[winksassy]

we are texting, then he open up about our relationship. that "he is sorry that he is inconsistent in courting me and he is going to be consistent from now on. I'm really serious to you"
i thought he is just busy working that is why he don't have time, but to be sure i ask him "why are u inconsistent?" then he told me that

"he like someone, he thought it is love...but its not. sorry"
i ask him "since when and what happened?"
he said "lately, but we've decided that we're better off as friend..no complications. no nothing."
i reply " ok, so when u are courting me and going out. you are also courting her?"
he said " i did not court her, i like her before. then i thought at some point i'm in love w/her, but its not"

i did not reply "I'm just speechless"

then he text me again "are you angry? sorry. I'm ready for the consequences. I'd end up loveless. maybe I'm not prepared for a serious relationship, I'm very immature, easily jealous and really don't know what i want"

i still did not reply.


girls- what are u going to do if u are in my shoes?

guy- what does he mean and want when he told me the truth or the half truth of it?
do u think he is serious to me bec. he told me the truth or half truth of it?
should i stop seeing him since i notice that he is not a one word man.


i like him but I'm disappointed. i appreciate that he told me those things.

[mintcracker]

Dude....you weren't in a relationship with him. He was what 'courting' you? I'm guessing casually dating?
Don't feel betrayed, there's nothing to be sad about.

I thought he feel for the girl while being with you lol.
You didn't make it official with him so why does he have to only go with you? He is free to like whoever he likes.

[winksassy]

^^ i know, but i cant help to feel betrayed when he told me he love me. but loves another girl too

[muffinx3]

Give it some time. Think about what you really want.
Yeah, he liked another girl while he was courting you, but he was just courting you... He wasn't in a relationship with you yet.
If you decide that you want to be with him, then good for you.
But if you decide that he's not worth it, then just forget about him.

Simple as that.

[mintcracker]

^ don't believe everything a guy says. If a guy says they love you, take it with a hugeeee grain of salt.
Ie see his actions, words mean nothing without actions. Doubt he loves you lol. It's infatuation at best.

[peppermintsugar]

^ don't believe everything a guy says. If a guy says they love you, take it with a hugeeee grain of salt.
Ie see his actions, words mean nothing without actions. Doubt he loves you lol. It's infatuation at best.

This is a good post.
If he says he loves you, but the things he does show otherwise, what is that telling you?

[jaeka]

Courting, lol. Don't old people say that? Over here they do.

If he's being inconsistent as you put it, then he obviously isn't serious about you. If he's flaky enough to like another girl whilst 'courting' you then, yeah, definitely not serious. Morale of the story, the guy is definitely immature and not ready for a relationship. I hate to be like "DUMP HIM HE'S A JERK" as I usually think that's not always the answer, so I suggest sitting down and talking with him, on a mature level (not over text, please.) and seeing what you guys can come to.

All the best

[taebins_luver]

ouch, that burned.


best advice: get over him

[hannieoon]

Ouch. That's never fun to hear that. I heard that from someone I was too good for (I'm just being honest, not vain or arrogant) and that was kind of the last straw for me and dating. Anyways... the point is... we were at the first stage of dating... testing out the waters so I didn't really care much because I wasn't emotionally involved just yet. I guess it's just a precaution to not fall head over heels for someone in the beginning because things may not work out. So maybe you should take the same approach.

[kg123]

At least it seems that he told you the truth? If you really love him..maybe you could give him another chance? But if its all mini cooper and he actually did things with this other girl..then you should break up..I'd do that if I were you..

[plegend2007]

You and that boy of yours both seem very young, so I will put it like this.....

At his age, he has no idea or clue about "LOVE", so don't take his words to heart. At his age, he is all hormones and his mind about girls and love is all diluted by what he sees and hears from his friends, TV, and other unreliable sources.

Honestly, don't even mind what he says about love because more than half of the times, he either don't know or he is just confused. So in other words, he has no idea what he is talking about.

You may be hurting right now, but later on in your life, you'll look back at this and laugh, so cheer up! You'll get over this.

[winksassy]

thanks for the advice, i already told him and talk to him that we are much better off as friends
should i give him a chance?

At least it seems that he told you the truth? If you really love him..maybe you could give him another chance? But if its all mini cooper and he actually did things with this other girl..then you should break up..I'd do that if I were you..

what is mini cooper mean in soompi?

[jaeka]

thanks for the advice, i already told him and talk to him that we are much better off as friends
should i give him a chance?




what is mini cooper mean in soompi?

sh!t

[Mannosuke]

i already told him and talk to him that we are much better off as friends
should i give him a chance?

I'd hate to pick up the phone and hear someone that rejected me a day or two ago telling me she'll go for a test drive.

[winksassy]

okay.. i get it. thanks

[Shaneira]

"are you angry? sorry. I'm ready for the consequences. I'd end up loveless. maybe I'm not prepared for a serious relationship, I'm very immature, easily jealous and really don't know what i want"

seriously?
okay, if this happened to me, my reply to the text above would be "Okay."
after that i'd try to end everything as soon as possible.