[junsujunsu]

Sorry mods. please close this thread. The point of this thread wasn't to see people call my mom a pinkberry rather I wanted to see if people understand why she's like that to me. I really hate it sometimes. Seeing that I portrayed her as a pinkberry hurts...I wanted to say what I dislike about her but ...I don't know...just thanks for your input guys. I guess I should just deal with it and quit being so sensitive.

[Shuga]

I'm sure this is little to no help from me. But I feel like I'm in a similar situation to you.

However, as long as I live under my parent's house and I remember how much they've given to me physically and financially (clothes, a home, an education, etc) rather than what they have given to me emotionally or mentally (like words of affirmation, which I feel you are lacking), I think I can respond with love. ... And remember she had you 9 months in her stomach and labour pains!

You might not have to agree with everything your Mum proposes, but you can comply. Respect them. Keep calm and don't become angry. Always talk calmly and always remember that situations like these are what can mould you into a better person, if you choose to.

[vip_gd]

can I just say,
your mother's a pinkberry.
she sounds like an annoying sister
who butts into your life and does
whatever the hell she likes.

[brap]

I have been in that situation before with my mother. But at the end of the day parents aren't given a book that teaches them or tells them that they have love you, nuture you, encourage you and be kind to you. Remember to live life for yourself to be happy and figure out a way for you to be dependent on yourself and not your mother. What I mean by that is you don't need her acceptance on what type of person you are and where you're heading to. When you get upset, you're allowed to be upset, I would be too if someone was putting me down every chance they get. Maybe it's time you accept this type of relationship, and that things won't change, so you have to. Just concerntrate on studying, getting a job and moving out if things don't improve.

[Pol2ns7al2]

as long as I live under my parent's house and I remember how much they've given to me physically and financially (clothes, a home, an education, etc) rather than what they have given to me emotionally or mentally (like words of affirmation, which I feel you are lacking), I think I can respond with love.

it sounds to me like the parents are providing for her only because its legally mandated that they do so
personally, i can't respond to an emotional void with love, but perhaps you're better than that

You might not have to agree with everything your Mum proposes, but you can comply. Respect them.

its kind of hard to respect the decisions of someone who
1. uses her daughter as a scapegoat
2. loves her son more than her daughters, and doesn't even bother hiding it
3. so poorly raised her son that even at age 9, hes still a spoiled little brat
4. values her own pride so much that she persists in arguments even after causing her daughter grief

junsujunsu, i can't give any words of support since your mom is that terrible
you've already tried to take up this issue with her, and that went to pieces
if you can't deal with this bullmini cooper, all you can do is wait till you're legal, then move out as quickly as you can
unless you're emotionally attached to them of course, and serious props if you can love people like that

[Bisu]

geeze, your brother is only 9 years old. no point in having resentment towards him.
you're seriously complaining about such trivial things. just learn to deal with it. it's not like your mother is ruining your life or something by not getting chopsticks for you.

and holy mini cooper, tossgirl!

[xcutemushroomiex]

I'm in the same situation my brother's nine and he gets away with everything.. my mum and dad both favour him because he's younger than me and is a boy. My mum complains about how messy my room is as well.. if I cry when me and my parents are arguing they both shout at me for crying and say 'How old are you? you're not 5 any more!'. They purposely cause arguments in front of other people so they think I'm disrespectful.. these few days have been the worst..

My mum says it's for my own good that she doesn't want me to become lazy and wants me to learn etc, so maybe your mum is the same. I asked my mum why she treats my brother better than me and she says it's because he's younger and he still has to learn more. Whenever me and my parents have arguments I do remember all the things they have done for me and I would rather be living here at home than starving on the streets even if we do have arguments.

[luv4dawave]

You don't deserve this treatment from your own mother.
You posted a "love-hate relationship" but I don't see the love at all.
I know my mom yells at me a lot and my brother is sooo spoiled, but that's just a majority of asian moms.
My mother does show that she love me at least by hugging me, etc when we are on good terms.

Truthfully, from reading your post...are you sure you're not adopted or something? As bad as it sounds, your mother doesn't deserve a good daughter like you. I don't know how you can put up with something like that for so long.

[sikfahn]

Welcome to the Asian family.

[mentalfiction]

^ LOL.
Um...in situations like these, be VERY dramatic
Just ask a question about death; dying always gets people's attention lol. Just say "would you rather see me die? you know it only takes a second to kill someone. Do you wanna do it, or should I?"
Obviously you're not going to kill yourself, but it makes people feel extremely guilty.
But honestly, I really don't know.
Your mom...she doesn't sound like a mother.
She sounds like she's jealous of you (maybe she had to go through a lot as a kid and she just sees it unfair as to how everything came so easily to you)...or maybe you know how some people see daughters as a burden? Maybe it's that.
I can only say, I'd hate to be in a position such as yours. I hope everything turns out well for you.

[junsujunsu]

No. My mom isn't a pinkberry, she's very loving sometimes too...it's just I feel she's very immature, but I really love her and I wrote this thread to kind of vend because she got me really pissed before and no I'm not a very good daughter.....bleh omg, I feel bad..I'm going to take it off..thanks and sorry for taking up your time.