[willyuum]

Just out of curiosity, what is an s/o?

[jho]

^This might help: http://tinyurl.com/yak8b7b

(I don't mean to be a pinkberry, but I've always wanted to try this =D)

[lilaznmonkee_2008]

i've always wondered that tooo....i think its bc they're just more outgoing...but who knows...i used to think appearance rly matters too..but i know some ppl who are not so attractive and they jump from guy to guy tooo..

ohhh and it probably has something to do w/ standards..some ppl are more picky than others..depends on diff ppl

[KOGEPANN;)]

Luck. Pure luck.
I have a bunch of confident and nice looking guy friends with a decent personality but they still remain single, and still find it hard to find girls, whilst i see the complete opposite guys who always have a girlfriend. Socialize and go out more, meet new people, that way you're bound to find someone's easily.

[damyoungji]

It really depends on the person.

Some are opened minded about relationships and they don't see why they shouldn't meet different people to find out what they want before they start a serious relationship with the same person or someone different. Whereas there are those who are just plain desperate or thinks that being a relationship makes them superior than others (barf), so they pretty much cling onto anyone they can find (regardless of whether they are even attracted to them).

[Mzz L]

For me,
Although there may be many potential s/o's after becoming single
I tend to stay single for a while.

I "fall" appx every 2 years.
I date but I don't get into relationships unless it's someone "special" and if [to me] if it came so often,
then they wouldn' t be so special.

[pinkxlilies]

it's not necessarily a matter of "low standards", but i think it's something along those lines. i think those kinds of people who always get into relationships will get into a relationship with anyone they're attracted to. usually most other ppl are more choosy when it comes to picking an s/o because they don't want to devote their time and effort into a relationship they merely feel lukewarm about.

i think that's WHY those people need to go through maybe an s/o every month or two...it's because they weren't so picky in the beginning and it's halfway into the relationship when they realize they're bored or they never really knew/liked their s/o. on the other hand, the more "picky" people have avoided the relationship altogether because they could see from the beginning that things would not have worked out.

[ichigo_no_powder]

finding someone to date isn't hard, it's finding the right person that's difficult. if someone is willing to go out with someone just so they don't have to be alone or can appear as being popular, it's easy finding a s/o

[mz simmonz]

I completely agree with joogrlpekaun that was a great observation, btw.

Most of my friends (usually girls) who can date backtobacktobacktoback with barely a break in between boyfriends/dates are "groomers"..they don't let go of their failing relationship until they feel secure enough that they have a stable suitor waiting in the wings for them. Also, they are very charismatic, flirty, pretty, and hate to say it..but bordering on shameless/bold? They also don't have a problem with leading guys on (as long as the attention is on them it doesn't make a difference if they will ever date them or not) or continuously flirting/paying attention to a guy after they nabbed their next boyfriend..after all they have to keep those boys on a string. Another common trait they have is that they are terrified of being alone so that motivates them to put in more effort into their presentation. Sorry if I sound a bit bitter..I'm trying to learn their technique but I guess I just don't have it in me =\ I do get a decent amount of male attention, but it's hard for me to hold onto it because as soon as I don't see them as dating potential, I just drop the act and retreat back behind my "wall"..or I get super nervous around the ones I actually DO like and it's hard to be my usual bubbly self. I need to work on it..and as much as I think it's wrong to "groom" and be so openly flirtatious with anything that walks...I have to give it to them..they get what they want. I'm pretty sick of being single..*continues to take pointers*

[allineedx]

Frankly if someone is jumping from n bf/gf that often, then it's probably not a very meaningful relationship. Maybe both parties just need someone or just always need to be in a relationship. Who knows.

^ this.

[vesp]

I wish I knew too I, personally, need to like someone in order to date him...and sadly, I've found none so far. Oh well...
I have a friend who dated someone once just to give him a chance, and she kinda regretted her choice.

[maharu.]

I think those people just are lonely and want someone to fill in their hole.
And that's why they're quick to end relationships as well.


I think if you're comfortable being alone, those 'easy' people won't just come lol.
I feel it's better that way.

[chipmunkey]

BECAUSE most of the time it's not an s/o, it's an i/o lol . INsignificant other .

idk but i've always felt that the term s/o should not be thrown around loosely . just because he's my boyfriend doesnt make him my s/o . he's just my bf and thats that . the guy i end up MARRYING will be my s/o . thats truly, literally significant lol .

[Malice_Kaiser]

BECAUSE most of the time it's not an s/o, it's an i/o lol . INsignificant other .

idk but i've always felt that the term s/o should not be thrown around loosely . just because he's my boyfriend doesnt make him my s/o . he's just my bf and thats that . the guy i end up MARRYING will be my s/o . thats truly, literally significant lol .

I always just use s/o because it's gender neutral and all-encompassing... much easier than saying bf/gf/fiancee/husband/wife...

[EHNerJI]

Haha, I remember my friend was like that in middle/high school.
She would go for pretty much anyone who had an interest in her.
Whether she liked them or not. Most of the time it would be like "I THINK I like him".
But, needless to say, all of those relationships were... failures.
She finally smartened up when she had a longer relationship
that would've gone so much better if they didn't rush into it so much.

During that time, she did seem to have a lot of internal issues,
so I would say it was to help her feel less lonely or something lol...
Rushing into doomed relationships haha.

Personally, I would find things like that a waste of time,
and I wouldn't get with a guy if I wasn't even interested in him...

Something I've noticed is that whenever I'm in a relationship,
more guys seem to be interested in me =/

I'm not quite sure how to interpret that.
Maybe they see me as a cold person that would reject them,
but when they see me in a relationship, they realize I'm actually WILLING.
Or maybe they are just out to ruin my relationship : P haha.

But yeah, once I'm in the 'dating circle' I guess I'll call it..
Getting a boyfriend just seems a lot easier =/

[eluphant]

I don't get it either. I must admit...I get jealous of couples.
I've never had a boyfriend or been in love.
Most of my friends have already been in a relationship.

[peppermintsugar]

[font="Verdana"][size=1]Haha, I remember my friend was like that in middle/high school.
She would go for pretty much anyone who had an interest in her.
Whether she liked them or not. Most of the time it would be like "I THINK I like him".
But, needless to say, all of those relationships were... failures.
She finally smartened up when she had a longer relationship

Sorry to cut your post, just wanted to add something.
I dated a lot when I was younger, a lot of stupid, pointless, relationships that amounted to little, but the one good thing about that was that I quickly learned what I did and didn't want out of a partner, so now when I do meet men, or do get into relationships, I know what I want, I know what to look for, and I know what to stray away from.

[xo--cinderella]

I remember I used to be like that when I was younger and didn't know any better. Now, I don't know how to just move on from boyfriend to boyfriend so easily. It's pretty hard for me to genuinely like a guy nowadays because of my past, I guess. Plus, so far, I haven't met a guy who's genuine. A lot of guys I've met who are interested in me have hidden agendas. So now, people say I'm extremely picky, but I know what guy I deserve. Someone who treats me right and genuinely likes my personality, not just my physical features. So far though, nobody has impressed me since my last break-up.

[rubyx]

I'm the type of person who doesn't have trouble finding a boyfriend, but I'm the least social person ever. I don't think it has anything to do with low standards or attractiveness, or even being social. Being social helps people get dates, but it doesn't guarantee relationships. Even shy people date. They just date each other.

The first explanation I think is luck. Some people have "je nais sais quoi." They don't have to do anything and boys will ask them out.

The second reason is RISK. People on this forum are very hung up on the idea that relationships are crazy and emotional. It's like you just can't control who you fall in love with, even if he's a different race, much older, or already dating someone else! But personally, I think that is too much risk for me. Risk can be rewarding, but I play it safe. I know that dating someone of my race and my age and single is almost guaranteed to work out. So what if I don't take much risk. Not many people consider what risks they are taking when they date someone. That's why I laugh at the notion that young people are the ones that have high standards and that older people are more willing to date anyone. The opposite is true. Young people take more RISKS while older people already know what they want in a relationship, so they've narrowed it down.