[gfntasy]

phew...wow where should I start? I went out with this guy, who I'll call Mike. Anyway, Mike asked me out during the summer before my senior year of college. He's not my type of guy, but I agreed anyway. He's cheesy, a year younger, not good at sports, and completely different from me. However, he's smart, tall, really cute smile, and loves me a LOT. I broke up with him after 8 months of a relationship.

However, we got back together a couple of months after I had graduated from college. Which at that point, I was moving to Texas for graduate school so now it's a long distance relationship...after he graduated, he moved to miami, florida. But now I'm in a weird state. sometimes I get annoyed??? b/c he loves me too much?? I don't know if that even makes sense, but he's to the point where he wants to skype every single second and stuff like that.

I mean, this guy really loves me and i don't think i'll ever find a guy who'll love me like he does.....but at the same time, i find him sometimes annoying...

what's the limit? should i break up with him? or maybe it's my fault for finding him annoying? So should I change? this is my first relationship....yea, i got no clue in dealing with guys in a relationship sense. i need some help

[T-e-z-u-k-A]

Hey, it seems to me that you don't feel anything towards him, even after months of relationship...are you staying with him because he loves you? I guess he's being obsessed with you because he's insecure about your feelings towards him. I mean it often happens when one of the people love the other one more, I suppose he's afraid that you'll leave him someday, thus he has to make sure that you're always there...If this really is the case, personally I don't think it'll be a very healthy relationship. Maybe you need to think about your feelings about him first, he deserves to know the truth (whether he wants it or not). If you really like/love him, then stay with him, and make sure that he knows of that. However, if you just think that he's being purely annoying, you might not have any feelings for him at all. You may need to break up with him if this was the case: why tie yourself down when there are so many other guys out there, choose one that you'll actually fall in love with. Your boyfriend will have to learn to be more independant, he can't just always stick to you, someday he'll meet his other one, who will love him or who he is and will find his annoyingness lovely...Anyway good luck with it huh ^^

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

If you love him, I don't think you should break up with him.
Tell him that you need your space. You have your own life and he has his.

[peppermintsugar]

You're obviously not reciprocating the feelings he has for you, and that's okay, but you have to end the relationship now. Some girls like being smothered and skyping all day long and texting all day and all of that, others don't, or maybe you just don't feel that connection towards him that makes you want to do all of those things -- It's likely that you will want to do all of those things, but with another person somewhere along the line. That's alright, this is what dating is for. It's trial and error. You meet people, you find the things you do and don't like so that you can eventually find a person who fits your proverbial mold of the perfect significant other.

[MrPower]

if you want to hold onto this relationship, the one advice i would give you is to get SOME SPACE.

It looks like you're over the "honeymoon" period of the relationship, and you don't want to talk to him every single waking moment. If this doesn't work, I would rethink your relationship with this guy.

[MNLV27]

Well first of all, you should ask yourself, do I love him or am I IN love with him? It makes a big difference when you can decipher your thoughts between the two.

Think logically, don't go by feelings because feelings are often changing. Can you see yourself without him in the future? Will you be able to see yourself with a different guy? If not, just try talking to him about changing things around in your relationship, make things a bit more exciting? Give you more space, talk only on the weekends or something. Relationship is all about communication, so use it.

[aly_ssa]

I think you should communicate with him, tell him your demands and listen to his then agree on a common deal, and make sure to stand by it. If you can't agreee on a deal, than it's better to break it off because relationships like that would be a waste of time and difficult for the both of you. But yeah, I think you should think twice if you really LOVE him or just love him because you're are afraid no one will ever love you the way he does. And if it's the second category, continuing with him wouldn't make you or him happy

[gfntasy]

thanks for the much needed insight!! We talked once again on skype n we had an honest conversation about our dislikes of each other..he told me to let him go if i'm using him or if i don't like him b/c he doesn't want to be led on which i can totally understand..we're gonna have a talk tomorrow about what i decide after i "think it over" tonight.

But is there such a thing as feeling unsure? I don't know where I stand. I don't know if I want to be with him. It's very complicated to make a decision. How can i make such a decision tomorrow??

[Lie]

It's possible that he's just not the right guy for you, but 9 out of 10 times, in my opinion anyway, when it comes to people under 25 with not a lot of dating experience, it's immaturity and an inability to deal with someone really loving them. People are turned off when the person is chasing them, and turned on when they're the one chasing. How much they want to be with the person is almost entirely dictated not by who that person actually is, but by how available their loves seems to be (readily available = turn-off, unavailable = turn on). Usually they push away the person who really loves them, end up in several relationships with people who are emotionally distant and won't return the love they give them, and down the line they end up regretting the fact that they pushed away the person who really did love them and want to invest in them.

[sus]

hes too clingy
relationships where one S/O is obsessed with the other... is unhealthy

u both need ur own space n time....

talk to him bout it.. see if he will bk off..