[ediblekimi]

My friend is excessively depressed. I don't know if she's on her menstrual like 24/7 & 365 days
She has mood swings. She rarely is happy though. Mostly sad, mad, or depressed-ish.
Today I was joking around with her. She was laughing for a good hour or 2 while talking to me.
All of a sudden, she just shut down. Her eyes went really blank and she just walked away.

I don't know, why. But it happens, a lot. Her ex-boyfriend has recently been messing with her so it's been worse.
She doesn't open up to people easily, and she doesn't even tell me anything.
She trusts people too easily, and she ends up getting severely hurt in her recent "relationships"
(I don't even think its worth calling that. All of them were crappy.)
She's really dumb when it comes to relationships. Her recent-ex "Riley" is an a-hole.
She told me he wrote a note to her calling her a rainbow and skank, saying she was just a booty-call.
She also wrote me a email saying that she drinks when she's depressed and that shes depressed alot lately.
She comes to school with hangovers and headaches, so yeah, she's depressed.

What should I do? I can't talk about it with her, because she won't open up to me. I don't want to leave her alone cause' she's * * * * * insane and bipolar ish. She wrote me a note describing a scene she imagined where she was killing Riley, her ex. It was really, "Saw" (the movie) homicidal and disturbing.

She's my best friend, don't say anything mean or ignorant, honestly. The world would be better off with less ignorant people.

[Mr. Chan]

What should I do? I can't talk about it with her, because she won't open up to me. I don't want to leave her alone cause' she's * * * * * insane and bipolar ish. She wrote me a note describing a scene she imagined where she was killing Riley, her ex. It was really, "Saw" (the movie) homicidal and disturbing.

I like the way she sounds.

Anywho, if she doesn't open up to you then there's nothing you can do about it. The most you can do is just be there for her and just hang out or whatever.

[danger]

If anything, she needs help right now. Talk to her. And I don't mean ask her what's wrong. Confront her and tell her she needs to help. Have you tried telling an adult? It can be anyone: a teacher, her parents, school counselor, etc. I know that when I was depressed, no one helped me because they thought "there's nothing I can do." Bullmini cooper, there is something you can do. Anyways, please tell an adult that you're worried about her before it's too late.

[MangoStar]

You can either try to ride it out until this passes (which I doubt will happen soon) or go get help. Also, tell "Riley" to screw off because he's making the issue worse.

[MNLV27]

When she's doing her usual drinking nights, you can always go and hang out with her, once she's a bit tipsy and relaxed, then you can try talking to her and getting her to talk more openly with you. So you can get an idea of how to help.

One of my girl friend is going through something similar too at the moment. I can't do much because I live out of state, so all I could do is just talk to her on the phone whenever we have time.

[SHINEjaejoong]

Dont let her waste her time being depressed. It's seriously a waste of time.
Tell her that you are there for her and just try to find out why she is acting the way she is acting.
Let her know that she can trust you and try to help her as much as you can. Do your best!
I know that depression is crappy but tell her to think about the positive things. "Riley" wants her to be like this. Is she gonna fulfill his wish?

[terrorist]

sounds like bipolar.
maybe you should tell her to get professional help

[speedlimitER]

Hi there
First of all, I think she has a wonderful friend like you, who trying to be there for her.
Secondly, the reasons that she wont open up to talk because she keeps blaming herself for trusting other people easily and ended up getting hurt and became depressed. So she might not trust anybody else. So as a friend, you can try to stay with her (you dont have to say anything) as long as you can because you won't know what she might do to herself since she has a thought of killing. Since she has low self-esteem, you can try to increase her self-esteem by taking her to places that she often has fun, enjoying foods, playing games or sports. Try to motivate her by pointing out something that she is good at it. If her depression is not getting any better, then a couseling is needed

Good luck to your friend

[meiming8_1]

^^ I agree. Good luck to your friend, I think you should suggest counselling and try to cheer her up

[Bisu]

its obvious she is bipolar. get her on some lithium asap before she does something horrific. either that or she's insane, which is also dangerous. have her go see a psychiatrist or something. she has some major issues that can translate into crime if not treated.

[Swtess]

She doesn't open up to you but she still tells you these things? She's screaming for attention.
She needs professional help and do what you have always been doing and stick by her.

[shortstufflai]

This sounds exactly like my own friend. What I tried to do when she was depressed was try and talk it out with her, and if that didnt work I would just sit there with her to show her that I'm always going to be there for her. So when you're friends out drinking or whatever she's doing cos shes depresed, just go and be with her and give her cmopany. After a while of just sitting there with my friend she eventually told me what was wrong & now she's more happier.

[brap]

Support her how you're doing now. But also try and get her into see someone (professional, counselor, teacher) else to deal with her issues. Imagining murder is a way to release stress especially to someone. I do it, and there is nothing wrong with me. Also if she dreams of murder, there's nothing to worry about there either. Don't listen to the people who tell you she has bipolar, they have not talked to her and so cannot diagnose what she has or doesn't have, that's a job of a professional. Just support her as best you can and be by her side even when she pushes you away. Because chances are the time she's pushing is the times when she needs you the most. It will probably be a long process till she becomes happy again, so stick with it and I hope the best outcome for you both.

[bonjour tristesse.]

Support her. Not through words but emotions. All she needs is time and space, I think everyone has gone through a situation where they wanted to just be left alone for a little while. Be as understanding as possible.

[ediblekimi]

Thank you everyone ^^
I took your advice, and she's doing much better!!
I'm so happy that I came to soompi for help,
power of the internet, right?
Well,
She made up with her ex, but they're not together.
and she doesn't drink anymore, she tells me.
When I meant she doesn't open up to anyone easily, or tell me anything,
I meant she ends up spilling it all out, like all her emotions, that's how I find out eventually.

Thank you everyone ^ ^
happy halloween