[sb08]

Hi Guys/Gals,

I asked my girlfriend out tonight on a date and she said yes. But about 30 mins before I was suppose to pick her up she bails on me and says shes tired. I got really angry at her a few hours later when I was talking to her, because even when I'm tired I still go out on dates with her, I even went to her house at 1 in the morning because she was crying. I don't know if that was the correct response or not but I just got very upset at her answer. Any advice?

also she seemed to get upset at me as well??

[Searesrayne]

Can't you just take it as she's tired... and you don't always have to go when your tired.. no one is forcing you.. >_> I can understanding going to her house when she's crying, but when one of your tired, doesn't mean you have to going out, unless you guys are really needy or something O_O Plus is a somewhat small thing, it's not like she's ignoring you for a week or something ^___~

[des monstres]

that sucks man.
i hate when people flake at last minute.
if she was tired, she shouldn't have made plans with you in the first place.
or at least given you at least an hour ahead warning.
i just think that would've been more considerate. :l

idk. if that was me, i would've been kind of ticked.
especially since i don't get to see my boyfriend very often.

and i guess she was angry with you because you didn't "understand'" her situation.
or something along those lines. or maybe she thought you had no right to be upset with her.

[JinEnjuce]

Hi Guys/Gals,

I asked my girlfriend out tonight on a date and she said yes. But about 30 mins before I was suppose to pick her up she bails on me and says shes tired. I got really angry at her a few hours later when I was talking to her, because even when I'm tired I still go out on dates with her, I even went to her house at 1 in the morning because she was crying. I don't know if that was the correct response or not but I just got very upset at her answer. Any advice?

also she seemed to get upset at me as well??

Bro, if she's tired, she's tired.

[adidasyeah]

be a man. i only thought girls were hyped up about this kind of stuff...

[NEEKA902]

that sucks man.
i hate when people flake at last minute.
if she was tired, she shouldn't have made plans with you in the first place.
or at least given you at least an hour ahead warning.
i just think that would've been more considerate. :l

idk. if that was me, i would've been kind of ticked.
especially since i don't get to see my boyfriend very often.

and i guess she was angry with you because you didn't "understand'" her situation.
or something along those lines. or maybe she thought you had no right to be upset with her.

+1.
Definitely not cool. I would have been a little upset if I were you.

[jaeka]

Obviously this story has been changed... if you get me? I'm just kidding. Seriously.

K, so, in defense of the girl, maybe she was all up for going out then realised she wasn't actually up to it. It happens, I do it quite often. Of course, there is that argument of "Well, even when I'm tired, I go do this..." but as said before, no one forces you to.

[fredinsac]

be a man. i only thought girls were hyped up about this kind of stuff...

Whoa, whoa WHOA! The f*ck are we machines?? We have emotions too. It's not about being a guy or a chick it's the fact that he's willing to make a few sacrifices here and there to be with her but she doesn't want to do the same. Anybody would get fed up after a certain point.

If she's tired then she shouldn't have agreed to go out with him and then cancel at the last minute. At the very least she coulda just let him hang out with her at home and watch tv or whatever that way the night isn't a total waste.

[Lie]

I would try not to let it bother you unless it becomes a trend.

[meiming8_1]

that sucks man.
i hate when people flake at last minute.
if she was tired, she shouldn't have made plans with you in the first place.
or at least given you at least an hour ahead warning.
i just think that would've been more considerate. :l

idk. if that was me, i would've been kind of ticked.
especially since i don't get to see my boyfriend very often.

and i guess she was angry with you because you didn't "understand'" her situation.
or something along those lines. or maybe she thought you had no right to be upset with her.

I agree, I'd be definitely annoyed. But, let it slide in this case- as long as it doesn't happen all the time, just take it as she was really tired and although it was inconvenient and rude of her not to tell you sooner, it's only happened the one time.

[donporkuloin]

I would try not to let it bother you unless it becomes a trend.

If it becomes a trend get rid of her, and you have a right to be upset somewhat. Idk, I've heard some women try that 1am stuff just to get attention, and game play.

[HaplessChild]

LOL, my bf does that to me. I hate it.

[CriticalHit]

I would try not to let it bother you unless it becomes a trend.

Yes. In that case I would talk to her.

Actually, why not talk to her now? Or, later, when she's not so tired. Haha. Let her know that you felt upset that she "bailed out", but don't be too harsh. Maybe she was really tired and didn't want to ruin the atmosphere by being tired? ^^

Whenever situations pop up where you are pissed off at your girlfriend, the first person you want to go to is... your girlfriend. You guys are a couple, right? Let her know how you are feeling and see how you can treat each other better. Maybe let her know that if she is tired then tell you earlier, so you're not waiting emptily for her.

Good luck! ^^

[spixder]

Find some other girl and go to dinner with them instead, then rave to your gf about how u met an awesome girl at dinner.

[mrsjaejoong]

that was really sweet of you to go to her at 1 in the morning while she's crying. my boyfriend does that for me everytime i cry (not that often, but sometimes i'll break down and call him, then he drives down to pick me up and comfort me).
I don't blame you for getting agitated with her for flaking like that, but if it's a once in a while thing, maybe she was just really tired... but if it's a common thing with her, then yeah... you have every right to get mad

[sus]

if shes genuineli tired
then yea dont be so mad
i guess u just have to get use toi it

the reason why ur so mad is cos u realli wanted to see her and high expectations
n when she bailed.. u were disappointed,,,

[SilkInfused]

Hi Guys/Gals,

I asked my girlfriend out tonight on a date and she said yes. But about 30 mins before I was suppose to pick her up she bails on me and says shes tired. I got really angry at her a few hours later when I was talking to her, because even when I'm tired I still go out on dates with her, I even went to her house at 1 in the morning because she was crying. I don't know if that was the correct response or not but I just got very upset at her answer. Any advice?

also she seemed to get upset at me as well??

Maybe she felt extremely self-conscious minutes before the date? Like her clothes didn't fit her right or some body-image issue like that. If she gets upset for no reason, she needs some time out to think how fair and balanced she is within the relationship. Although, people who are unreasonably upset don't even bother to meditate on about such things.. so you might have to teach her that. Next time, just plan things on a whim. It might be easier that way..?

I wouldn't bail out though, knowing just how much my guy would go the lengths to adjust his time/life for me... It just doesn't sound fair.

[kg123]

Whoa, whoa WHOA! The f*ck are we machines?? We have emotions too. It's not about being a guy or a chick it's the fact that he's willing to make a few sacrifices here and there to be with her but she doesn't want to do the same. Anybody would get fed up after a certain point.

If she's tired then she shouldn't have agreed to go out with him and then cancel at the last minute. At the very least she coulda just let him hang out with her at home and watch tv or whatever that way the night isn't a total waste.

+1

[Daylightful]

be a man. i only thought girls were hyped up about this kind of stuff...

Geez.. Soompiers these days..

It's understandable that you got upset. I would have been a little upset, too. It was nice of you to worry about her. She shouldn't have made plans then bail out on it like that. If something came up it was kind of you to try and go there. I agree, if this becomes frequent then I'll bring it up to her. But if it's just this once don't let it get to you!

[taebins_luver]

i'd be pissed.
but then again, if my BF flakes on me, i can just go to his room lolz.

guys are not robots, they hurt too.