[marlala]

i love my parents dearly, but i just can't say i love you to them seriously.
its hard to explain...but i can't express my feelings for my parents xD
i feel as though it would be too corny or something..

for example,
one day my mom was out running errands & she was in a car accident;
it wasn't anything serious, but she hurt her neck and had a bad headache.

ill never forget when my dad came and told me we had to go see my mom in the hospital.
when we got there, my mom had a neck support brace and just seeing her in the bed like that, i cried.

i was so scared of losing her, but even when she was in the hospital bed,
i felt as though if i said "i was so scared for you" or "i love you" it would be too overwhelming for me, i'd cry harder..


am i just weird or does anyone else feel this way? ><

[KOGEPANN;)]

Firstly, I'm glad your mom was ok
well, every family is different, I feel like I'm in the same exact situation as you ! it's ok, because in a way your mom should know that you love her, you don't need to tell her, although it would be nice. haha kidding.
I have never uttered the words 'I love you' to any of my family members, because that's just how we are. we're bigheaded and know we all love eachother without saying it, you can express love in different ways.
Strange. If I did say that to them, they'd probably think I was taking drugs or something. LOL. XD

[Aelis]

Don't worry, I have the same "problem." It's just very uncomfortable to me, and I'm not really sure why. Part of it is because I'm afraid it'll be too mushy and awkward and I wouldn't want to have to go through a moment like that. Especially since I never say it, if I did ever say it it would be a really big deal to my parents. It's weird because saying "I love you" is something that seems natural and obvious, but it would just be really, really awkward for me, even if it was sincere.

I haven't said it in years, and I can't remember the last time I said it. It's very possible that I've never told my parents I loved them before in my life. (It's not that I don't show it in other ways, but like you said, saying it flat-out like that is something different.)

[chungy]

it's like that in my family..
but i think its implied, and that we don't have to say it...they know it...you know....

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Same like you, I love them but I can't say it too =/
I really hate deep conversations/meaningful conversations, whether it be with friends, or whoever =/

[sincizzle]

I can't say, "I love you," either. >.<

For me, it's because I don't want to waste the words. I firmly believe that there's power in the meaning of words, and that words shouldn't be wasted or overused. So I try not to say, "I love you". My friends will say so sometimes (and yes, I know that they're not INTO me, they just love as a friend or sister), and I'll just smile and not say anything back. I haven't really said to someone specific yet, except for once or twice in my life that I can remember to family members. It'll probably be in a long, long time, but I'm still waiting to meet someone special before I do.

But I remember that when I did say, "I love you", it always felt extremely awkward to say it... I'm guessing it's just because I'm not used to it.

Then again, I'm the kind of person who likes to express things better through actions (again, because I don't like overusing words), so if I really do love someone (family, friends) then they know I do. So it's all good.

[courtneyy]

for my parents, although it's awkward, i've learned to say "i love you", as much as i do feel weird about it.

you never know what will happen, so it's good that you at least make use of those words~ ^^

[Regina Rae]

I have no problem saying I love you, to anyone. But I know quite a few people who can't say I love you. And I don't understand it. Maybe saying I love you to someone outside of your family is hard to say. But to your parents? Hmmm. That should be easy.

[starla]

i'm exactly like you too! i think it's because my parents and i were never like that, so it's just weird and awkward to say it now. i can say it in writing on bday cards, but that's about it, haha. but i totally know what you're saying

[moot11]

Your asian upbringing is clearly preventing you from saying this. Chances are, "i love you" is not something your parents often say to each other or to you. Their generation are traditionally less vocal in expressing their emotions. They'll often tell you to dress warm, or eat more in place of "I love you".

[mizz_J]

I actually say "I love you" to my parents a lot, especially to my mom. It doesn't make me feel weird or anything either.

[mintcracker]

Your asian upbringing is clearing preventing you from saying this. Chances are, "i love you" is not something your parents often say to each other or to you. Their generation are traditionally less vocal in expressing their emotions. They'll often tell you to dress warm, or eat more in place of "I love yous".

lol yeah exactly. It's hard to say...I just tell them in bday cards and messages.

[haruo]

for me, it's hard to be affectionate with my parents because i get embarrassed easily... but when my mom was in the hospital because she collapsed, i was so worried about her. my father and i went to the hospital, i told her i loved her... but i felt really embarrassed after, i guess it's just like personal preference.

[joogrlpekaun]

Don't worry, I have the same "problem." It's just very uncomfortable to me, and I'm not really sure why. Part of it is because I'm afraid it'll be too mushy and awkward and I wouldn't want to have to go through a moment like that. Especially since I never say it, if I did ever say it it would be a really big deal to my parents. It's weird because saying "I love you" is something that seems natural and obvious, but it would just be really, really awkward for me, even if it was sincere.

I haven't said it in years, and I can't remember the last time I said it. It's very possible that I've never told my parents I loved them before in my life. (It's not that I don't show it in other ways, but like you said, saying it flat-out like that is something different.)

+1. That sums up my situation perfectly.

I feel a bit bad, though, because even my father--far from a mushy, demonstrably affectionate person--now says "I love you" at the end of our phone conversations and at the end of quite a few of his e-mails since I entered university a couple of years ago. Maybe I've written it in a couple of cards to my parents before, but usually I find other ways to express the idea of love for my parents when I feel a need to or much more often just say nothing especially affectionate at all. I try to express my love for my parents through what I do so they know even though I can't bring myself to express it in words.

It's nothing to do with Asian culture in my case, which is what another poster thought was the cause for a lot of people in this topic, because I'm not Asian and grew up in the U.S. raised by parents who also grew up there. My mother says "I love you" too much for my taste, though it's really not a bad thing, just makes me a bit uncomfortable the way all mushy, emotional moments make me uncomfortable. I've just never had a very outwardly affectionate personality.

On the other hand, at least when I do decide to tell someone that I love him or her someday, it will really mean something and be obvious that they're not just empty words.

[cicisaurr___]

awwwss<3
I can talk about and say anything to my parents.
You should say it before you don't have a chance to.
-knocks on wood-
My parents always say that to me. LOLOLOL
"Treat us nicely before its too late" haha

[ebolainmemphis]

I think it just comes off as linguistically strange to say "te amo" or "te quiero," as least from my perspective, to a mother. It is mostly a thing that parents say to children but not the other way around, more specifically, for males. Besides, words really don't mean much. In my culture, people are much more physical in expressing love (hugs and mini cooper).

[AnthonyKkoKko]

my mandarin teacher said that

in china or in asia before, children (so our parents) are raised to like... not have intimate conversations with their parents. she also said that they do things to show that they love you, and they act like it, but they just dont say it, because thts the way they r ^^''

i can say it to my mom, just not my dad... on cards it ok tho, lol.

[xoxo_03]

I have the same problem, I can't say "I love you" to them either. The last time I told them "I love you" was when I was in grade three, my teacher made us make a letter for our parents lol. And I didn't even said it, lol. It was just written in the letter. I have never been a verbally expressive person. It makes me feel so embarrassed, it is so uncomfortable to me to say those three words to my parents. I am really a reserved type of person, I am really really shy. It doesn't mean I don't love them, I just can't say it. But, I am planning to work out on it and be able to someday tell them vocally that I love them :]]

[A-choo]

yuhh, sumones it could be hard for meh to say it D;

even though i do wub themm... i think like after i say it, it makes everything so awkward .___.

*sigh* I unno, it feels weird sumtimes, like yooh juss can't get it out.

Buh i dunt like teh people who says i wub yooh tew easily, like from my fwends, lol ;X

[des monstres]

you know what.
you don't have to.
why? because they know.
and you know.
and that's all that really matters.
through your actions they can tell that you love them.