[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Be confident!
It's not what you wear or how you look, but how you present yourself.

[chiluvskk]

So what are you saying? That if I was fat and ugly I would be looked down upon and labeled as 'ugly'? I disagree with this completely. Maybe theoritically speaking, first impressions matters. So of course if it was the first time I was meeting this guy, then yeah us girls would probably want to look our best. But as far as I'm concerned, a guy should be able to like you even when it's at your worse.

I don't think the poster was trying to say that a guy would only like you for your looks and when you look good. but she/he meant that in order to first attract a guy you've gotta look good and be confident. that's how he'll approach you and then get to know you, and then like your personality and be able to like you even when you look bad. that's just reality and how it works. She means that if you were fat and ugly chances are that less guys would approach you unless you make an effort to look good.

You can love your boyfriend even when he hasn't taken a shower and looks like a homeless person lol but that's b/c you already know him. otherwise would you be attracted to him and want to get to know him better if the first time you saw him like that? I don't think so.

And even in longterm relationships and marriages you still have to keep up an effort to look good. it doesn't give you a chance to look bad, yes your guy should love you even when you look bad but that doesn't mean you can just give up and always look bad. I shouldn't even have to explain this b/c sheesh no matter how much you love each other, attraction is still in part based on looks and that's also an important part of keeping the relationship exciting and long lasting.

[koreanballads]

seriously.

You're still young, don't worry about boys. At that age, most of them just care about who dates the hottest looking girl. But what is in important now and later on is to have confidence and be yourself. My ex always said "It doesn't matter how good a person looks now because it won't last forever. However, personality does."

...and this is why women should never take advice about men from other women. Newsflash: attractiveness will always be a priority.

[commedesgarcons]

start talking to guys more and soon you'll find yourself in love triangles~

from experience

[NEEKA902]

Guys don't have to LIKE you FOR your looks, but you NEED to look good for them to willing to approach you and get to know you.
If you're fat and ugly, why would they even bother to talk- in fact, why would they even bother to LOOK at you? honestly speaking, do you like looking at ugly things? Cuz I most definitely don't.
and you're not looking good FOR THEM, you look good for yourself. the guys that get attracted are just the side effects.

Ahahahahaha...i laughed so hard at this.
but yeah, you should look good for yourself, not for them!

[JinEnjuce]

...and this is why women should never take advice about men from other women. Newsflash: attractiveness will always be a priority.

Yeah, but personality and wisdom win out in the end. Comedian Ron White puts it best when he said;

"If I could offer one piece of advice to the planet, it would be this: Don't marry for looks alone, and I'll tell you why. In a few years, when Barbara's boobs start sagging, she can get plastic surgery, have them lifted, move the nipple wherever. You can actually go to a titty bar, pick out a set of titties and say, "I want those titties on that woman." If her belly gets too big, she can get a tummy tuck and have a belly like a cheerleader. If her vision goes bad, you can have LASIK surgery and have 20/20 vision. If her hearing goes bad, they can install a device in her ear that will give you hearing as clear as it was the day you were born. But let me tell you something, folks: You can't fix stupid. There's not a pill you can take; there's not a class you can go to. Stupid is forever."

I realize this goes against my previous post, but that one was the answer for a short term. OP should really follow this one

[koreanballads]

Yeah, but personality and wisdom win out in the end. Comedian Ron White puts it best when he said;

"If I could offer one piece of advice to the planet, it would be this: Don't marry for looks alone, and I'll tell you why. In a few years, when Barbara's boobs start sagging, she can get plastic surgery, have them lifted, move the nipple wherever. You can actually go to a titty bar, pick out a set of titties and say, "I want those titties on that woman." If her belly gets too big, she can get a tummy tuck and have a belly like a cheerleader. If her vision goes bad, you can have LASIK surgery and have 20/20 vision. If her hearing goes bad, they can install a device in her ear that will give you hearing as clear as it was the day you were born. But let me tell you something, folks: You can't fix stupid. There's not a pill you can take; there's not a class you can go to. Stupid is forever."

I realize this goes against my previous post, but that one was the answer for a short term. OP should really follow this one

I can grant this since it's talking about marriage. But most heterosexual males around the OP's age are not looking to settle down so the most economic route would be to improve her appearance. If you were to compare stupidity vs. attractiveness, you'd see the threshold for attractiveness would conform roughly to a normal distribution, meaning females who are below, let's say 2 or 3 standard deviations, will have difficulty attracting men. Stupid but attractive chicks, however, have a more even distribution and will have an overall easier time getting men.


Not scientific, but my experiences in bars generally support this. Attractive females usually get hit on the most while less attractive females get hit on less.

[myxo]

I can grant this since it's talking about marriage. But most heterosexual males around the OP's age are not looking to settle down so the most economic route would be to improve her appearance. If you were to compare stupidity vs. attractiveness, you'd see the threshold for attractiveness would conform roughly to a normal distribution, meaning females who are below, let's say 2 or 3 standard deviations, will have difficulty attracting men. Stupid but attractive chicks, however, have a more even distribution and will have an overall easier time getting men.


Not scientific, but my experiences in bars generally support this. Attractive females usually get hit on the most while less attractive females get hit on less.

Attractive females with a just okay bod gets hit on less often than less attractive females with a bangin' bod. Ohhhh how nothing is ever good enough for u men... But I must agree with ur post though, at the OP's age, most guys aren't ready for a serious relationship. They don't care much for nasty personalities as long as they are obsessed with how the girls look..

[iyagi]

WHAAAT in the world are you worrying about that for lol?
well, I guess I understand why. hormones and whatever, and whatnot.

but I hope you don't think you have to dress in short skirts, heels, and tanks tops to get guys' attention because that's the wrong kind of attention. Just relax, don't worry too much about it. When you reach the right age and find a guy who's not just looking for looks, all the superficial stuff won't even matter, so don't waste your time trying to "be more attractive" because there's nothing wrong with you in the first place!

who knows? maybe you did catch some guy's attention already. Trust me, guys can be really shy too :| lol

[sjam415]

Other than trying to be yourself...

You can try wearing tighter closing that empathize your assets. Also flirting then play hard to get works!