[gotseoul?]

My best friend. I've liked her for the entirety of high school, so nearly four years. During sophomore year, I confessed to her which resulted in about a year of no contact because she didn't return the feelings. I nearly got over her during that period until, through some chance events, we began talking again and fell straight back into being best friends. Naturally, all my feelings for her came rushing back; and I think they came back even stronger as her and I became closer than ever.

That's where we are now..and just to help clear up the point of this thread, I think I need to post some info about her..

She's the bubbly, happy person that everyone loves to be around. She makes people feel at ease and comfortable without even trying. Some people take this as flirting, but it's just her personality. But, she has a whole different side that is pretty much solely shown to me. Concisely put, it's not that she isn't a naturally happy person , but she feels that she has to put up her happy image because otherwise people pester her about not being okay. She has lots of superficial friends, but very few close friends. So she's friends with a lot of guys, but she's only completely herself with me.

Now, for the actual purpose of this thread,

Just a few days ago, I mustered up the courage to straight out ask her who she likes. This subject became avoided after what happened with me confessing, so it was new for both of us. (Before this, I just speculated...which drove me crazy. haha) She was silent for a bit, and said that there was no one. But after a little coercing, she said that she wasn't sure about her feelings towards someone, but that there was someone. And...that person was me. I didn't press any further and nor did I tell her about my feelings.

Because, I don't know what to make of this. I don't know whether she likes me only because there's no other guy she really talks to, and only thinks that she likes me; or is she being honest about her feelings. And even if she does truly like me, does the fact that she said she wasn't sure about her feelings mean that she was worried about telling me straight forward that she likes me? Or is she truly unsure?

I know this is pathetic, and that's why I don't even mind some harsh responses. Haha. I know her inside and out, and I should know best what she's feeling...but I don't. I'm too surprised to get my senses straight. And it doesn't help, that she's naturally a difficult person to understand.

Thanks.

[RYUUSEi]

She probably realized how much she likes you when you two didn't keep in contact for that one year, the "you don't know what you have til it's gone"-kind of thing. Now she's just confused on what to do, she might not be 100% sure it's romantic feelings so she was hesitant in telling you but then decided to confess anyway. Most likely she didn't want to get your hopes up just yet because she's unsure herself if she wants to pursue a relationship with you or remain friends, and that's why she said "no one" at first. I have no idea on how you should continue on from here, it's a tricky situation because you don't want to pressure her and scare her off by confessing once again (and put your friendship at risk) but at the same time, you don't want to just let it be for too long because she might take it as you not responding to her feelings and try to get over you.

I don't think it has anything to do with "no other guys around to like so hey, I'll just take him" though. Good luck.

[dearest.me]

She talked to you because she liked you. You should confess to her anyhow before it's too late. No harm in trying!

[gotseoul?]

She probably realized how much she likes you when you two didn't keep in contact for that one year, the "you don't know what you have til it's gone"-kind of thing. Now she's just confused on what to do, she might not be 100% sure it's romantic feelings so she was hesitant in telling you but then decided to confess anyway. Most likely she didn't want to get your hopes up just yet because she's unsure herself if she wants to pursue a relationship with you or remain friends, and that's why she said "no one" at first. I have no idea on how you should continue on from here, it's a tricky situation because you don't want to pressure her and scare her off by confessing once again (and put your friendship at risk) but at the same time, you don't want to just let it be for too long because she might take it as you not responding to her feelings and try to get over you.

I don't think it has anything to do with "no other guys around to like so hey, I'll just take him" though. Good luck.

I'm leaning towards the same conclusion that you said too, especially about not being 100% sure about it being romantic feelings. And you got exactly why I can't tell her about my feelings. Pretty much, you're right about everything. Haha. I really don't want her to lose her feelings if there are some, so I feel like I have to act quickly.
Thanks for the reply!

She talked to you because she liked you. You should confess to her anyhow before it's too late. No harm in trying!

Actually, there is a harm in trying...but I agree that I have to do something before it's too late. I just don't want to mess things up again. Thanks for replying!

[peppermintsugar]

Oh man, another troll who thinks he's funny, thank goodness! What would we do without them?

[McChicken]

ah strangely im in a similar situation but she already has boyfriend

i'm guessin she's probably unsure, and sounds a bit like you could be pressuring her.

perhaps she feels to young to consider a boyfriend

[gotseoul?]

ah strangely im in a similar situation but she already has boyfriend

i'm guessin she's probably unsure, and sounds a bit like you could be pressuring her.

perhaps she feels to young to consider a boyfriend

Well, not pressuring her is the only thing I'm doing at the moment. The way I approached her about telling me if she liked anyone wasn't at all forced, and after she told me, I did nothing more. I haven't brought it up again, nor did I tell her my own feelings.

We've talked about the idea of boyfriends/girlfriends in general already. As in, is a high school relationship worth it at all. She didn't show any signs of not wanting a boyfriend, but she did say that she didn't fully understand why some people seemed to need a s/o. We're both nearly 18..so yes, we're young. But not that young.

[krazeexsportskid]

my guess is that she's confused about her own feelings just as much as you are.
don't get ahead of yourself.

talk to her.

[gotseoul?]

my guess is that she's confused about her own feelings just as much as you are.
don't get ahead of yourself.

talk to her.

I know that I have to talk to her, and the sooner the better. Because I'm worried that she might be thinking that I don't have any feelings for her since I didn't say anything the night she confessed.

And also, there are a lot of guys that are openly chasing after her, so that doesn't help my situation much. haha.

[MR. LEE'S]

just say- "i like you too!" and maybe end it with a kiss- or hug.

[LiLi_xox]

Just talk to her!! tell her how you feel.
As you said she is your bestfriend so it would be easier to talk to.

[COOKiiESrYUMM]

oh gosh.
this same thing is happening to me like right now lol.
except im a girl.
the guy i like told me he liked me but i still have doubts sometimes :\
i can understand what youre feeling.