[Milk--]

So basically I have this little cousin who's 13 years old. [I'm 17]
when I moved here out to the west coast, I didn't have any friends & my other cousins go to a different school. So me and my cousin who we'll call Apple would hang out. And we pretty much became close friends. I would tease her and sometimes jokingly tell her I'm going to punch her or beat her up while laughing and she'll laugh along & she's say the same thing too. And when she's close to something, I'll ask her to get it for me & she'll do it while laughing saying I'm lazy and all of that jokingly. And when we go out if I'm broke on money, I'll ask her to pay and when I get my allowance I'll pay her back and the same thing around if she didn't have any money.

I'm a little bit intimating by the way I look. And sometimes the way I look at people, they take it the wrong way. and I'll have to tell them that. And she knows that as well. When I also talk, I talk really loud and I don't even notice it. [I come from a really loud family]

So basically yesterday[sunday] she went out with her friends. And she loaned them some money which she told me. And when her mom and dad yelled at her for spending all of her money. Somehow my name got brought up, and she told them I've been taking her money and always spending it. Hitting her and always threatening her that I'm going to punch her and beat her up if she doesn't do what I want her to do. And that I always boss her around and make her do this and that. And also that she doesn't want to come to my grandma's house anymore [which is where I live] because she's scared of me. And because of what I might do to her. She told them that all while crying to them as well.

Her dad called my mom basically told my mom off saying to take care of your child better and tell her to behave. So my mom called me yelling at me. And asking me why I was doing this & it wasn't until I told my mom what fully happened that she believed me.

Now I'm super pissed off, because she basically told a whole lie about what I did which I didn't. And yeah I have a memory of a 80 year old and forget a lot of things. So I forget to pay her back sometimes and she forgets too. But the thing is that I don't even know what to do.

I've always been labeled from my family as the trouble maker and just this year. I've been able to get that label off of me and been called the good one & the one that helps out a lot. but now I have this to worry about. And her dad is very close to our first uncle. which sucks because he already hates me enough because of my dad.

I mean what do I do? My mom told me to call her dad up and tell him to come over so I can basically sit down with him and her and talk it out. I did and their coming tomorrow.

but the thing is that I feel that I've been betrayed by someone that I put all of my trust in and just getting stabbed like that.
My grandma, and my two other cousins are going to talk to them with me. Because they said that when me and her are always together we're always laughing and not being mean to each other.

UGHHH! basically my grandma said that because she's scared of her parents yelling at her she just switch the blame to me. Which seems like it.

help?
Sorry that it's so long, I just needed to let it out.

[KanyeWEST]

heres the solution: stop hanging out with 13 year olds.

[einna23]

Just remember to look straight in their eyes while telling them, be calm. Don't look away or else they will think you did hit her and stuff. Remember to control your volume or else they'll think your yelling at them.

If they don't believe you, at lease you have your grandma & cousins to back you up.

Plus if she's going to be like that you shouldn't hang out with her as she aint trust worthy. And tell them what she told you about lending the money to her friends.

[Swtess]

Just tell them your side of the story. Whether they choose to believe is their own decision. Nothing you can do. Have confidence since you know you did nothing wrong. Stay clear of the little kid since you know she isn't a trustworthy person anymore

[MangoStar]

The girl's 13, she has no concept of total honesty and maturity. So, I wouldn't hang out with her often. I love my cousin to death, but we don't hang like friends just because of the age thing. I'd talk to her dad and tell her the whole story.

[klassikm3]

heres the solution: stop hanging out with 13 year olds.

haha very true. I'd let them know what i think about this. if they don't believe me then its hopeless. i'd say sorry and you know how awkward its going to be now between you and your cousin.

[damyoungji]

13 year old, eh? Those are the years when we are the worst and insecure about ourselves.

I have a feeling she brought you up and fed her parents a bunch of lies as a way of distracting them from yelling at her. She was probably trying to cover herself up as she pretended to be innocent. In other words, since you're older, she is going to say that you influenced her to do stuff like that since you were "bullying" her.

Hopefully everything works out tomorrow. Considering how the both of you hang out together and such, I am sure that a lot of people know about the friendship you both (used to?) share.

It is situations like these where I am happy I have no cousins living anywhere near here. Most of them are in other countries.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

heres the solution: stop hanging out with 13 year olds.

Hellz to the yes.
You guys are on totally different maturity levels. Go make some friends your own age, damn!

[WeezyEffBaby]

Stop seeking the approval of your family.

[Milk--]

Hellz to the yes.
You guys are on totally different maturity levels. Go make some friends your own age, damn!

I do have friends my age, but the thing is that I feel betrayed as a family member. when I moved over I had no one and she was the only one basically there for me.

Stop seeking the approval of your family.

I can't. It's not that easy as it looks.

[JJ no Baka]

Prepubescent adolescences have no concept of what betrayal is. They just cause drama for everyone with their "OMG. MY LIFE SUCKS BECAUSE SOME BOY DON'T LIKE ME".

You need to find yourself friends that are around the same age as yourself. For the problem, go up and explain everything.