[SarangHeyo <3]

well i agree with that statement. it really qualifies as myself and im not scared to get into any kind of relationship really. (ahh except for bed buddies. thats a no no.)
it just kinda shows you that when some people say that, they simply mean that. dont take it in a way that im like pointing a finger at you, its just. not true sometimes.
ill admit there are a few people who are scared to get into relationships, but this entire concept of being scared doesnt apply for everyone.
for me i just need to feel that connection. and... well. there was none. except for jae joong. but thats jae joong.

[baboxxyun]

having high standards can mean just that.
i mean, id rather be in a enjoyable, personal relationship than a rushed, culturally-enticed one.

[maivabvaj]

well it depends on the person really right? Idk but my niece has really high standards and well most of the guys that i know she's hung out don't reach that standard. She's just really picky LOL but idk ahah

[xl0v3juicy]

I think that's true. People tell me I need to "lower my standards" cause apparently they're "too high". I guess I come off that way since I'm just scared of falling in love lol ... so REALLY the problem is me, not them... although people always tend to think I have "high standards".

[taebins_luver]

i think people who have high standards will never find someone better than themselves.
too bad eh?



having high standards and being picky are two different things to me really.

[BoAFriend]

I used to tell my mom that when she asked why I haven't had a girlfriend yet but then I realized maybe I'm just too shallow = =

Yes FML I admitted it. I'm shallow -__x

[zkpd]

most people have high standards in exception to the person they like. feelings, they'll hit you without you knowing it . oh another note, i told my aunt and uncle that i had high standards, they laughed and said "well you'd have to be a high standard guy". i was quiet throughout the rest of dinner lol

[aiyan]

Scenario: If someone ask someone why they are single, and they say: I'm just have really high standards"

"This is an excuse used by people who are afraid to get into relationships. They always somehow find flaws in their prospects and decide to continue looking for someone else out there. Therefore, all potential love interests are disqualified even before the first date."

Would you agree with the statement above? If one was to say they simply have high standards, it subconsciously means they're actually just scared to into a relationship.

I agree with the statement up to the un-bolded part... I am like that. I always find flaws in my love prospects, and I'm constantly looking for someone even better. I really DO have high standards, and no I am not scared of relationships. If I found the perfect guy for me, I would go for him.

[j.a*star]

If you'll notice, he did say that all of the black women that he has personally met, are like that, which leads him to have the feelings that he does. He didn't outright say that every single black woman on the planet is like that, so we should all be offended and call him a racist.

"Why do all black women have to be so loud, vulgar and 'ghetto'?."

[Map_The_Soul]

I have some high standards myself, for example: Must have a certain level of intelligence and class, etc.
As for the rest, they are just preferences like: I don't date black women, any girls who act ghetto, dwarf sized...etc.
It's all about preferences...Most people who say that statement probably don't know the differences between being picky and actually having high standards. It could easily be true, but sometimes people can just say that as a sort of denial that they cannot get into a relationship or is afraid of the commitment.

And yet you see ugly guys with the hot girl or vice versa.


About the high standards comment, I'd say people that have standards know what they are looking for in a partner. Or they are just incredibly shallow.

I completely agree with that statement. People with too many standards and mainly too many preferences* are probably one of the 2.

It's not that black women are physically unattractive; I mean I find some that are decent looking. It's their personality. Why do all black women have to be so loud, vulgar and 'ghetto'? I have not met one black girl who is not like this. It seems stereotypical - but it's true, whenever I see black girls they're always yelling about some 'b*tch' this or 'foo' that. It's really annoying...

I don't date black women because of the same reason as you. But I know that not all black women are like that. As a matter of fact, I know some really nice black female friends, but none of them are really what I would go for. Anyway, A LOT of African American Ghetto-type girls I've seen do act like you described above..it's just really a turn off...But this doesn't make us racists, or make us seem like we think highly of ourselves and that the entire race/sex is beneath us...just the people who fit into those stereotypes...Stereotypes exist for a reason..because people who are those stereotypes exist...and many of them exist.

[peppermintsugar]

"Why do all black women have to be so loud, vulgar and 'ghetto'?."

"I have not met one black girl who is not like this. It seems stereotypical - but it's true"
Try again. He's flat out saying that it's an accusation based off of his own personal experiences, NOT that all black women in the world are definitely like this.

[Malice_Kaiser]

I don't date black women because of the same reason as you. But I know that not all black women are like that. As a matter of fact, I know some really nice black female friends, but none of them are really what I would go for. Anyway, A LOT of African American Ghetto-type girls I've seen do act like you described above..it's just really a turn off...But this doesn't make us racists, or make us seem like we think highly of ourselves and that the entire race/sex is beneath us...just the people who fit into those stereotypes...Stereotypes exist for a reason..because people who are those stereotypes exist...and many of them exist.

I don't understand the point of bringing this up at ALL because EVERY race has entire groups of people that fullfill stereotypes. If you went to the southern region of America would you decide that you don't date white people anymore because they're all hillbillies? If you went to a prestigious school in Asia would you decide you don't date Asians anymore because they're all nerdy?

I just don't understand why you'd dismiss an entire race of people because of those who fullfill stereotypes. But there's so much diversity WITHIN races, it just doesn't make sense.

[JinEnjuce]

most people have high standards in exception to the person they like. feelings, they'll hit you without you knowing it . oh another note, i told my aunt and uncle that i had high standards, they laughed and said "well you'd have to be a high standard guy". i was quiet throughout the rest of dinner lol

Ain't that the truth.

And I like your aunt and uncle. They've a sense of humor.

[Melitus]

I don't understand the point of bringing this up at ALL because EVERY race has entire groups of people that fullfill stereotypes. If you went to the southern region of America would you decide that you don't date white people anymore because they're all hillbillies? If you went to a prestigious school in Asia would you decide you don't date Asians anymore because they're all nerdy?

I just don't understand why you'd dismiss an entire race of people because of those who fullfill stereotypes. But there's so much diversity WITHIN races, it just doesn't make sense.

People have preference to what they like and what they don't like. I don't get why you guys are harping on the poor guy. That's like saying I don't date short people because it makes me feel uncomfortable. It is somewhat prejudice to a certain demographic, however it is his preference. I don't date black women because I felt we won't blend as well, nor do I date americanize asian, nor do I date white people...

[Malice_Kaiser]

People have preference to what they like and what they don't like. I don't get why you guys are harping on the poor guy. That's like saying I don't date short people because it makes me feel uncomfortable. It is somewhat prejudice to a certain demographic, however it is his preference. I don't date black women because I felt we won't blend as well, nor do I date americanize asian, nor do I date white people...

Because he stated himself he finds them attractive, but they're all loud an obnoxious.

Excuse me if I think it's dumb to rule out an entire race based off a stereotype EVEN IF you otherwise find them attractive.


I'm not just talking simple tastes. Everyone has tastes.

[~Tropical.Mists]

I have no idea where this argument of race and colour came from >_> I didn't read the entire thread but hmmm... interesting thoughts you guys have ^^''
I'll stick to the point of this thread though without drawing attention to myself >_< I don't exactly agree or disagree with the statement. I think personally that it applies to me. But to most people, it might not.
I DO think that I have high expectations and I'm also afraid to jump into relationships but I don't think that they're related exactly >_> they're only related because when I believe that the guy in question can't meet my expectations and therefore, I reject them before I give them a chance.

--xoxo.
TM

[violet2k]

I don't think thats always true. There's nothing wrong with having high standards. Its alot better than not having any standards at all, don't you think?

And its not necessarily that they find flaws, they just dont meet up to their expectations. Clearly, someone with high standards knows what they want, and are determined to stay single til they find it. I don't think this is a type of excuse, just a matter of you know what your looking for and want nothing below standards.

[ling_ling]

I would have to agree with that statement 100%
I probably do that most of the time ~ one flaw and you see me doubting the relationship even on the first date!

At the moment im trying not to but its just too hard ~ i dont know why ... i think i have trust issues so it seems easier to find a flaw then leave it and not have to trust them and end up getting hurt !!

[Amethist]

lol I'm single with "high standards", but yeah I wouldn't say I'm afraid to get into a relationship, but I do quickly see flaws in the guys that are interested in me. The guys I'm interest in, either have a gf, are gay or just not that into me I guess =/..

Btw I know you guys might think that I should give a guy that likes me a chance, but I did once and it that relationship just didn't have any chemistry at all. See I wasn't really in love with him, I thought he was ok though, so I thought the butterflies would come eventually, but they didn't come at all.
I really don't want another relationship like that again, I only want to have a relationship with a guy I have a crush on, and my heart just doesn't beat faster for every guy >_>.

[hiswendy]

it's very true for me =\ unfortunately.