[smjk90]

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We talked and we both admit we have feelings we're going to just see how this goes and go with the flow
sooooo happy yayyyyy

[Mr. Chan]

and slept together.

Friends with benefit?

[Sammiie__x]

not exactly a friend, but not a friend either? o_o

[koreanballads]

You sound like you have no idea what you want. But based on the information you've provided I'd say it's developing into something like a relationship. How often do you see him?

If you prefer something causal, then simply avoid the issue.

[donporkuloin]

You would never know asking us. Go ask the guy, and see what his response is?

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

once you figure out whether you want to be in a relationship with him or not, ummm, ask him. lol.

[evans]

guess for now it's a fling till it progresses further emotionally, imo at least. it's hard cause it gets into the grey area, more of friends, but not quite there yet, and not enough for a relationship. it's hard to ask him about it too unless there are more hints. chat with him more regularly and see what happens? all the best (:

[peppermintsugar]

You ask "so, what are we exactly?"
But if he's already john teshed you without you guys having that conversation already, then it might be safe to assume that you've seen the extent of which he's willing to give you.

[bonjour tristesse.]

Why don't you try asking him himself?

[MR. LEE'S]

just ask him about the thing that is going on between you two.

[dafleur]

nothing is going on. f*ckbuddies, that is all.

[CreativeLife]

theres only so much we can tell you about YOUR relationship with him over the internet with the given information.
Seems to me though, that if you are confused, you will write a confusing statement (which in turn, would confuse us also). IMO, decide if you want to be friends or if you really want a relationship with him. Then, talk to him about it or hint towards it, or just straight up ask him where this is leading (this doesnt mean that it has to be whatever he says, but you can definitely change it if you want to.. just talk to him).

[naoto]

I don't want to talk about this with him, because I guess I'm somewhat scared of relationships....hehe...like I'm more comfortable with short term flings and stuff

what a coincidence! ME TOO!!! Nice to meet you my name's naoto!!!

in all seriousness. This is unhealthy smjk90. I honestly don't know many girls who prefer to have flings / sleeping. I'm not calling you loose or anything, trust me I'm a guy I am TOTALLY okay with this and in fact wish more girls were like you. But at the same time, you mess yourself up if you fling around too much. You won't cherish a real relationship. To answer your question, no the guy doesn't consider this a relationship yet. It is never one until you two:

1.hold hands, couple stuff exclusively for an extended period of time without seeing anyone else.
2.make it official by having the talk

So have the talk.

[yamio86]

Hi all! Hope all is well!

Basically to cut it all short.

I am a 19 year old girl, and met this 24 year old guy a few weeks ago.
We met around 4 times with other people, and slept together.

Now I'm so confused if we are in a relationship or not.

We were like holding hands and all that stuff and even after that night, we kissed each other goodbye, and talked on the phone/facebook chat a few times.

What do you think is going on?

I don't want to talk about this with him, because I guess I'm somewhat scared of relationships....hehe...like I'm more comfortable with short term flings and stuff and even I don't know how I'm really feeling.

But regardless of what I feel I want some third party opinions

wow. met 4 times and slept together? hehe

This is what i called, "friends with benefits," If you like short term relationships then no need to worry or think about what happened or is happening. You know what's going on and you know what you are striving for. It's just an another guy passing by. Until you are ready, to date and and make a commitment then there will be no more confusion. good day!

[mintcracker]

Sleeping together before actually dating or getting together officially? Meh, what do you think?

Most guys will hit and run.
Why?
Think about it. They will think 'if this girl is willing to fck me this easily, she must be like this with other guys too'

Guys might pay more attention to girls that do this, but for a proper relationship....Most prefer girls with more morals.

[Swtess]

well doesn't seem like you want to talk to him about where this relationship is heading and you only like short term, so consider this as a short term then.

If you are really dying to know then go ask him.

[meiming8_1]

You ask "so, what are we exactly?"
But if he's already john teshed you without you guys having that conversation already, then it might be safe to assume that you've seen the extent of which he's willing to give you.

Agreed. You might want to ask him if you're feeling unsure though. Just tell him you like the way it is now.

[x.3christine]

this is more of the friends for benefits type of relationship
if you talk with the guy, you might get a real relationship out of it

[smjk90]

edited my topic ><

really appreciate you guys commenting btw ^^

[es623]

if you know you want a relationship, i think you should talk to him about it. dont sit there hoping he makes the first move, because he might be hoping for the same thing too.