[donporkuloin]

I used to be confident, but then things ended with my ex. Long story short she cheated on me. It took a while for me to get over it. It ended ast December, and I'm just now moving on from it. Point being since my break up I've been so shy. Like I used to approach females all the time, but now it's so hard for me to do it. At times I want to, but it's like an invisible chain is holding me back at times. I wonder if anyone can relate to that?

I've went on a few dates though, but they were horrible!!!!! Then when I got the nerve to approach a few girls it went bad. Like I approached one girl. She told me she came in town just to see her bf. If you were in my shoes wouldn't your confidence be down after that?

I'm switching college's soon, and my goal is to get out of this shyness phase I've been in. I've been told I dress good, etc. But idk. I'm just sort of uncertain of myself these days Any suggestions on what a guy can say when it comes to approaching girl in public?

[bellarose]

Just be yourself. Yes, cliche but true. Don't try to be someone you're not. Usually girls can tell when a guy is faking it or trying too hard...and it's very unattractive.

You might be thinking too much about getting back into a relationship. Go into a conversation thinking you just want to make more friends.

I don't know....being a girl, I don't think I could give you very helpful advice.

[kcn_]

if your switching colleges it'll be a fresh start
find someone cute and sit next to them your first day, casual conversation
simple small talk, a smile and "how do you do" when you run into them around
campus is an excellent way to make new friends and in turn you'll eventually meet their friends
and your social network will broaden (no not on fb ).

in my case the more people i'm around the less shy i become. If i'm all by myself my voice gets really quiet and i get super shy and my face goes red even if you look at me -.-
i don't know if your the same but if you are that was a pretty solid solution for me haha~

[naoto]

I've went on a few dates though, but they were horrible!!!!! Then when I got the nerve to approach a few girls it went bad. Like I approached one girl. She told me she came in town just to see her bf. If you were in my shoes wouldn't your confidence be down after that?

I'm switching college's soon, and my goal is to get out of this shyness phase I've been in. I've been told I dress good, etc. But idk. I'm just sort of uncertain of myself these days Any suggestions on what a guy can say when it comes to approaching girl in public?

She came to town to see her bf, so? No why would you have lower confidence after that. Maybe I didn't understand the situation well but regardless, you're a guy with lots of experience you should know that it takes us 10 tries to get 1 girl. Most of them will say you're not her type even, which is kind of worse than someone who has a bf already.

I switched schools and it has been a life saver for me. I got out of my rut and started approaching people... and yeah not all of which turned into super best friends. Got turned down quite a few times also, but in the end succeeded. I can't imagine giving donporkuloin advice on getting girls though... seems wrong telling the chief what to do.

[meiming8_1]

awww you sound sweet from this post just try to keep putting yourself out there, and don't get discouraged. A new school is a new start anyway. Good luck you sound like a nice guy from your post!

[Maipcrkiyl]

Be yourself.
Just don't try too hard!

Hm, but what to say to a girl...
Errrr, I'm personally really shy around people I don't know. =x
If there's that awkward silence/awkward atmosphere going on, I usually just don't make an attempt to revive it. Cause then it just gets more awkward...
Sorry.

[Murdaaa]

Run out but naked and scream "I AM STRONG!"

[dearest.me]

Some girls like the shy guys.

[donporkuloin]

She came to town to see her bf, so? No why would you have lower confidence after that. Maybe I didn't understand the situation well but regardless, you're a guy with lots of experience you should know that it takes us 10 tries to get 1 girl. Most of them will say you're not her type even, which is kind of worse than someone who has a bf already.

I switched schools and it has been a life saver for me. I got out of my rut and started approaching people... and yeah not all of which turned into super best friends. Got turned down quite a few times also, but in the end succeeded. I can't imagine giving donporkuloin advice on getting girls though... seems wrong telling the chief what to do.

It lowered my confidence, because I was super nervous about approaching her. I literally jogged across the street, and hung up my phone just to go approach her. LOL. When I approached her the eye contact and facial expression looked like she was happy that I came up to her. Then she told me she was in town for her bf, and then it was that awkward silence. Then FML came into my head. I just felt like I wished I didn't say anything to her. Wow. Thanks for the compliment. I do have wisdom when it comes to giving advice, but I'm human just like everyone else. I'm glad I read your story, because that is giving me hope for when I switch schools.

Murdaaa: Your response made me laugh really hard. LMAO!!!

meiming8_1: Thanks for what you said.

kcn_ : LOL at the not on fb comment.

dearest.me: I always thought being shy was a turn off for females?