[Gofishus]

I'm sure you know some people who switch s/o's a bit often. As in 'She's been dating guys since middle school' or 'this is his 4th gf this year', etc. But I guess I am puzzled why some people have such an easy time finding people who like them back. To me, a relationship involves mutual feelings toward one another, it involves commitment and understanding. You have to know someone pretty well or for a while (unless it's a one night stand) to be in a relationship with them, for them to be your 'significant other'.

So how do some people break up, and get back with another person in the span of only a few months I'll never understand. Maybe some people have different mentality. Some of these guys/girls I know who've done this aren't even what I'd consider 'attractive', either in personaltiy or physically. Yet they have no problem finding dates.

Is it magic? Is it luck? That they somehow find others who like them back so frequently and in such short periods of time? Give me your comments.

[chubakalover]

Confidence.

[HaplessChild]

Agreeable personality.

[jsp]

Low standards.

[HaplessChild]

I know a lot of people that stay single often. I only know one person with high standards. There's some disparity there...

[haruo]

people are different, some people move on quickly while others take their time. it's nothing really odd, perhaps certain luck also deals with the fact of mutual feelings towards one another in such a short amount of time... but other than that, it's really just personal preference. that sounds like a cop-out answer, but i think it's true.

[justwildbeat]

Frankly if someone is jumping from n bf/gf that often, then it's probably not a very meaningful relationship. Maybe both parties just need someone or just always need to be in a relationship. Who knows.

[Skye_]

That's just you bein mature lol, Don't Worry And yeah Like JustWildBeat told some people need to be in a relationship to live on even if it's not meaningful relationship

[naoto]

through friends. you just keep getting introduced to new people, and one will click. you need to meet 10 strangers to click with 1. But if you keep meeting new people, going to dinners, parties, etc... the chances are much higher.

[Lie]

I've met a lot of girls who groom. By that I mean, they're so afraid of being alone that even while they're in one relationship, they begin to set up another guy just in case they break up with the one they're currently with. I think for most it isn't a conscious process, which is why you get them dating a new guy a couple weeks after breaking up with the last bf, along with the claim that, "I didn't plan to date him, it just sort of happened."

[jho]

I'm one of those people who has had many boyfriends. I completely agree with naoto. My circle of friends is quite large and I'm constantly making new friends. It also helps that I move on very quickly o_o Fall quickly in love, and fall quickly out of love too... Ahh I hate it, but I can't really help it.

[aiyan]

Some people just can't stand being alone.

[HaplessChild]

Liking to be with someone isn't the same as hating to be alone.

If you like someone and someone likes you there's no real reason not to give it a try.

[Regina Rae]

Some people get with a person because they like to have someone there. They like having a 'boyfriend/girlfriend'. Maybe the connection isn't that deep, but they have fun together. And they find one another attractive. But then we have those other people that don't get with just anyone. There has to be a deeper connection. More than just physical attraction. They actually want to get to know that person, rather than just hanging out and being a 'couple'. People like that often take time in finding a partner.

[junsujunsu]

HOT BODIES & PRETTIFUL FACES.

[kerpao]

HOT BODIES & PRETTIFUL FACES.

i second this.

[x-rays-r-b-yu-t-ful]

gotta love the single word responses.

eh. it's not all about "the one i'm going to marry" or 'soul mate'.

a boyfriend is a boyfriend. to most young outgoing people.
it's just someone to fill the hole.

the not-so-outgoing people tend to wait for a knight-in-shining-armor to pick them up as they wait and fantasize about it happening.

it's cheap practicality vs old morality. lol.

[peppermintsugar]

I've never, ever, had a problem getting a boyfriend, finding guys that liked me, or getting guys to like me in return.
It's just always come naturally and been obvious to me.
I would say that the last guy I was with was the first time EVER that I wanted a relationship with a guy, and he didn't want one with me, and granted, I was totally blindsided by it.

[witchery]

I don't really get it either to be honest. I wouldn't just jump into a relationship for someone I only had lukewarm feelings for....which is what it seems like to me, for those types of couples. But then, like others have said there are some who just hate being single and need that constant love and affection? But to receive that, I just don't think it's worth all the time and effort you have to put in building and maintaining a relationship, with someone that doesn't give you much incentive to keep. Seems a little like you're using someone for your own benefits.

[Daylightful]

It is a little odd to me, but it makes sense. I don't think I could jump around so quickly. I prefer to start slowly, have a solid ground and try and grow before going out with someone. Maybe I'm just cautious, but I would want the least amount of relationships and I rather stick with one person if possible so I take my time.. haha..