[gotseoul?]

My best friend and I got together officially. And this was..literally years in the making. After a confession, a rejection, an awkward phase, a rebuilding of a relationship, and...everything else, we both finally acknowledged each other's feelings and became a couple.

The night it happened was amazing. We cuddled, held hands, kissed...it was all easy and comfortable. And I thought that the transition would be easier than I expected. Especially because she's never had a boyfriend and her personality (a bit shy, not able to express her feelings, etc.), I expected things to be awkward for awhile. But that night made me think otherwise.

But today, our first day at school together, it was awkward. We spent most of the day together but we didn't do anything that others would notice and realize we were a couple. She told me that the notion of a boyfriend and being a couple is still weird and foreign to her while we were at lunch. That was more of what I was expecting during the transition.

Now, I'm confused on how I should approach the relationship. At one point, everything was comfortable and then it became awkward. Should I just take it slow and let her become more comfortable? Or should I take the initiative (i.e. hold her hand, more touchy)?

[evans]

take it slow, but at the same time perhaps be a little more touchy? like that she'd be able to ease into it slowly. just progress gradually?

[perfect visual]

yeah, if i were you, i'd take initiative and see how she reacts to it. with me, i'd want to hold hands/kiss/whatever but i'd be too scared to do it first xD

[agnuque]

Well since you guys are pretty much new to the couple thing, it's kinda normal to be awkward :/ It happened with my sister too. The day she and her bf became a couple felt like they were fighting.. Lol. Not even looking at each other, so awkard and stuff. But they got around to it Just make her feel good <3

[CriticalHit]

Do little sweet things for her ^^ buy her a candy or something, surprise her by sneaking behind her and covering her eyes. Maybe that will get her to be less shy haha. This is really sweet to read about, best of luck to you two!

[dorkafied!]

take the initiative and hold her hand!
well thats only if she feels comfortable enough,
take things slow but not to slow ya'know? xD

[PH4T]

or maybe she doesn't like PDA? who know. have a talk with her to see what her preferences and where comfort levels are for yourself.

[peppermintsugar]

Honestly, it sounds to me like she might be regretting transitioning into a relationship. I think friendships and feelings can often get confusing, especially for someone who's never had a boyfriend before; you think certain feelings are there when they aren't really.

Just saying, this could be a possibility, but by no means is what I'm saying definite.

[kyung mi]

I agree with PristineNyte..

Since your relationship with her has been going on for a while. you to have gotten comfortable with each other on a different level. a friendship level.

so when you transitioned to the relationship, maybe she's a bit confused on how to feel towards you.
Going from a friendship to a different kind of relationship can make a person confused on how they really feel towards the other person because the day before, you were JUST friends. Good friends. NOW you're an ITEM, sharing a different kind of bondage~

[taebins_luver]

same here, my bf and i were like on and off best friends (ha, right?)
and when we first got together, things were kinda awkward because we didn't approach things like a couple did
except for all the hand holding at the time.
we were together for about 2 and 1/2 weeks before anyone knew.
he made our relationship public to our friends when he just kissed me in front of everyone.


just give it time, she's your gf, not your bf anymore.
she's still trying to settle things in her head and heart
like making some sense in you two.

[`x Diiannaa]

My bf and I was exactly how you guys were in the beginning. It was awkward and weird soo it just looked like we were friends still for a whileee . We spent a lotta time with each other when were best friends and when we were dating. . . but eventually we started to be comfy and hug and hold hands. . .(we only hugged ONCE in the 5 years that i`ve known him haha imagine how awkward when I hugged him again ! lol xD) It just takes time and just don`t force it. . . the more force you put in it, the more awkward it gets lol