[piaoyi]

please close thread, problem resolved.

[bonjour tristesse.]

I can sense your tone. I'm the same way everytime I like white guys (actually, it's only happened once that it was actually strong enough, LOL). You're scared that they won't understand you in some ways unlike an asian guy would because you guys practically have the same beliefs and most asian ethics are the same. But if you and this guy hit it off, you don't need to worry. If he liked you, he'll like you just the way you are, value your morals, etc.

[IntangiblyYours]

It can be scary dating someone so different from you, along with having the pressure of your friends and family on you. It's not that you're messed up; you just live in a society where people are still judgmental. The first time you dated someone, didn't that feel weird too? Now, you're stepping out of your box again, so of course it'll feel unusual, though some may find it to be easier than others. However, when you get to the bottom of it, what really matters is if you guys really like each other or not. If you do, things will work each other out. Try not to let your family and friends' opinion influence you too much though. Love is love, and love knows no boundaries.

When I was younger, the only guys I was interested in were the Asian ones, since I grew up around Asians and it was a well-known expectation for me to date Asian guys whenever I started dating. As I got older though, my appeal towards Asians lessened. When I did start dating, I dated white guys (and have since). They are definitely not my parents' first choice in boyfriends for me, but I really liked them, as they liked me, and THAT is what mattered.

My first relationship lasted a year.

My second (and current) one is going on 11 months now.

The difference in background does interfere every now and then, but all you have to do is work it out with one another and try to understand the situation from the other's perspective. Easier said than done, yes, but it's up to you to decide whether or not the relationship is worth fighting for.

(I know you said you guys have been dating for only two weeks now, so sorry if I'm jumping ahead of the game and making it too serious. >.<)

[thisismyv]

I don't think it's messed up at all! You're worried about the criticisms of family and friends for dating this guy, but you like him regardless. How is that messed up? I think that if you guys really do want it to work and are willing to fight against the possibly ignorant views of others, then don't worry so much about it.
I'm half Asian/White, so I guess I can't really comment on dating (LOL)... but I'll tell you about my family. My mom (Asian) was married to my dad (White), and then she was with my half-sisters' dad (he's from Belize, but all I know is that he has Guatemalan and Irish and a bunch of other stuff!)... and my Uncle (mom's side) 's wife is from the Philippines (not to mention he's about 13 years older than her!). Sorry that was random and long... lol!
Anyways, there's nothing wrong with dating outside your race. In fact, it'll only open your eyes to different cultures and people. I say go for it.

[JinEnjuce]

I met this guy from a friend and we have been hanging out 1 on 1 for a while now. Just yesterday, he asked me to be his gf and I said okay.

However, this might seem superficial, but please hear me out. He's 3/4 palestinian and 1/4 european. While I'm asian. And I'm just scared of what my friends and family will think of him. I know my best friend will question me for sure, since I have never dated any other ethnicity that was not of asian decent. Again I know this is messed up, but I think I would feel much more comfortable if he was asian. But I think I do like him and he's such a nice and interesting guy. Though sometimes it's hard to relate, since we have such different backgrounds. We've only been dating for 2 weeks though. Anyways, please just give me some opinions.

OH MY GOD, A NON-ASIAN?? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?

But seriously, there's nothing wrong with you dating non-Asians. The only time I find something wrong is if you'd have factored his race into whether or not you'd date him.

[~dhluvr4ever~]

ehehehe, i dated a white guy. and boy, we were SO different.
maybe that's why I decided to break up with him.

but anyway, if you're interested, you shouldn't be worried too much.
if you like him, and maybe you guys will totally put your differences
aside and build on new memories.

i think interracial dating is cute, and there's nothing wrong
about how you feel.

goodluck! :3

[Javus]

If he really likes you then it shouldn't matter. Isn't it a little early to be thinkin bout what your parents think, it's only been 2 weeks lol.

[piaoyi]

please close thread, question resolved

[Mr. Chan]

Can't believe people are making such long posts about this. Simple answer: No, you're not messed up. It's normal for things to be awkward around someone that's different. You and your family/friends will eventually get used to that person.

Congrats on finding yourself a boyfriend, I sort of thought you were hopeless.

[Searesrayne]

I'm actually more worried about what my friends think, since I'm in college and they will mostly likely meet him sometime in the near future. My friends are really important people in my life, so it would be highly preferably if they accept him.

Another thing that is really different is that he comes off really strong in my opinion. He's inviting me over to his apt to watch a movie and he said that I could sleep over if I want. What does that mean? Does it seem a little shady? I might be generalizing here, but my previous bf (who was Korean), would never have invited me to spend the night 2 weeks into the relationship. And by that I mean just sleeping and nothing more. He was shy, just like me. But don't get me wrong, my bf now is a sweet guy. He would call me everyday, just to chat. I guess he's just more open?

What would your friend even say? >_> Perhaps I don't see it cause I'm was raised in the US....

There's different guys out there so the sleeping over could be just sleeping over to hang out more or for some fun time.(I don't know the guy so I'm saying options) It's just more time to connect I guess?