[msme]

Love is...

Letting go when you have to hold on...and...


Holding on when you have to let go...



Does this saying makes any sense?



Anyways...I have this friend and we're close to each other. I've been liking him for years now and I think I'm really starting to fall for him. I'm not really asking for a chance because he likes someone else. but the thing is, I can't seem to stop falling for him and I really want this feeling to go away..


What should I do?

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

After going through both, I feel that holding on is a lot tougher.
Imagine desperately holding onto someone who just doesn't want to stay, all the while missing greater opportunities to finding another happiness. On the other hand, imagine letting someone go, hurting for a finite amount of time, and then moving on to finding someone else who'd make you happy.
See the difference? Although letting go is hard, it's doable. And trust me, when the person you've been holding on to so desperately just walks out, you'll hurt a lot more than if you just walked away from it yourself.

[mintcracker]

Letting go is alot harder. Takes alot of strength to let go of sb you still want or really care about. Bc it hurts to move on, and despite missing them, still look forward and break free from them. Reason why people in long relationships who end up being cheated on staying in the relationship? Partially cos letting go is VERY hard, it's easier said than done. You can try and try and try, sometimes after a few attempts, you still won't be able to 'let go' (inside).
Holding on is the weaker option.

[Mr. Chan]

I think letting go is a lot harder. However, holding on will just be tougher down the road. To me, holding on would be like applying band-aid to a wound, whereas letting go would actually heal it. It won't heal it right there and then, but it would definitely heal down the road.

[chiho]

I think it depends how much you like that person....

If you really like that person and that person has become your faily activity... such as talking to her is the whole thing you do after you get back from school... then i think letting go is hard... it's simply changing your habits altogether...

Depends how lovestruck you are their influence over your daily activity i guess...

people can be satisfy holding on and just talking knowing it won't work out after all..

[wees2dee]

i reckon the best way is to let go, if you have liked him for all of this time and he hasnt responded, it may mean that he will never be interested. save yourself from falling in love with him, get hurt now, rather then getting hurt when your deeply in love him

[KanyeWEST]

i do both at the same time.

[whoops]

...for me both are hard. letting go, meaning starting your life all over again without the special person beside you. it's hard because you are use already to have that person beside you always, being there through thick and thin, through happy and sad times.
...holding on is also hard, because sometimes even though you know you need to stop already you tried to hold on because you're hopeful that someday it would be the way it was before.that person had promised you something.
...both is so hard, but sometimes you just need to choose to not feel pain and hurt on the situations that's going on with your life.
...and if i had a chance to choose the two, i would choose both, hard but in time i can cope up with that, need to accept things first.

[bonjour tristesse.]

I don't really think its a matter of which one is harder. It's a matter of how strong you are and how much time you'll take. As for me, if that was the case then I would pick letting go.

[janjan13xx]

holding on, is torture. cause your not THAT girl... yet. depends on how your relationship is.
but, letting go, is torture too.
i would just let it linger for now.. then if something big happens make your decision.

[Juuuny]

wow you guys have good advices
im gonna use it..

[Regina Rae]

I think holding on is actually more painful than letting go.
When you hold on, you're constantly reminded that you're not the one he/she wants.
You feel useless because you're just holding on when you get nothing in return.
Atleast when you let go you don't have to face the situation anymore.

mini cooper. I need to take my own advice.

[mentholatum132]

Love is...

Letting go when you have to hold on...and...


Holding on when you have to let go...



Does this saying makes any sense?



Anyways...I have this friend and we're close to each other. I've been liking him for years now and I think I'm really starting to fall for him. I'm not really asking for a chance because he likes someone else. but the thing is, I can't seem to stop falling for him and I really want this feeling to go away..


What should I do?

let go.

it's MUCH easier if u let go now than for it to drag on. that's what happened to me, and i let it drag on for 4 years. and during those 4 years, i've had to experience so much pain when i see him with another girl.

let go now, and maybe you'll find another guy, one that's better!

[youandmee]

both are very hard . but i think its just harder letting go .
cause holding on , if you actually like them ,
of course you would want to hold on no matter how difficult it is ,
but until the time when you realize that things / feelings have changed or there really is no more chance ,
then you can acknowledge the fact that you should no longer hold on .
but if you want / try to actually let go , you just usually keep attempting to ,
but sometimes you can't successfully .

[[K]Jae]

Both is very hard.
But I'd say holding on is the hardest. Because your partner could be in a another relationship as you believe that you still have a chance to make things right.

[JunRi<3]

holding on when they're letting go

[AngelsWhisper]

letting go hurts a lot but holding on will do so much more damage to you. physically, mentally. You;ll be stuck in that dark ditch for a long, long time. At least letting go is the beginning where you start a new life

[A-choo]

D; holding on when i hab to let go.

becuz i will nawt force sumone to be wif meh if they dun't like me o;

sho, it's easier for meh to let go.

.____. holding on ish painful, becuz yooh hab to tell them white lies D: even thought yooh dun't like them anymores.

[thisismyv]

I totally went by this for a while (stolen from one of the quotes threads, lol)

"Love is like a tug-of-war. It hurts to hold on, but you just can't let go." It went something like that, maybe not word-for-word. That's just how it works, sometimes. Believe me though, you should let him go. If you feel like you don't want to commit your feelings to him, let go. It can become a mess in the future if you let your feelings get ahead of you.

[msme]

OMG..you guys give really helpful advices..thank you so much..really appreciate it..hope more will come..