[terrorist]

I knew this girl all my life. ever since we were toddlers.
i liked her over 10 years.

but during that time i haven't said much.... our longest conversation was a mere 5-10 minutes.

I'm 21 now, i still think about her.. and i still like her
but i still do not plan to talk to her.. or be with her so much.

because i think she's too good for me and deserves a lot better than what i can provide for her. as a friend/bf/husband.. whatever we become

Do you have any similar situations?
and am I stupid for doing this to myself?

edit -
In a sense it's Romeo and Juliet situation without the romance.

[Shuga]

._. Wow. Maybe I'm a narciss but I've never felt this. I know that nobody's perfect and if I seem to 'click' with someone and fit their mould, I'm neither 'good enough' or 'not good enough'... It just is... and it's 'perfect' in that way.

I think you should talk to her again. Get to know her. There's no point liking someone when you haven't interacted with them enough to decide that.

[taebins_luver]

you'll never know unless you try my friend.
and how do you know she's too good for you?
i think that's the problem with everyone, someone's always too good for someone.

and if you're not planning on getting with her,
why are you asking?
you want advice on how to get over her or something?

[x-rays-r-b-yu-t-ful]

funky. we're almost the same.

"it wasn't love. if it was love, i would never have told you. have had never had become friends. or had been anywhere in your life. "

it's not so much "you're so much better than me, i don't deserve you." for me,
it's just "i suck so much as a person/lover/being, let me show my love by not existing in your world. but since that's not possible now, i hope by disappearing from your life for the past year you'll forget about me. as i spend every waking day thinking of you."

but still.. >_>' there's some serious self-esteem issues in here...

ah. btw. do you like the Radiohead song, Creep? :D

[fiveplusohplusone_1]

yes. one too many times >_<

[kg123]

If you dont have the courage to give a shot then stop whining.You are the only one to blame anyway.
Feel that she deserves something better? dont give me that k-drama mini cooper..she is the only one who knows what suits her better, it may be you or not..but thats how life is, and also you can always try to improve yourself. Give it a try or else you'll regret spend your life thinking 'what if..'

[xjuiiccy]

If you dont have the courage to give a shot then stop whining.You are the only one to blame anyway.
Feel that she deserves something better? dont give me that k-drama mini cooper..she is the only one who knows what suits her better, it may be you or not..but thats how life is, and also you can always try to improve yourself. Give it a try or else you'll regret spend your life thinking 'what if..'

Exactly what I was thinking ^^

In a sense, you're being really selfish in thinking you know what's best for her . If she doesn't like you, then she'll reject you, herself . She doesn't need you to reject yourself for her . I have a friend like you, who broke up with the love of his life because he thinks she deserves better . Like the person before me said, your life is not a Korean drama . Nobody is going to feel sorry for your own cowardly decisions .

[XangelXtranX]

I always think that I afraid to talk to the person i like because i think that theyre too good for me !
lol life sux eh (: take the chance you know if you two really click its not the material stuffs that she need.

[Hakiri]

I know how you feel ;__;
But, our judgement is sometimes skewed. You never know, she might feel the same way about you, perhaps think sometimes "hey, that guy.. I've known him for 10 years.. I wish he would talk to me.."
Don't let things be as they are, or you'll live life with regrets like this.
I moved on from feeling this way, and now I just put myself out there and try to talk to everyone, including those I like (even if I know they won't feel the same way) - It's nicer to have their company than to not have them at all, you know? ^^

[lilian21]

You don't know if she's too good for you until you try. Maybe she feels the same way about you, and is just waiting for you to take the first step. However, on a more practical side, having a crush on someone is sometimes more fun than actually BEING with them. I liked someone since the first time I met him, and never said anything about it until he was the first one to say he liked me. But then things went downhill from there, and he ended up being the person who hurt me the most, and left a huge dent in my trust for other people. I think that my life would've been a lot simpler and more naive if we had just left things unsaid...

[Miyurin]

How in the world is it like Romeo and Juliet?

[5.mystline]

10 years? and nothing has happened. I think It's time to get over her buddy, you're just wasting time.

[Shaneira]

so you seriously liked her for 10 years now?!?! first of all...that's just cute...>.<
give it a shot. you might get hurt, but TRUST ME you'll regret it if you don't at least try.

[Liandon]

I never think like that.
Is that odd?
If I really like someone for a long time, I try to stop liking them if it's hurting way too much.
Not because I thnk that he is too good for me.
If everybody is "equal", then why think like that?

[sodopeboyfresh]

yes... one of my friends I'm really close to right now, I like her but...
all my friends and so many other guys have tried asking her out and she's turned them all down so... :X

[whatismyname]

wow.......what you can provide for her? well youre wanting to be her boyfriend.....not husband. it would be nice to get to know her better. asking for her online sn would be a good way to start.

but eventually in time, both persons will have mutual feelings towards each other.




and personally......as a woman i would want to find a man who i think is the better half of the relationship. actually, i dont even consciously think about it, but yes, i want a man who makes more money than me, taller than me, and smarter than me. hm i dont think this question applies to me. haha.