .

[kaypop.]

i used to say stuff like "that's gay". but now i don't.
i stopped after a cousin of mine (who came out of the closet not too long ago)
told me he didn't like it when ppl use that term that way... so yeah, i stopped...
i mean, it's not like i was trying to be malicious when i used to use it, but yeah, it's pretty ignorant...
it's not hard to use other --more appropriate-- words to describe things.

[EHNerJI]

used to say it a lot in middle school.
cut it out of my vocabulary after having a very strict teacher
(would get mad if we said anything the least bit offensive)
recently replaced with 'lame' since sometimes i would have the urge.

btw, ventrilo is sooo not gay lawl.

[dancingbymyself]

Since most of the gay people I know USE gay as an insult/
I'm pretty sure it's fine.
Unless it's like black people saying the n-word.

[joxxy]

I don't use it, because I think it's derogatory.
But a LOT of my friends do and I used to try to stop them from doing so, but I don't want to force my opinions onto others.
And almost none of my gay friends actually mind because it's become so common (sad, I know) so yeah..

[WeezyEffBaby]

I'm not homophobic but...

[peppermintsugar]

I have never met anyone, including many gay friends, who were insulted by people using "gay" in a derogatory fashion.
I think people are overly sensitive.

[WeezyEffBaby]

I have never met anyone, including many gay friends, who were insulted by people using "gay" in a derogatory fashion.
I think people are overly sensitive.

Naw, they're just pissed off. If I came to your house every Tuesday and punched you in the face while yelling "YOU'RE SO GAY, GAYBO! WITH YOUR GAY HOUSE AND YOUR GAY CAT AND LOOK YOU GO T YOUR GAY BLOOD ALL OVER MY KNUCKLES!"

Then you'd eventual be pretty pissed off with people calling things gay (as a substitute for stupid) and also Tuesdays. But that'd be a bonus

[IwishIwasKOREAN]

Leave Jay Park alone!

[MaliciousKid]

I have never met anyone, including many gay friends, who were insulted by people using "gay" in a derogatory fashion.
I think people are overly sensitive.

I agree with you. My best friend is gay & he and several other homosexual people I know say it WAYYYY more than I do. I really don't think most people or gay people in general care really.

[winteryskys]

I have never met anyone, including many gay friends, who were insulted by people using "gay" in a derogatory fashion.
I think people are overly sensitive.

Same. Me and my friends use it all the time. It's just another slang word for 'stupid/lame/etc'.

Naw, they're just pissed off. If I came to your house every Tuesday and punched you in the face while yelling "YOU'RE SO GAY, GAYBO! WITH YOUR GAY HOUSE AND YOUR GAY CAT AND LOOK YOU GO T YOUR GAY BLOOD ALL OVER MY KNUCKLES!"

Then you'd eventual be pretty pissed off with people calling things gay (as a substitute for stupid) and also Tuesdays. But that'd be a bonus

I think i'd be more annoyed about you coming to my house and punching me in the face..

[WeezyEffBaby]

Same. Me and my friends use it all the time. It's just another slang word for 'stupid/lame/etc'.



I think i'd be more annoyed about you coming to my house and punching me in the face..

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[jaekyung03]

I use it all the time. I don't have any gay friends but I said it in front of someone gay in high school. He didn't mind. The next day or sometime during that week I heard him talking to his friend, "haha that's so gay, just throw that garbage out." I'm not sure what they were talking about but I was glad to see someone not so sensitive about that word.
The weird thing is, when I was in my dorm, my roommate, who isn't gay, got a bit irritated when I used the word. He told me he has a few gay friends and that it kinda bothers him when I use it because it seems offensive to them. I still use it though lol

[peppermintsugar]

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I don't think he missed the point, I think he's saying that your point is stupid.

[WeezyEffBaby]

I don't think he missed the point, I think he's saying that your point is stupid.

And how is that? Gay people and people who are offended by the use of the term gay as a substitute for stupid aren't sensitive. They are mad because of all these negative confrontations associated with it during everyday speech.

Much like if I punched you in the face and called you gay every tuesday. Your brain would connect the word "gay" with being punched in the face on tuesdays. It's called negative reinforcement.

Much like people who are offended by the word's brain connects it with negative undesirable and stupid behaviour. Thus causing the original insult in the first place.

The theory that they are sensitive is wrong, they are just angry. So I doubt that he meant my point was stupid, if he'd got it.

[sweet lil j]

hate it, hate it, hate it.
when you use the term "that's so gay" you're using someone's identity as an insult.

And don't give me that "omg, people are so sensitive" bull.
How would you like it if the majority of people started using a part of your identity as an adjective to describe something repulsive? Exactly.