[Darlingggx3]

Do guys not like girls that can crack jokes and make people
laugh? Or girls that aren't shy and have personality and
are funny? Not obnoxiously but can make people laugh. It seems that way because guys seem to go so much
for shyer quieter girls. I don't know because even
though some guys are my friends it feels like they really don't want to hang around me and
rather hang out with some quiet girls that hardly talk.. ;
Maybe I'm not they're type but do boys like girls who are quiet and shy or girls
who can have a good time and make them laugh?
Because although I'm outgoing (Not being full of it just sayin') it seems no one has
any interest in me.. Its not like I'm hideous or anything either I'm average!
Haha help please? I'm so confused and such a noob whenit comes to this stuff..

[donporkuloin]

Every guy is different, but one thing for sure be yourself! I dislike it when a girl is shy. I hate it when I deal with a girl who pretends to be shy. I've been having the same problem you're having too. Maybe it's where, and how you meet guys? Also, maybe it depends on what type of guy you go for?

[BadCookie]

For me, I like girls that are between shy and talkative but more towards the shy. Why? i tend to get easily annoyed but that's just my taste and preferences.

[NYCgurl]

when guys get comfortable around a girl and they start to create a friendship, the guy will stop seeing the girl as a girl and just see her as a buddy. this happens to me too. :/ i finally asked my guy friend about it and he told me that once a guy has become close to a girl on a friend level, it's hard for him to break out of that.

[chiho]

usually the girls that are active and energetic gets asked out.

Not trying to be mean but maybe there's something wrong w/ ur friends or u 0.0"

[Darlingggx3]

Every guy is different, but one thing for sure be yourself! I dislike it when a girl is shy. I hate it when I deal with a girl who pretends to be shy. I've been having the same problem you're having too. Maybe it's where, and how you meet guys? Also, maybe it depends on what type of guy you go for?

Haha yeah, they're all school friends :'(
There are NO GUYS at our school at all,
any cute nice ones anyways, they're all over
at our neighboring school which is filled!
Yeah, forget them, if they don't like me w/e I fine with myself~

usually the girls that are active and energetic gets asked out.

Not trying to be mean but maybe there's something wrong w/ ur friends or u 0.0"

HAHA I know right,
seems its the opposite here cause
they seem to go for quiet shy girls that are cute :'(
I hope nothings wrong with me, Maybe I'm obnoxious when I joke around
with them? Idk they laugh but when they greet me its not the same as they
greet they're other girl friends. They're just like "Hey," to me and
like "Hey whatssup?" With the other girls..

[teelee]

Actually, I would like to know the answer to this too.
I'm a very outgoing person, and I often crack jokes (that are usually sexual). My guy friends still love me, but other guys would start liking me, then when they finally get my attention, they tell me I'm "awkward" when I say "that's what she said," or something like that. Or they'd tell me they thought I would be a lot more timid, haha. what the hell?

I guess it's only annoying because I'm interested in this guy, and when I asked him I heard he has a thing for soandso he told me it's awkward I'm asking such a personal question. It's weird because he has always been ok with me, now he thinks I'm too "dorky". My friends have this theory that he's only behaving like that because he used to like me a lot (I know this) and now he thinks its weird that I'd be interested 2 years after he confessed.

SORRY FOR RAMBLING ON ABOUT MYSELF.
it's just that I am, just like you, very confused.

[sixth.]

my friend told me that he goes for shyer girls because, when they do finally open up to him, it makes him feel more successful. and also, when the girl is quiet & shy, he feels more dominant/manly. i suppose it's related to the whole "thrill of the chase" thing, as well as their egos.

why not try ask one of your guy friends about it?

[wendaYYY]

It's weird isn't it?

I can't say I'm really that loud, but I talk a lot, and crack a lot of wry jokes that only some will understand.

I used to do crude, sexual jokes, but the thing is, after a while, they become tasteless and annoying to hear.

It was like Asian humour meng. IT AINT COOL TO DISS OUR OWN ASIANS ANYMORE!!

I think guys like more cultured, well-mannered girls who observe ettiquette. And that's the thing, guys who want a girlfriend want an enriching relationship, which does not necessitate that the girl has to make him piss his pants every two minutes.

Jokes with flavour are on.

[peppermintsugar]

I have never encountered this, and have no idea what you're talking about. I'm extremely sarcastic, foul-mouthed, sometimes dirty, and often considered "one of the guys", but most of the time that resulted in "the guys" wanting to put it in me.

[oceanvodka]

Where do you find these guys? I always see them hovering around the more loud girls. : I've always admired outgoing girls for their wit and charm. In my experience, girls get noticed because of that. It seems like that's what most guys are attracted to: Confidence.

Shy and quiet is boring! Or maybe I'm doing something wrong.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

You can't lump what a guy likes and apply it to every kind of guy. Every guy is different, just like how every girl is different. You'd never know what so-and-so guy likes unless you get to know him first.

[strawberrylovee]

I think it really depends. With my confident, joking guy friends, they love girls who can crack a joke but also be really cute & shy at times (: With my shyer friends, they like confident girls. ME, personally, I'm just a mix of those two types of girls, so hahaha, lots of guys like me ==;

[koreanballads]

Your inability to attract guys is a result your mediocre looks, not your "outgoing personality", so stop rationalizing your failures and start working on your appearance.

[Darlingggx3]

Your inability to attract guys is a result your mediocre looks, not your "outgoing personality", so stop rationalizing your failures and start working on your appearance.

Not all people are as shallow as you,
and most people usually don't like
girls that are pretty but have a horrible personality,
so don't write these kinds of things.

[junsujunsu]

i like outspoken people...but then again I ain't a guy...that's not always true...I'm mad quiet, no guys hang with me

[koreanballads]

Not all people are as shallow as you,
and most people usually don't like
girls that are pretty but have a horrible personality,
so don't write these kinds of things.

It's a bit naive and premature to write off that attractiveness for males is largely a function of physical features since there is a variety of literature on the subject and therefore best explains your situation. You described yourself as average looking and unless you've asked a straight male whether you are attractive or not, you'll never be justified in thinking that your looks aren't a relevant factor.

And attractiveness/bad personality vs. unattractive/good personality = false dichotomy. Just because "most people" don't like attractive girls with terrible personalities doesn't make attractiveness and good personalities mutually exclusive. Neither does shyness signal attractiveness.

Assuming your account is true, the only thing you can do is continue finding guys you think will be attracted to a personality like yours. And there is no magical formula for finding them. You posted the OP with the intention of finding an explanation, which I provided.

[junsujunsu]

It's a bit naive and premature to write off that attractiveness for males is largely a function of physical features since there is a variety of literature on the subject and therefore best explains your situation. You described yourself as average looking and unless you've asked a straight male whether you are attractive or not, you'll never be justified in thinking that your looks aren't a relevant factor.

And attractiveness/bad personality vs. unattractive/good personality = false dichotomy. Just because "most people" don't like attractive girls with terrible personalities doesn't make attractiveness and good personalities mutually exclusive. Neither does shyness signal attractiveness.

Assuming your account is true, the only thing you can do is continue finding guys you think will be attracted to a personality like yours. And there is no magical formula for finding them. You posted the OP with the intention of finding an explanation, which I provided.

You're so freaking cruel, but honest. Truth hurts, though there are many unattractive girls who get guys, I do believe that outer appearance has a lot to do with attraction.

[koreanballads]

You're so freaking cruel, but honest. Truth hurts, though there are many unattractive girls who get guys, I do believe that outer appearance has a lot to do with attraction.

*looks around nonchalantly*
*leaves thread*
*resumes work on term paper*

I can't help it...analyzing the OP is a helluva lot more fun than working on schoolwork.

[OMGitzYOU]

IMO : Guys talk and try to get to know "shy" girls more because guys wants the girl to open up and be comfy around them. When you chit chat to a guy w/o him trying to talk to you..there's no "game" involved.