[~dhluvr4ever~]

Okay guys,
So as a sensitive person, I did not take the splitting of my friendship
very well.

And I know, friends come and go, but I sincerely cared for them -
yet because of a minor mistake I made - they kicked me out of the friendship.
Our ship, has sunk. Well atleast between me and those other two -.-

So, if you're willing to share some of your friendship breakups (?) that would be fantastic.
reasons why, how you coped (because I tried writing letters of apology, not asking
to become friends again, but simply expressing my side of the story - but they're
stubborn ) and whether you guys became friends again or not.
or something like that ;D
Pretty please? < 3

if posted already, please close then ^-^

[XangelXtranX]

Lol ... ahah I never had so many friends to deal with in the first place. In highschool I hang out with mostly people who are in higher class than me so they just come and go...Graduation and etc.
I however have a really good friend...Well even though we don't keep in touch a lot due to because we both have different lifestyle schedule etc. But I remember in grade 8, we had some misunderstood and she sorta deleted me on Facebook...but we was able to become friends again which is pretty cool.
So in my situation, I can't really lose what I've never had before...

[~dhluvr4ever~]

Lol ... ahah I never had so many friends to deal with in the first place. In highschool I hang out with mostly people who are in higher class than me so they just come and go...Graduation and etc.
I however have a really good friend...Well even though we don't keep in touch a lot due to because we both have different lifestyle schedule etc. But I remember in grade 8, we had some misunderstood and she sorta deleted me on Facebook...but we was able to become friends again which is pretty cool.
So in my situation, I can't really lose what I've never had before...

Ahhhh. But the fact that you guys become friends again is good (:
Sigh. Because I doubt we'll become friends again. but hey! Thanks for sharing ;]

[Danieruchann]

okay like i experience the same thing as you almost!

So it was last year, and i was friends with these 2 boys who were 1 grade level younger then me.
We were really good friends and went places together and they meant alot to me.
But they kinda kicked me out ~

And yea, i was really hurt. I think i cried over them.. I saw them as brothers. I guess brothers can be mean..
Anyways, They tried to talk to me at lunch and explain things but i avoided them, cause Im one of those people who cry easily for no reason.(its so annoying!) I really miss them but whatever, they arent good friends for me and it would be too painful to try and hold on to them. We never became friends again, but i occaisionally see them and we dont hate each other either we just dont really like each other as friends anymoree.. if that makes sense at all. yea.

[d00lie]

the most ridiculous one was with one of my closest friends in high school just a year ago. it was between a guy & senior ball. yeah you're probably thinking, oh its a triangle relationship or whatever. it's not. it was like a drama upon drama upon another drama.

basically this guy wanted to go with me. and i didn't. so me and my friend were gonna go together as stag but then this huge drama ensued to the point where i was going to lose all my guy friends since they are all friends with him (yeah this has a ridiculous story too. will save for another day) so. i changed my mind and decided to go with that guy. and when i told her the situation, and although she seemed miffed she told me she understood so i thought she was ok with it. then the next day, i'm trying to initiate small talk like usual. and she gave me the silent treatment. i apologized on more than several occasions but she wouldn't even look at me. i figured she would forgive me after the dance.. but it never happened.

and basically, after trying to reconcile for a month, i gave up. i was angry and hurt and yeah it's my fault, but i didn't think i deserved such a treatment. i mean sitting in the same room with her in that tense atmosphere made me feel like a prisoner. and it was like that until school ended. couple weeks later, she moved to korea b/c she was going to a university there. and we have not talked since.

i had a hard time coping with it in the beginning. cuz i had so much mixed feelings about it. i felt guilty, angry, sad, hurt, confused etc. plus my parents and i fought a lot b/c they used to try to advice/intervene on what i should do whatever b/c her family and my family are pretty close which annoyed me like crazy. they kept telling me i needed to try harder and my dad? he wouldn't even listen to me and said i was in the wrong for being mad since i'm 100% at fault etc. (that's another story... but that one worked out :] )

recently it was her birthday so i still left her a message on facebook. both to wish her a happy birthday & i told her that to me, it's a thing in the past. just telling her that, made me feel so much better. i feel like i could really put it behind and it stopped weighing me down every time i thought about how broken our friendship became. i'm half hoping it has also cooled down on her side enough so that she'll talk to me, but even if she doesn't. i think it's ok now. it used to bug me a lot, but i'm figuring hey, the world is pretty small & we have a long time ahead of us.

although i'm don't get worked up as i used to about this topic but i'm mad at losing a friend who has been so close, almost a sister figure over the dumbest thing in my entire life. i regret that entire incident like no other not only for that reason, but for probably trillion other reasons.

[SarangHeyo <3]

umm. well mine was... i went to china because my grandpa was having health problems
when i came back to canada, my so called best friend told me that she didn't want to be friends
she didn't even give me a reason. other people told me.
apparently it was because i joke around too often.
i told her almost everything, and she promised that she wouldn't reveal it.
but today, i know she did because people are saying things about my past ' relationship ' with this guy that everyone liked at one point.
when she left, everyone left too. even my like five year best friend, and she had no reason.
everyone turned on me, i had absolutely no friends, from being one of the most popular people in the school to being a nobody. all in one hour.
i didn't cry, i wasn't that sad. because why would i need a person who exposed my secrets to people to be my friend? she said that i didn't react, and didn't change, and guess what? go fcuk yourself if you want me to change. why would i do that?
i don't miss them. i really dont, they backstabbed me and expect me to apologize to them and ask for what is it, forgiveness? why the hell would i do that?
at that time, i closed myself off to everyone. i still had like... three friends that were loyal to me ( yeah out of like 200....) and i even closed off to them. there was only one person that i.. that i told everything. i was in a safe and small rectangle where only one person is allowed to enter. it wasn't pretty.
then one of the gossip girls told my past friend that i lost connection about me adn that guy. she told me her story and asked about him. she really made me happy that night, so we kept on talking. i didn't tell her at first, but then we talked about everything and soon we were really close friends. then i told her my story, and i even helped her settle her problem with this other guy and now us three are 'homies' (long story).
mm we're best friends now, even if she's one year younger than me. there are rumours about me trying to find another 'jenny' ( my ex five year best friend ) in another person, but that isn't true. i don't care much about rumours because.. well there's too many to care about. xDD. mm ive been called a loner, but that just says that i'm an individual. and i love that.
then another girl came in my life, and shes quite stupid but i love her. now i have REAL friends that don't tell people sh.it about me, and i'm loving it.

[~dhluvr4ever~]

okay like i experience the same thing as you almost!

So it was last year, and i was friends with these 2 boys who were 1 grade level younger then me.
We were really good friends and went places together and they meant alot to me.
But they kinda kicked me out ~

And yea, i was really hurt. I think i cried over them.. I saw them as brothers. I guess brothers can be mean..
Anyways, They tried to talk to me at lunch and explain things but i avoided them, cause Im one of those people who cry easily for no reason.(its so annoying!) I really miss them but whatever, they arent good friends for me and it would be too painful to try and hold on to them. We never became friends again, but i occaisionally see them and we dont hate each other either we just dont really like each other as friends anymoree.. if that makes sense at all. yea.

Aw ! The situation is indeed similar! That's okay *pats you on back*, i don't wish to face them either.
It did make sense, thanks a whole lot for sharing (: it makes me feel better about myself ahhaa,
im so selfish.
but friends come and go, hopefully you'll find more TRUE faithful friends who stick with you thru
thick and thin

[AhYee]

Broken friendships rarely happen to me because I only have a few close friends that I really treasure. But yes, I lost a friend just last year, kind of like what happened to you? Or not...

He was a really good friend of mine. We did almost everything together, and was almost inseparable in high school. He's not an easy person to handle, but I was able to because he was important to me. Whenever people said bad things about him, I would defend him. I knew a lot of people didn't exactly like him because of the way he acted and how he handled things. As much as I knew how annoying he was, or how wrong he can be, I never said a single word to him because I didn't want to hurt him. You see, he's a very sensitive guy. You can say one bad thing to him, and he'll hate you forever. He kept on doing things and saying things that people didn't approve or might take as offensive, and he slowly lost friendships. Yet I still defended him saying he was at no fault. Even if things he did or said towards me was offensive, I still didn't say anything to him. That was my problem.

Then university rolled around, and I started to see him less. And because of that, I was able to see things from a different point of view. Then I realized... for 3 years I endured his possessive, ignorant and condescending self, and I was tired of it. So I told him, straight out, the kind of person he was and how it prevented people from becoming a better friend with him. I told him how he ruined my relationships with people because he was overbearing/overprotective and he didn't give crap about others' feelings.

After my rather... heartwrenching confession to him, I felt relieved, but he did not. And because of that, we stopped being friends. We're still not friends, and I guess in a way it's better for the both of us. It's definitely sad, losing a friendship that you truly care for. I did truly care for him, but I didn't want to live under his orders anymore. I wanted to be someone that can lead their own life, not have someone else lead their life for them. It was also because of this that I became a different person. Coping? I couldn't do anything about it. I said really mean things to him because I had to slap him in the face with reality. So how could I face him? I avoided him, just like he avoided me.

Slowly, things just got lost in transition, and I met new friends. They helped me through the rough times, and they're now my bestest buddies. For a while I thought about him a lot, but that started to change. I don't even think about him anymore. Things are good for the both of us [we have mutual friends of course], and life is perfect.

Whooooa, that's a long read.

[xLiL_Bearx]

My bestfriend started to change and was acting weird =S ever since me and my bf had been together, with all my other ex's she had never acted like that towards me O.o?

All 3 of us was working in the same place, I was angry at my bf one day and we was having a little arguement. She thought i was angry at her because she with us . . i didnt talk to her for the day because i was angry still and at night she deleted me of msn, facebook. Then the next day i saw her at work again she just ignored me *both of us are really stuborn* so i didnt want to explain to her . . . after that she's been telling ppl how i shouted at her, purposly barge her and she's not talking to me because of that. I just think its an excuse to stop talking to me . . .

Hmm... really strange >_< its been nearly a year now and we havnt spoken since =P even tho shes my cousin aswell.

Well to me it didnt really matter because i gave up so much and it still wasn't good enough, its not hard to find new friends. . . and forget about things that are unhappy. . .

[Searesrayne]

hmmm I was friends with this one chick in the same grade, very dependable person, easy to talk to and be weird with. Anyways a few years go when we started college she dropped the first semester and tried the next semester dropped out again, the 3rd time (I decided to a take a class with her, see if she would stay interested in school) but ever since we started college she became a HUGE FLAKE. She started being shady and she was practically throwing her life away. ( I know it's her life but when it's your best friend, its worrisome)

well before then I started seeing a guy, but I had plenty of time to hang out with her she would never contact me, I would try to contact her but she wouldn''t reachable o when I did leave message she should even bother returning my calls it got so annoying. She also went to hang out with her stalker. she found him annoying, but she said she had no one else to hang out with when I would be busy, but in fact I wouldn 't be busy at all (She can hang out with who every she wants but to use the excuse that I was busy was BS)I know it sounded like she didnt' want to be friend anymore I even talked her about it but she that she still wanted to be friends, but I just didn't get her lifestyle. She's a diabetic, she used that an excuse when she couldn't hang out a few times... I know she won't be feeling at top shape all the time, but to ignore all my calls and not even tell me anything is just plain annoying.

Anyways I'm pretty much just pinkberrying now. I got fed up and kicked her to the curb, I dont' need to waste my time trying to be friend when she didn't even try to be one.(anymore)

[azurette]

I have way too many, but I'll share a couple.

1. I had this best guyfriend for 5 years. We got into really nasty fights once a month but I really cared for him (and secretly had strong feelings for him) but it got to a point where I just couldn't take it anymore... so in gr.11, I let him go. For a month or so he tried to keep our friendship but by then I didn't want to associate with him anymore. I still remained friends with his sister though.
A year later after graduation I confessed to his sister that I just wanted to be civil with him because it was awkward seeing him around when I was with his sister. He reached out to me and we eventually became civil again. We had a "confrontation" to discuss what happened the year before when I cut him off... 2 weeks later, we confessed to each other that we had strong feelings for each other all along.
I was really frustrated with him because I felt like he changed so much over one year that I didn't know who he was anymore. I confided in a mutual friend about all this, and she stabbed me in the back and told him EVERYTHING. So pretty much one month after me and the guy reconciled, he cut me off.
I started hanging out with his sister again early last year and talked to the guy AGAIN for 4 hours about everything and we were okay, but I then stopped going to their YG meetings so.. we stopped talking again.
Now we're civil but we don't speak to each other at all. I guess he doesn't care, and I'm okay with us not being friends. There's no hate, and that's all that matters.

2. I became best friends with this girl 2 years ago. Things started going downhill after she hooked me up with this really crusty guy I dated. On her birthday, me and the crusty guy were late to arrive- she called his house earlier to give me crap, but I refused to talk to her til we got to her house cuz I didn't want to be scolded. We arrived at her house at 10:30 (still pretty early to go clubbing) and she tried to embarrass me in front of everyone. After that night, things weren't the same.. I was fed up with her flakiness so on Valentine's Day I decided to hang out with her eff-buddy (who didn't even like her anyway). It wasn't romantic or anything, and plus she came along too. Then she thought it'd be nice to ditch our plans for prom so at this point I was like "eff this" and didn't consider her a bestfriend anymore. I didn't speak to her for months.. she eventually tried to be friends again, saying we should hang out and stuff, but I always rejected. I finally hung out with her earlier this year just for a day but before school started I found out she had a going-away party without inviting me, which I thought was pretty rude. Anyways I guess it didn't matter cuz I already moved by then =/ but she assumed I was still in our old city sooo.
After she moved here (she now lives in a city close to me... greatttt) she tried to arrange hangout sessions but I would reject. Recently I invited her to a bday party I might go to out of politeness but she can't go so whatever.
I find out once again that for her bday coming up, she didn't invite me.
She didn't invite me last year, either, even though I invited her to mine (our bdays are 2 weeks apart, mine first).
I figured she only wants to chill with me out of convenience cuz she doesn't have any friends in her new town. I don't bother with her anymore cuz even though I'm also in a new town, I have other people to talk to and I don't need a pinkberry like her to get me down. Whatever, she's ugly inside and out anyway.

3. Early this year my ex dumped me for the 2nd mofoing time. I then recently became close friends with this Taiwanese guy who I met through my cousin. He basically helped me deal with the break-up and I kind of rebounded my feelings off of him. He was sooo sappy and sweet though... always checking up on me, always coming out for drinks and BBT, lightening up the mood, not letting me walk on the sidewalk close to traffic, etc. Our first fight was cuz I thought he was too clingy (he'd call me 5x a day) but then that blew over... I dropped out of our school so I saw him less. Then I guess he caught on that I was growing feelings for him so he distanced himself a lot, and I was hurt. I tried to cut him out but I'd always try to reconcile when I was drunk (not that he cared anyway). One day we got in the nastiest smacktalking fight ever so I stopped talking to him completely.
A month ago he apologized for everything and said that the fight wasn't real etc. I was nice to him back. He said he'll try to visit me when he gets his car and stuff but.. I don't believe him. It's his bday today and I texted him a happy bday but yeah, I take everything with a grain of salt..
Are we civil to one another? Yes. Do I miss him? Yes.
I really loved him as a friend, but I can live on without him.

Friendships are so fickle, I never count on anyone to be there for me for life.

[perfect visual]

i've had a lot of friendship breakups. i think i may be a terrible person but i dont really value friendships too much. most of the people i've ever been friends with have backstabbed me at one point, so i dont invest too much feeling into it.

best advice in a situation like that, would be to just stay cool and act like you don't need them. (but dont act like a baby, just hang out with other people and stay happy etc) because you don't. they'll later realize that they were selfish / stupid / whatever and want to be your friend again.

[kumomomo]

Uggh. I just came out of a nasty frienship break up.



Long story short, I was ABSOLUTELY BEST FRIENDS with this guy.
and he did something really stupid.
I overreacted and freaked out
He thought I wasn't being serious and kept laughing.
I got pissed. Said some things that didn't need to be said.
He was hurt.
I was pissed.

We didn't talk for a week. Mutual friends told us that we missed each other, but I'm horrible at confrontation, so I didn't do anything.

He approached me to talk about it, MASSIVE HUGS + relief. We're fixing up our friendship again. We all need best friends.



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