[agnuque]

Holding on. Sometimes, it's a hopeless and lost case already.

[meiming8_1]

I think holding on is harder than letting go. Letting go is like getting stabbed really hard in the heart, and for a while the wound seems really deep, but it eventually begins to heal and it heals more cleanly. Holding on is like getting pricked in the heart all the time, every day. They're little wounds at first, but they build up until you're more wounded than you would be if you just got stabbed. And it's really hard for them to heal because the wounds keep getting reopened.

That's just what I think anyway...though I'm a little bitter

[violet2k]

Holding on to something that may or may not ever happen is alot harder than letting go.
Even though your close to this friend, for your sake, maybe you should slowly stop hanging around him until you stop having feelings for him. Being around him, would seem to hurt you more.

[JinEnjuce]

You will let go, and you will fall. There will be someone to catch you.

Hooray literary romanticism!

[Fui]

At one time in my life, I fell head over toes for this one guy. During that time, he only saw me as a friend but I wanted to be something more then friends. I tried my best to hide my feelings when I was near him. Over one summer, I found out that he started dating a mutual friend of ours... I slowly let my feelings for him slide away. Then the next school year, I watched him from afar when he was with his gf; however, their relationship didn't last for long. Later that year, he started seeing another girl and I just couldn't help but to vent to my friends when they're near and eventually I learned to live with it. I didn't know why I couldn't resist myself whenever he was near. Senior year of high school, he was single and we joked around frequently. Then we graduated. He went to the Life Guard Academy and I stayed behind to go to a community college. I only saw him during the major Holidays and over the summer for a few weeks.
Then the following year, I transfer to a different University but I still went home for the summer. We would hang out ever summer and as time went on, I slowly lost feelings for him. Eventually I only saw him as a friend. Last summer, I went home and hung out with him everyday for a month. We would go to the bars at night and sight-seeing during the day time. All that time, I thought he was a good friend, someone who could keep me company while I was away from school.
Then school started again. I went back to my regular routine but it was a little different this year. My friend and I would chat on msn and webcam together. We often study together and spent time together. We were three hours apart but he made his schedule matches mine so we would study, eat and sleep together. I didn't know why I didn't catch on at that time. I thought he didn't think anything more of me but a friend. Over the winter, he came home for the Holidays and drove four hours to come and visit me. We hung out the whole day and went bar hopping at night. We went karaoking and took a photo for memories. I drove him back to his hotel and he sat in the car for a bit. He had a little to drink that day therefore I thought he was buzzed and needed a little time before exiting the car. He turned and looked at me and said that he loves me very much. I didn't know what to say. He dropped the photo that we took together at the karaoke place and picked it up immediately. He wiped off the raindrops that was on it and held it close to his heart.

I look back upon that day and often ask, what would happen if I still had feelings for him. He's a great guy but sadly, I wanted to be with him back in high school and now he wants to be with me when I don't have feelings for him. Sometimes I think destiny plays with our lives.

[sylphid97]

Letting go is harder, but holding on will make it more painful in the end.

I think people hold on because they still have a sense of hope that things will improve in the relationship... but yea, it is hard to let go of something you have become comfortable & familiar with...

Best thing to do would probably spend less time with him. You will relearn that everything was okay before he was in your life and it can be okay again.

[Elee]

After going through both, I feel that holding on is a lot tougher.
Imagine desperately holding onto someone who just doesn't want to stay, all the while missing greater opportunities to finding another happiness. On the other hand, imagine letting someone go, hurting for a finite amount of time, and then moving on to finding someone else who'd make you happy.
See the difference? Although letting go is hard, it's doable. And trust me, when the person you've been holding on to so desperately just walks out, you'll hurt a lot more than if you just walked away from it yourself.

i agree.. wow you make a really good point.
both are hard but holding on desperately on to something your not sure of what life is going to give you is alot harder. With letting go, its going to make you stronger and you know that its a chance to find someone who will make you alot happier.

[MANTAI<3]

I'm currently in a relationship where we're both trying to hold on to something. Maybe the way our relationship once was before all the heartache and lies came inbtw. Trust me, we've tried to let eachother go many many times, but it doesnt last longer than a week. To me, both is very hard. You cant choose btw which is harder. Letting go of someone you love so much or holding on to something that has been over for so long.

[Laxntiga]

Holding on is definitely harder.

I don't lie to myself. I make my decision and go forward.

[Elee]

Thinking about it...
it really depends on what your situation is.
letting go is most deff harder for me.
idk.. i make up lies just to hold on...i think its the easier way out.
although, if your a person with a big ego, holding on might just be harder.

[I'mAddicted]

oh gee, i'm in a similar situation too :(
letting go, and holding on are both hard to do.
im trying to let go, and yeah, it is hard. i can't stop thinking :(
anyway,
all the best to you~

[azndude160]

well, in my opinion, i would have to say is letting go is harder, but much easier afterwards and better...holding on is like a long-term hardship...letting go will make everything easier

[cheerydumdum]

i think you should just let go. he likes someone else and he hasn't liked you in the years you've known each other. you should just let go right now before you fall any harder for him.

and to answer the question in the title of the thread, i think both are hard, but letting go is probably harder. in some cases you can be holding on and trying to let go at the same time, can't you? you try to hold onto someone who doesn't want to stay, and after you give up on holding onto them or try to give up on it, you try to let go. i understand the pain that comes with holding onto someone who doesn't think you're worth staying for. that's a stab to a person's pride too. but when you're holding on, you're still able to think about this person every day. when you're trying to let go, you have to move on and stop thinking about them. i just think it's a whole lot harder convincing yourself you don't need someone and that they're not coming back or going to like you.

[em_vanilla]

Letting go is super difficult.
But holding on is much harder.
Think of him kissing and hugging and holding another girl while you're just there.
And you can't do anything but wait around.
Letting go...does hurt and will hurt and it might hurt when you're done hurting but it'll make you more susceptible to new and better opportunities.
It...made me a more rounded person and made me more outgoing and super friendly. Haha.

[loikyish.]

i don't know if someone had already quoted this but i'm sharing it anyway,

"Letting someone go is something only someone who is
willing to hold onto her forever can say." - Shinwoo from YB

speaking by experience, i held on to him and eventually got tired,
the letting go process is easier by then.

[woei]

both are hard options..
its better to let go than hold on. Holding on to someone that doesn't feel the way is hurt. Omg, i let go but i still think about him all the time . One sided love hurts like ripping your heart out

[Javus]

IMO, if you're still holding on, it means that you believe that there still is hope(even if you really know there is none). But letting go means realizing that there is nothing left and that you have to throw away the memories.

[LadyKash]

"Letting go becomes easier when holding on hurts too much."

But I still think letting go is a bit harder.

[L.FOR.LOVE]

holding in shows that you're in denial of letting go
letting go is much better in the long term, however it may be painful
holding in floats your boat day by day but one day there will be the day where you HAVE the let go, and when that day comes you'll be a mess

[melissa-in-nowhere-particular]

letting go is the hardest.
i'm in a situation where i have to let go of the person i'm in love with - and it's the hardest thing i have ever had to do in my entire life.