[dso]

should i be worried?

how are some people so goal oriented

snot in my natural nature

i'm like a leaf in the wind

and tadpole in a stream

a turd in a flushed toilet

lost in a dream

a burp in a scream

a particle in a laser beam

h in Hakeem

yup

i spent too long on my poem

meh

how is you feeling?

goal in sight!

vs

the things in my poem

i'm so old

[boka]

*slaps you in the face*

SNAP OUT OF IT MAN!



I think a lot of people in their early 20s can identify with how you're feeling. It seems a lot of people feel a bit lost and do a lot of soul-searching at this stage in life. Don't worry, you'll figure it all out sooner or later, and it's no big deal if you don't. Some people are happy to just go wherever life takes them instead of swimming upstream.

[Nightmare]

Maybe you can just write poems for living...

[shl979]

i feel you man.. im so lost.. sad sad world.

[ayahuasca]

the solution to your aimlessness is to go experiment! Volunteer for stuff, take on different jobs, do courses, that sort of thing. At your age, I was back in uni doing a masters, but by then I'd volunteered for the olympic games, washed cars, worked at as mechanic, office admin, logistics, tutor for high school kids, tutor for first year uni students, did a short course on japanese swordsmanship, etc etc

There's plenty of things to do out there

[brap]

the solution to your aimlessness is to go experiment! Volunteer for stuff, take on different jobs, do courses, that sort of thing.

I agree with this totally! When you feel hopeless and lost the best thing to do is find yourself and what you like to do. How do you know whether you like them or not, experiment! You have all the time in the world. And by the time you find your place, it will probably be the perfect time for you. Like me, I was lost for so many years. Didn't know what to do, didn't know how to go about things. Then I went to see what I would like and who I was. Now I have a purpose and it's not too late because if I had found out what I wanted to do back then as opposed to now I wouldn't be ready.

I guess my romantic notion is, that things will come for you when you're ready for them. Things will come for a reason I suppose.

[j-la]

the solution to your aimlessness is to go experiment! Volunteer for stuff, take on different jobs, do courses, that sort of thing.

I agree with this totally! When you feel hopeless and lost the best thing to do is find yourself and what you like to do. How do you know whether you like them or not, experiment! You have all the time in the world. And by the time you find your place, it will probably be the perfect time for you. Like me, I was lost for so many years. Didn't know what to do, didn't know how to go about things. Then I went to see what I would like and who I was. Now I have a purpose and it's not too late because if I had found out what I wanted to do back then as opposed to now I wouldn't be ready.

I guess my romantic notion is, that things will come for you when you're ready for them. Things will come for a reason I suppose.

yes yes yes!

listen to these two. dont put yourself down cause it'll only make yourself miserable.
go explore.

[Gamecock28]

Exploration is the only way to figure out what you want to do. I teach ESL in Asia. I never planned on even going to Asia when I was your age, but I wanted to live overseas and took a chance on teaching in China. I've been teaching for six years and I love it. I'll probably go back for my masters next year so I can have more opportunities to teach in more exotic places. Try something new. You never know how it will turn out.

[juyoon]

Things like these happen to people whether its 23, 33, 43 or even 53!
It's a part of the struggle we call life to be lost.
What matters is how you face the situation and your next decision.
Just don't stay too long on meditating or thinking about your next move.
Trust yourself and never regret your choices!

[OiOi]

you are only twenty three,

you are still young so go out and have fun like goin on a killing supree,

you can also rob banks and go rape beautiful women like tyra banks,

you see? life is about having fun tee hee,

[dso]

tee hee

rape is not for me

[HERMIT]

Aimless?

How about trying MSN? meebo?

[frog]

I used to feel like you do quite a while back. Believe me, everything will fall into places and these thoughts will go away. You just need to find your niche in life and you will feel so much better in no time. If you feel like you can't do anything, join a club, go have fun with people, exercise, eat healthy, be productive, find a job, go to school again--just for whatever you're interested in, and live your life for yourself, not for others...........JUST SET SOME GOALS.......WHATEVER THEY ARE AND AIM FOR THEM.....

Just do the things that will make you feel happy and you will be happy.

Remember, anything that is good for the body is also good for the mind so it's great advice to go exercise often.

[SouthernBelle82]

I wouldn't worry just yet. I thought my brother, who is twenty-four, would never find something to do. Now he's in college doing his main classes (math, English etc) so he's at least doing that and thinking about what he wants to do for his career. He eventually did so can you! I think it's better to be sure than to waste time and not be sure and waste money even. I'm twenty-seven and on my third major (which I SO love) and I wish I figured all this out sooner but things happen as they do. Just don't pressure yourself and keep your heart open to options.

*slaps you in the face*

SNAP OUT OF IT MAN!



I think a lot of people in their early 20s can identify with how you're feeling. It seems a lot of people feel a bit lost and do a lot of soul-searching at this stage in life. Don't worry, you'll figure it all out sooner or later, and it's no big deal if you don't. Some people are happy to just go wherever life takes them instead of swimming upstream.

Yep. One girl I know changed majors so many times even before she hit college. She now has a job she loves and is happily married. Things happen to everyone in their time. Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to get out of school but with each term done I'm one step closer. To the op what is it you're passionate about? I know one girl from high school who is passionate about the environment and she still is today and her job involves her passion.

[antypanties]

snot in my natural nature

i'm like a leaf in the wind

and tadpole in a stream

a turd in a flushed toilet

lost in a dream

a burp in a scream

a particle in a laser beam

h in Hakeem

Haha! I feel the same, I've finished university and have yet to get a job. It is a little sad to see people who graduated with me have already sorted their lives out, however, they've made the effort and I haven't. I make excuses to put off getting a job each day, I think deep down I'm just scared of change/rejection.

I'm 22 and feel old too but we need to remind ourselves that we are still young!

[estub]

i'm 24 and just dropped out of grad school after the first semester because i don't know why i'm there or what i'm doing in life. all this after having gotten my career started already. i'm going to learn korean and play the violin instead.

[JinEnjuce]

Hey, this isn't an unusual thing for people your age, brother. It's easy for us to lose our way and become desensitized. The reason is actually simple. At our age, we are in the stage of our lives where we are seeking intimacy, either through deep friendships or meaningful relationships. If we don't get this or if we don't feel we get this, we become unmotivated. I suggest you try making some good friends, or turning to them in this time of need. Either way, find your way out of this rut! I've known many people who didn't get back up after life tripped them up, and they are really regretting it.

[hikari619]

Yea I used to feel like that, until I kept myself busy with everything! Try starting some activities, like muay thai, guitar singing, dancing, it'll keep you so busy and give you something to work towards that you forget you were even aimless. Think long term as well, like where you want to be in the future and dreams you want to achieve e.g. buying a large house with boat haha

[HakuTheDog]

To avoid sounding cliche and 'preachy', but you'll most likely get over it (hopefully). There is a new study going around explaing a "1/4 (quarter) life crsis". In short, it's basically like mid-life crisis, but it happens around our age. You should read a few stories or books on it for more information. Some patients have found that knowledge to be useful.

[tas82]

i'm 24 and just dropped out of grad school after the first semester because i don't know why i'm there or what i'm doing in life. all this after having gotten my career started already. i'm going to learn korean and play the violin instead.

I think I'll come join u, always wanted to play piano!!