[WhooOtWhooOtTina]

Okay, I'm in a long distance relationship. & me and him have been dating for one year and seven months now..
The thing is, I'm from WI and he's from CA, and we've never seen eachother before, but he calls me everyday. And now all my cousins and friends been telling me to let him, go because we will never get to see eachother no matter how long we date eachother.

But, I don't want to let him go too- because in the past i did try to break it up..but he doesn't let me..and we both love eachother alot. We've been fighting for our love since last year ago..and we still are no matter what happens. & also, we both did eachother wrong in the past too- but we still took eachother back..

Btw, I'm 16 and he's 20. But, come to think of it- i know and see that alot of people are in LDRs too..and they've never seen their bf or gf before. Maybe it isn't time for me and him to see eachother ya, y'know?

So what should I do- LET HIM GO or STAY WITH HIM?!

[HaplessChild]

Okay, I'm in a long distance relationship. & me and him have been dating for one year and almost six months now..
The thing is, I'm from WI and he's from CA, and we've never seen eachother before. And now all my cousins and friends been telling me to let him, go because we will never get to see eachother no matter how long we date eachother.

But, I don't want to let him go too- because in the past i did try to break it up..but he doesn't let me..and we both love eachother alot. We've been fighting for our love since last year ago..and we still are no matter what happens. & also, we both did eachother wrong in the past too- but we still took eachother back..

So what should I do- LET HIM GO or STAY WITH HIM?!

That's not dating/ a relationship, that's a pen pal.

[xxmeow]

long distance relationships were never meant to last.
i think you should let him go.
for all you know, he might be a completely different person offline. (this happens a lot)
well, i think you should meet up with him and decide then.

[Mr. Chan]

LDR will work IF you want it to work. You just gotta have dedication and have lots of money to see each other.

[Javus]

If you really feel it's a connection then you have to work hard to make it work. Thing is eventually you two will have to see each other, you visit him/he visits you.

[insanelyCRAZY]

how old are you?

and Mr. Chan is right, it will only work if you two want it to work. And ..

Uhmm...just asking but how sure are you that your online s/o isn't some creeper? lol...

[Hakiri]

I second the 'how old are you' - I know that age shouldn't matter, but it might not be the right time for you to get so involved with a person you haven't met before. Being young (if you're young) is about getting out there and meeting new people. I also think it would be a shame if you or he found someone else without telling the other. There's a lot of possibility for mistrust here. I hope you understand that I'm not trying to have a go at you, but I hope you know what you're getting yourself into.

But that aside, assuming you know and are happily in love with this guy, if you truly love him and if he truly loves you too, you'll both find some time for each other eventually. If you are having doubts, maybe you should step back and really think about whether this is what you want.

EDIT: Ah I see you're 16 and he's 20. I don't think it's such a good idea, you should really think about whether you want to tie yourself to a guy you've never met before at such an early age.

[junkers]

that remind me of one time when I was a long distance relationship. & me and him dated for one year and almost six months now..
The thing is, I'm from WI and he's from CA, and we've never seen eachother before. And now all my cousins and friends been telling me to let him, go because we will never get to see eachother no matter how long we date eachother.

But, I don't want to let him go too- because in the past i did try to break it up..but he doesn't let me..and we both love eachother alot. We've been fighting for our love since last year ago..and we still are no matter what happens. & also, we both did eachother wrong in the past too- but we still took eachother back..

[tiffanyng_]

leave it , because he's 20.
if he loved you then he would go see you .
obviously , not enough and he's just faking it .
i'm having the same problem , and i'm learning to let it go.

[Malice_Kaiser]

long distance relationships were never meant to last.
i think you should let him go.
for all you know, he might be a completely different person offline. (this happens a lot)
well, i think you should meet up with him and decide then.

The exception to what I bolded is if you are already together (in person) and one person has to leave but you'll see eachother again (ie, if one person goes to study abroad and they are long distance for like a year).

But clearly that's not the case. I don't think you should even bother meeting him unless you guys are like, older and serious about it. Sorry to be blunt but I think you both need to try and meet "real" people.

[Yangie12]

I'm sorry but..you consider that a relationship? 0___0 You guys have never seen each other in real life..and I wonder though, why haven't you? I suggest to let him go and meet new people in real life. Cut of all his contact, like email and number if he doesn't let you break up with him..

[hitokiri007]

if he really loved you that much, he would make the effort to fly out to see you at least once a year. my friend's bf lives in germany, and he flies here to the US for a few weeks every year to be with her. he actually came twice this year, 2 weeks back in february, and he's going to be coming for a month in november. you're young. you'll have plenty of opportunities to meet new guys and start new relationships. plus, never having never met him in real life, you don't know what kind of person he is. on the phone/internet, he can pretend to be whoever he wants and you'll be none the wiser. i think you should meet at least once for it to be a real relationship.
listen to the song "santa monica" by savage garden. well, just the chorus line really.

[MangoStar]

LDR will work IF you want it to work. You just gotta have dedication and have lots of money to see each other.

This is basically what sums up making an LDR work. If either you or your partner can't give this, then call it quits now.

[charat]

FACT: 98% of out-of-state relationships do not work.
FACT: about 3/4 of long distance relationships with little contact do not work.

maybe you're the 2%...

he's 20? that's not legal... you're 16? that's not developed...

leave him. for the first week, itll be hell. then after that, youll be like "hot dang, that was stupid"

its like smoking, you really dont need it. just more harm than pleasure. hard to quit. but you realize it was stupid when you do.

[HaplessChild]

FACT: 98% of out-of-state relationships do not work.
FACT: about 3/4 of long distance relationships with little contact do not work.

maybe you're the 2%...

he's 20? that's not legal... you're 16? that's not developed...

leave him. for the first week, itll be hell. then after that, youll be like "hot dang, that was stupid"

its like smoking, you really dont need it. just more harm than pleasure. hard to quit. but you realize it was stupid when you do.

Spot on.

[Mr. Chan]

FACT: 98% of out-of-state relationships do not work.
FACT: about 3/4 of long distance relationships with little contact do not work.

You got any proof to back up this fact? I'd like to see some sources.

[Malice_Kaiser]

Btw, I'm 16 and he's 20. But, come to think of it- i know and see that alot of people are in LDRs too..and they've never seen their bf or gf before. Maybe it isn't time for me and him to see eachother ya, y'know?

No, it's not. It is not time to see eachother. If a 20 year old is willing to be in a "serious" relationship with a 16 year old who he has never met, then there's something wrong there. That's creepy. Sorry.

[ex4zngod]

I have a friend that also has a girlfriend from another country, they've been together for a long time. However this depends on your personal feeling for him, if you're will to wait until you guys can be together, you're 16, as for him he's 20, soon enough if he truly loves you, he'd go down to be with you and see how it goes from there.

[PRRRETTYGLiTTERRR]

u guys have never seen each other? ..... thats pretty odd honestly.. i think you need to get to know the person in person to form a real, good relationship~ this is just my opinion so please dont take offense..

[ROCKiT]

LDR will work IF you want it to work. You just gotta have dedication and have lots of money to see each other.

i agree with mr. chan. LDR DOES WORK, IF YOU REALLY REALLY WANT TO COMMIT TO IT. i'm in one right now. and i don't know if yours count as a LDR... you've never seen him. i'm from CA and he's from TX. we're working out just fine. (: we try to see each other as much as we can. it is the money that's keeping us away from each other. I think the best thing to do is see him soon. and talk about it face to face.