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hey soompi, i normally don't post things like this but i need some advice.

SHORT VERZ:
My roommate has a bf who is over all the time, he is kind of rude, and impolite, and i'm sick of it. on top of that, he is always convincing my roommate that me and all her friends just are hating on him, and she is convinced he is the best thing on green earth (yeah rite lol). This is her first relationship (We are juniors in college) and she is a bit of the desperate melodramatic type. I had a talk with her about her personality change (she seems really fake lately) and about him always at the apt, and ask her not to have him over so often. she agreed, but still thinks i just hate on her bf for no reason. What should i do? some of our other friends are mad at her too and its causing a lot of drama, and i'm not sure what to do. =/


LONG VERZ:
so my roommate and i roomed together cuz we're good friends, and we know each other and our boundaries. However, she met this guy and he is really rude, inconsiderate, stuck up, ....just...ahh! i really don't like him. and its not just me, its all of her girlfriends see it too. We all tell her, you shouldn't just settle for a guy who wants to be in your pants, but she did! and its pathetic. anyways, he is always at the apt, watching tv, being loud, (he is 260 lbs btw) and just really obnoxious. She is really melodramatic, so once i did tell her can you not have him over so much and she got really dramatic of course. and then, she started acting fake or something, and i moved my desk into my room at this point, and she always taps the door to come in and its usually her looking uncomfortable while i work or just petty stuff. And of course he is at the apt and she basically has taken over the den cuz of it. So yeah, one of my friends is pissed at her for this guy, and absolutely won't let her go and keeps telling her you have to stop dating him. I'm a bit fed up at this point and i just want a drama free apt. By accident, i told the friend that the roommates bf didn't like her, and now the girl is pissed. i told her not to say i said it, which she is good about, but in all honesty, i am done. like, done talking about it, and done doing anything to change my roomate. unless she wakes up to see what a moron her bf is, then we shall see what happens. but anyways, what do you guys think? you think its valid opinion? i just don't want drama, and i think my roommate is mad at me because i asked her to not to have him over all the time. help me! i dont know what to do. >_> i don't know how to make things better...or what not...

[Mr. Chan]

Tell her to GTFO and stay with her boyfriend.

[mintcracker]

lol he sounds like a catch.... can't help but giggle that it's her first relationship, but anyway.

Talk things out with her. No confronting, be calm and tell her your problems with her. If she refuses to comply, kick her out.

[Malice_Kaiser]

The thing your roommate has to understand is that she is SHARING LIVING SPACE. She has to work something else out with her roommates or else tell her she has to find somewhere else to live. It has nothing to do with "hating" on people, she isn't the only one who lives there.

[RYUUSEi]

You're all living there and you're all paying rent (I'm assuming), it's not just HER home. I suggest you sit her down with your other roommates and discuss this in a proper manner, don't even let her get the chance to be all dramatic because that's her sneaky way of getting out of things and having her way. Tell her that it's making everyone uncomfortable that her rude boyfriend is over there all the time and since you're all paying to live there, not just her, it's rather unfair to you guys to feel like that in your own home. Give her this one more discussion and TRY to solve things, if she still doesn't change, then I suggest telling her to move in with her boyfriend instead. I think that would save your friendship because if she keeps living with you guys like this, it's headed for destruction.

[MR. LEE'S]

omg, it must be hard for you eh? if i were you, i will do the same thing too. i'm too scared to be honest with my friends because they're not that easy to accept my opinions about their doings- especially the annoying one. well, i think- you have the right to tell her the truth. ask her to stop doing these ridiculous things since both of you are sharing same spaces. and tell her in the nice way, since it will help her to get everything

[HaplessChild]

If she's paying half of the rent you can't tell her to do or not do anything.