[baabygirl]

Kay guys, so basically I'm gonna tell you about this guy that I've been posting about alot. Sorry if it's super long

Well, basically we're "BESTFRIENDS". I met him last year when I moved to his school, and we instantly had a connection. We'd be together in school all the time, and when we'd go home we'd talk until the next morning. Neither of us had feelings for eachother though. Later on, another girl came along. She hooked up with his best guy friend while he had a girlfriend, so they basically had an affair.

Later, my bestfriend ( The guy this post's about ) started talking to her after his bestfriend and the girl were over. They both had a strong connection too. Because of their friendship, ours went in the backburner and was no longer a priority. Eventually, she ends up having feelings for him, and confessing to him, but he didn't feel the same way. After the confession, he'd complain about how clingy and annoying she is and how he never wanted to talk to her. Because they drifted, our friendship was his first priority all over again.

Then, I don't know what the hell changed between them, but he began to talk to her again and would cancel plans with me to hang out with her, all along claiming to "not have feelings for her". Then, I started having feelings for him. I realized that I would get extremely jealous when he'd talk to other girls and all, and I eventually confessed to him also. He told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship and that he wanted our friendship to stay how it was.

But the thing is, our friendship is not only a friendship. He also constantly gets jealous and protective when I talk to other guys, and we call eachother HUSBAND & WIFE. He always tries to have a 'friends with benefits' type relationship with me, and is even givng me a PROMISE RING for christmas . Yet, he doesn't like me back.
And all this time, he would still ignore me for this other girl. I don't know what to do. He always invites me to come over and do stuff that uhm, couples do. And we flirt 24/7.

One of his best guy friends has told me that him basically rejecting my confession had nothing to do with me at all. He said that he knows for a fact that he does not want a girlfriend until after highschool. I don't understand, does that mean he wants me to wait around? THIS IS COMPLETE BULLmini cooper !

Basically, I don't even know if we're still bestfriends or what. I don't know wth our friendship is.
Kay, basically this whole thing was just a huge vent. Thanks . !

[INFP]

Looks like he cant even accept his feelings for you.

[Nine]

Looks like he's lost in his own world of feelings, lol.

[Trinity <3]

I think you might have to give him an ultimatum if you like him that much. It's either "you like me" now or "you like that other girl"... don't wait for him if you're just going to be a back up..

[XangelXtranX]

Oww.I think I know what you feel like...
Hmm...I think maybeh you should pick a time to talk to him and really make it clear..cuz sounds like hes trying to use u...worse they could be calling u a ***** so really talk to him and ask him

[queenxmabel]

I think that you guys should talk it out. Talk about where you guys stand as "bestfriends" if the pressure of being friends is too much, you guys should probably stay away from each other.

[MNLV27]

You shouldn't waste your time liking someone like this. He clearly knows that he doesn't want a relationship with anyone or so he says, yet he's willing to do a friends with benefits. This should already show you that he's not going to like you like that anytime soon. Why waste a time with him when you're only second to the other girl?

[RawrPandaGoes]

My recommendation is quite a simple one: if you really do like him as much as you make it seem, wait until the end of high school. I know it's not very realistic in this day and age, but it'll be well worth it for two reasons:

1. your feelings for him may die down
2. he can finally accept his/your feelings

There's one major problem, though: you might keep liking him, but he might stop liking you.

So my questions is: do you want to wait it out, or do you want to take a gamble and try to get him to accept his/your feelings before the end of high school but risk messing up your friendship?

[fredinsac]

There's only one reason to have friends with benefits. It's to do all the physical things that couples do without any of the emotional attachment that comes along with it. And of course he would be jealous because even though it might not seem like it, to him you are his "possession" almost like a pet. He is afraid of losing you to someone else because then he can't play with you anymore. Everything he's doing is to just keep you around so that when he wants you then you're there. The promise ring, the pet names, all that crap. But truthfully, you're letting him use you because you think that if you do what he wants then your relationship with him will change. Stop lying to yourself. If you know he invites you to his house to do "couple things" and don't like it then why the hell do you still keep going over there? Say no. Hell, at least make him buy you a meal first.

[x.3christine]

wow..this is complicated
first of all, i don't even think you guys are really friends.
he doesn't really treat you like a friend from what you described
this is more like an on and off relationship without the actual confirmation of being a couple

this relationship isn't really helping the both of you guys
you guys might be "friends" and what not but, he can be a jerk

[Danieruchann]

ive gone through nearly the same exactt thing as you.
Waiting around sucks.
For me, we never became anything more and id always be there to pick up the pieces once things didnt work out with another girl. it hurt so muchh, because we basically acted, as you and that guy, like a husband and wifee lol. and i always thought of myself as a good person for him, and him for me but yea those were childish feelings of mines /rant

So you should make sure you're clear on how you each feel about each other, so you don't waste a bunch of time on this.

[schofield]

HE sounds like a jackass.
He's probably leading the both of you on, wanting only the physical aspects of the relationship but not the responsiblities that come with it. He enjoys the attention from you, which is why he gets jealous, but yet he's allowed to focus on both of you.
Maybe talk to the girl. Chances are he's having a physical relationship with her also.

[sus]

seems like hes having his cake and eating it too
i mean when things are down with the other girl he comes bk to u
when they become good he ditches u

think u should find another friend.. n someone else to like ...