[MizzprEEETy]

I'm not sure if there's a thread about this or not, if so, mod can close it.

For those that are married or engaged...how do you know that person is the one?...the right one? Do you still have doubts about your SO every now and then or...no matter how mad they make you, you know that...there is no one else out that, that match you like your SO.

It just...my boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We are still young, but then again...we don't want to waste our times if we feel like we will be together in the future. I do want to be with my boyfriend, it just...there so many flaws that make me doubt, and wonder...can I find someone that is better or more compatible with me.

[fredinsac]

You don't. People can change and people do change. You can only pray and hope that they treat you well for the rest of your life.

[mintcracker]

Usually the one that blends with you pretty seamlessly will have you acknowledge their flaws but still not really care bc you know he and you are a unit, and that it's those little flaws that make him special.
I don't like throwing around 'the one' and 'meant to be'
I think I'd only say that after marriage and when the marriage goes well.

And you'll know when that day comes. It's like asking how do you know when it's love? You just know.

[EGLx]

i dont really believe in "the one" or soulmates. i think everyone has more than one of those, its a matter of being in the right place at the right time. i think its us who has to make the decision of them being the one, and deciding not to choose a different "one" after being married. its a matter of growing with each other and realizing they are the one you want. theres also a big difference between love and devotion (imo). i was with a guy for 2 years... and after it was over, i realized that somewhere in those 2 years i stopped loving him, and stayed because we grew and matured together and became devoted to him. i just didnt want to let something go that i've had for so long

[Soshii_love]

You don't. People can change and people do change. You can only pray and hope that they treat you well for the rest of your life.

ha, my mom always tell me that whenever i ask her that similar question!

[happybeee]

well..you can't really know..people do change.

[Mannosuke]

Flaws? Big deal, take the risk and keep pressing forward! Billionaires didn't get to where they were playing safe.
And surely they didn't get to where they were without any disappointments and struggles along the way.

[Cheri.B*]

The future is unpredictable so you just don't know whoever is the right one for you.
The problem is if you keep thinking like this, it will cause too many doubts with your relationship

Does he makes you happy?
Care for you?

Don't over think these kind of stuff, but gl to you~

[kariiquacks]

It's hard. It really is. This will sound EXTREMELY cliche but it's true, listen to your heart & mind. You just have to feel it.
You guys will accept each other for who you guys are, your flaws, the way you do things, talk, act, everything. Of course people change so you will have to look out for that.

I sort of believe in, "THE ONE" but then again I don't. You will just happen to find someone who will make you FEEL like they are "the one". And that is just good enough for us. Someone we can feel happy with, sad with, and feel pain with. Because "the one" may be across the world for all you know. It just depends on where you are and such circumstances. Fate. I've had a long distant relationship and we just couldn't work it out so it was time to move on.

Here is a nice little Chinese myth I love <3 ; http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_string_of_fate

[myxo]

The weird thing about love is learning to accept someone's flaw. Like someone said, people do change. It's sad when someone u know becomes someone u knew. However, love is a gamble, a gamble of trust, commitment, stuff like that. U don't know the future for sure, but u can control urself and how u act to try and work ur way around things.

[MizzprEEETy]

i dont really believe in "the one" or soulmates. i think everyone has more than one of those, its a matter of being in the right place at the right time. i think its us who has to make the decision of them being the one, and deciding not to choose a different "one" after being married. its a matter of growing with each other and realizing they are the one you want. theres also a big difference between love and devotion (imo). i was with a guy for 2 years... and after it was over, i realized that somewhere in those 2 years i stopped loving him, and stayed because we grew and matured together and became devoted to him. i just didnt want to let something go that i've had for so long

Sometime I ask myself the same thing..."Am I with him, because we have been together so long for me to throw it all away." It must took a lot for you to realize that it's better to let go instead of holding on to it just because you invested 2 years in it.

Thanks everyone for your opinions...