[foxytoe]

it's deleted now.....it's deleted now.....it's deleted now.....it's deleted now.....

[junsujunsu]

actually no, I didn't read.....


okay, now i read....uhm, you obviously fit more with the pinkberryy, selfish annoying type of people more, so why don't you try to make more of those friends? And you can't write female dog-y like that because you would be warned for going pass the swear filter, even if it was a freaking typo, that's how gay soompi is.

[muffinx3]

Wait. You're only second year, which I'm assuming you mean undergrad. second year.
You should be taking other classes beside your engineering courses, right? Such as general ed. type classes? Where you should be able to meet people that aren't, I guess, EE fobs/divided race groups. o____o;;

And why are you dating a girl that you can't even communicate with?

[chiho]

I kinda feel like you in a few ways (not w/ the scandal of course). But i just feels like i don't really fit and i hardly have anyone to talk to. Talking to ppl i know doesn't seem to help @ all so ya...And engineering is ya.. really busy -.-"

If you need someone, we can talk it out? 0.0"
just for an interest--> which university/ college do you go to?

& @ muffin:
for my school, engineering has a list of pre-set courses so basically you see the same people for practically every class (kinda like elementary school). Until.. the third year (and those are engineering electives)

[zazinteractive]

What school do you go to?

[pinkxlilies]

I don't know you well enough to say this with authority...but (I'll say it anyway:P) I don't think you should be dating someone you can't even communicate your feelings/troubles with! How "deep" of a relationship with someone can you have when you feel more comfortable sharing your intimate feelings to a forum of strangers than your gf?!

I can kind of relate to you...or at least the part where you're not making friends at uni even though it's supposed to be where "you make your life-long friends!" as I've heard from ppl too. The most fun I have is hanging with my high school friends and frankly, I'm okay with that. The most fun they have is hanging out with each other too! But it only makes sense if you think about it...I mean these are the people you grew up with and have a million inside jokes with.

[mintcracker]

I know what you mean about the communication issues. I think you really really need to meet some people that are whitewashed too, bc I don't think this relationship will go well if you feel you can't express yourself. I've dated a fob. Omg
let's not get started.

[autumnHearts]

You should definitely try talking to your girlfriend about your concern with having friends. It's important to be able to talk when you're in a relationship. You're supposed to be best friends, being able to share anything and everything with them. And since you feel awkward talking in your mother-tongue, ask her to be patient with you and try to understand that this is important to you.

And if you can't intermingle with her friends, it makes it more difficult to stay in a relationship, in my personal opinion. When you're with someone, their life coincides with yours. And that maybe another reason why you purposely sought out the girl from high school. Even though she did you wrong, she still connected with you.

Also, ask yourself what your purpose is going into a relationship. Not a lot of people really think about it. Are you in the relationship to stay and get married? Cause if you're not then are you in the relationship just to have fun? Or are you in the relationship cause you're lonely? I'm not saying to break up with her, I'm just saying where is the relationship going cause it's very unfair to you that it's difficult for you to communicate certain things and that your humor is different from her friends. That's one thing that I can't stand. If someone can't get my humor, it just doesn't work out for me cause I love to laugh and make others laugh.

Oh, and since you're doing studies right now, I personally don't believe that I'll find friends that'll last a life time there. I don't think anyone can really rely on that or where you can find friends that'll last cause it's ultimately the person's choice if they want to stay connected. My sister has friends from high school that she still talks to and she's 28, but my best friend from high school didn't even try contacting me after we graduated and I'm 20 now.

So, really, the closest friend is the friend you invest more time into and that friend equally invests time into you.

All I can really say about the friend thing is to join a club that you're interested in or if you have a belief, join a church/youthgroup, or invite someone to go to the gym with you and if you don't enjoy the field you're studying, maybe look into something that you'd be able to enjoy more. Heck, all my family is in the medical field and engineering, but I'm not partial to that stuff. I'm going to be an Illustrator. I'd rather be happy doing what I do best instead of wearing scrubs and working with mostly cranky people, haha.

I'm only speaking from personal experience. If you'd like to talk to more, definitely message me cause I'm very willing to sit back and read a rant or whatnot :b

[taebins_luver]

that's why i find it hard to date a FOB, because it's hard to get yourself across,
unlike someone who already understands your language.

i get why you went on that chase with the hooch from high school.
it's because she's more easier to get in tune with,
rather than trying to explain things out and make the convo weird.
i'd hate having to repeat the joke 4 times than explaining it piece by piece, it just KILLS it.

but i also think if you're going to continue with the relationship,
you should explain things to her and TRY to have her understand as well.
it's difficult, and i feel for you.

[Irony.]

I'll be your friend and you can share thoughts to me ? LOL (im not jking)

[HaplessChild]

I'll be your friend and you can share thoughts to me ? LOL (im not jking)

LOL, I second that.

I have one person that I see outside of my bf and that's because she's my roommate.

[foxytoe]

-zazinteractive
-chiho

I got to the university of waterloo, also known as the biggest Asian concentration camp- Oh the suffering!!!

I remember seeing your (Chiho) post in the waterloo thread, you are in system design if i'm not mistaken.. nice to meet you

-to everyone else

First of all, i would love to befriend you guys, although that would make you guy my first internet friends? ..maybe... so, i guess not everything is as intuitive (if that's the word i'm looking for).

So, really, the closest friend is the friend you invest more time into and that friend equally invests time into you.

All I can really say about the friend thing is to join a club that you're interested in or if you have a belief, join a church/youthgroup, or invite someone to go to the gym with you and if you don't enjoy the field you're studying, maybe look into something that you'd be able to enjoy more. Heck, all my family is in the medical field and engineering, but I'm not partial to that stuff. I'm going to be an Illustrator. I'd rather be happy doing what I do best instead of wearing scrubs and working with mostly cranky people, haha.

Thanks for the advice, but those are the strategies that I've given myself yet never worked out accordingly. First off, Waterloo is a weird university: maybe it's because there are too many conservative Asians, but I've noticed that the people here don't mix as well as other university (possibly due the extreme-FOBness), and that's the same within Asians (Chinese almost never contact Koreans and no other Asians exist period.. my view as an engineering student). I'm not saying Asians aren't hangable, it's just that usually it would involve a club such as "Chinese student association" or "Taiwanese student association", which is filled with, of course, extreme-FOBs. Secondly, I have joined club as a frosh last year. Since engineering is one of those ass wiping programming, i usually stayed in touch with only the people in my class in order to homework together. it's hard to go out at all because all they do is DOTA, video game, lame freaking jokes relate to DOTA that i don't find funny... -.- FML?

[lilmissii]

Seems like you haven't found your pot of gold.

Maybe it's your life style? I'm sure you would want something more exciting! Which explains that 'girl' that you like in HS. Although, I'm pretty sure that you already KNOW that she just wants you 'hooked' and that'll be all. Oddly, you're enjoying what you're getting into - but hey...maybe you need some form of 'refreshness.'

Life does get boring that's why you need a variety of things to do. If you want to get away from FOB-Central...do it. Because you're suppose to surround yourself with people like YOU - same goals, aspects, career-outlook, interests, likes & dislikes. BUUUTT...keep in mind that you want 'nice, caring, loving' people around you also...not just a bunch of people who are just 'in it' for the 'fun/benefits'.

The human mind is greed. We always want more. But, you will keep what makes you 'most happy & content'. That's why it all comes down to choices. [And what you did wasn't really scandalous, but I'm not saying that its ok. I'm sure that you wouldn't want to waste both yours & your girlfriends time on a 'loveless' relationship]

[StayFresh]

it's alright. it will be a loss cause if you really dont make friends in class especially engineering since it is your major? even if you dont find any interest, just communicate with them maybe you will find out something interesting. outside of class, they could be awesome people. you got nothing to lose. also, you will make friends no matter what, so dont think about it too much ^^

[ling_ling]

Hmmmm ~

what happened to your other friends? from high-school etc??

surely you have other modules? if your an undergrad student you should have other modules that have lectures that coincide with other courses??
if not then my best thought would be to join a society ~ even if you do have a lot of work and stuff ~ joing a club and society would only take a couple hours a week ~ and like prioritise your time in to a timetable to make time for making new frineds etc ~

I think ou just trying to make excuses and dont want to make an effort ~ I know how you feel ~ i hate having to make an effort thats why i hate dating because thts when you have to but you have to if you wanna be happy ini
so just do it !!!

[HaplessChild]

-zazinteractive
-chiho

I got to the university of waterloo, as known as the biggest Asian concentration camp- Oh the suffering!!!

I remember seeing your (Chiho) post in the waterloo thread, you are in system design if i'm not mistaken.. nice to meet you

-to everyone else

First of all, i would love to befriend you guys, although that would make you guy my first internet friends? ..maybe... so, i guess not everything is as intuitive (if that's the word i'm looking for).

I've had friends that I met on the internet that have become fairly good friends. Not to go out and hang out with obviously bec they're usually far away but there's nothing saying you couldn't meet local friends from the internet.

[xSoaPiE]

Maybe you should transfer schools o-o; You sound really miserable there.

[foxytoe]

Maybe you should transfer schools o-o; You sound really miserable there.

i am miserable to be quite frank, but it's already too late to back out.. my marks aren't high enough to transfer into another school; also, i'm from a poor family and $20k of schooling isn't easy to come by, which make dropping my program a terrible option. Beside, i couldn't leave my girlfriend either.

Hmmmm ~

what happened to your other friends? from high-school etc??

surely you have other modules? if your an undergrad student you should have other modules that have lectures that coincide with other courses??
if not then my best thought would be to join a society ~ even if you do have a lot of work and stuff ~ joing a club and society would only take a couple hours a week ~ and like prioritise your time in to a timetable to make time for making new frineds etc ~

I think ou just trying to make excuses and dont want to make an effort ~ I know how you feel ~ i hate having to make an effort thats why i hate dating because thts when you have to but you have to if you wanna be happy ini
so just do it !!!

oh jez, your name scared the crap out of me because the highschool girl from my story has a name of ling ling... i hope you are not her...

anyways, engineering has a lot of pre-reqs until the thrid year, which means i will see the same people for at least 3 years. Even then, my selectives are still only engineering related. All your suggestions and questions have already been answer in above posts. so i'm not going to bother write them again..

[conmigo61]

i'm a high school student...but i used to be like u too, like i'd just stay home on weekends, and isolate myself...but
life's short. (i say this cuz u never no wen ur going to die...just sayin)
live it up. being social's going to help u wen u get a job, and help u in every situation.
i think hanging out with fobs, is better than hanging out with no body.

and even wen u have friends..sometimes they don't understand ur stuggles.

[chiho]

that's why i find it hard to date a FOB, because it's hard to get yourself across,
unlike someone who already understands your language.

i get why you went on that chase with the hooch from high school.
it's because she's more easier to get in tune with,
rather than trying to explain things out and make the convo weird.
i'd hate having to repeat the joke 4 times than explaining it piece by piece, it just KILLS it.

but i also think if you're going to continue with the relationship,
you should explain things to her and TRY to have her understand as well.
it's difficult, and i feel for you.

but i am a FOB T.T"

-zazinteractive
-chiho

I got to the university of waterloo, also known as the biggest Asian concentration camp- Oh the suffering!!!

I remember seeing your (Chiho) post in the waterloo thread, you are in system design if i'm not mistaken.. nice to meet you

-to everyone else

First of all, i would love to befriend you guys, although that would make you guy my first internet friends? ..maybe... so, i guess not everything is as intuitive (if that's the word i'm looking for).



Thanks for the advice, but those are the strategies that I've given myself yet never worked out accordingly. First off, Waterloo is a weird university: maybe it's because there are too many conservative Asians, but I've noticed that the people here don't mix as well as other university (possibly due the extreme-FOBness), and that's the same within Asians (Chinese almost never contact Koreans and no other Asians exist period.. my view as an engineering student). I'm not saying Asians aren't hangable, it's just that usually it would involve a club such as "Chinese student association" or "Taiwanese student association", which is filled with, of course, extreme-FOBs. Secondly, I have joined club as a frosh last year. Since engineering is one of those ass wiping programming, i usually stayed in touch with only the people in my class in order to homework together. it's hard to go out at all because all they do is DOTA, video game, lame freaking jokes relate to DOTA that i don't find funny... -.- FML?

well you can find me, I am fine with that. What ethnic/race are you ? (Korean asian?)
and I disagree because everyone in my class are not Chinese/canto (I am the visible minority). I only see Koreans, mandos and other ppl that are not asians. No one can practically speak my language @ school or anywhere else.

And yes, if you ask, i can give you my email and meet as long as you don't ambush me lol.
Btw, I am not in loo this term but i will be next term and nice to meet you too.