[ribbonxx]

Hi guys. I've been on this subject for a long time now and i really want to let it out!

I really like this guy who goes to my church but he's 23
and i'm 18!
he's always treating me like his little sister and when he tells me he's going to buy my dinner, it's more of
" Oh i'll feed my little sister! " Type of talk.

but i'm going to college next year so maybe he'll look at me differently., what do you guys think??
and what should i do??

[fredinsac]

I would just roll along with things and see how they play out.

Also, I know that sometimes guys will use the "little sister" thing when they become embarrassed about having a crush on a much younger girl. They don't want to come off as some weird pedo.

[HaplessChild]

When I was 18 my bf was 26 and the one after him was 23. Don't see why not.

However, I had already moved out of my parents' home and I was working full time/ paying my own bills.

[rubyx]

Sorry, you don't have a chance. You've been "friend zoned." He only thinks of you as a kid, and its really hard to get out of it. On the other hand, dating older guys isn't a good idea. Since he's 23, I assume he's already out of college or will be by the time you start. While I've heard many people on this forum and others talk about dating much older guys, you have much better luck with people your own age.

[donporkuloin]

Open your mouth, tell him how you feel, and see what happens? You'd never know unless you tried.

[HaplessChild]

Sorry, you don't have a chance. You've been "friend zoned." He only thinks of you as a kid, and its really hard to get out of it. On the other hand, dating older guys isn't a good idea. Since he's 23, I assume he's already out of college or will be by the time you start. While I've heard many people on this forum and others talk about dating much older guys, you have much better luck with people your own age.

I wouldn't completely rely on this advice. It depends on the gal. I don't know anyone that's dating/ married to someone the same age as them or even really relatively close (except for me and my bf and this is outside of my MO.)

[kcn_]

dating older guys isn't a good idea..

i don't see why its a bad idea... every guy i've dated has been 2-3 years older than myself.
I think older guys give you a sense of security and are more esablished in life. atm guys my age are poor struggling students like myself, and the stress of school and a bf who has the same problems can pile up
cause as much as you want to see them you both have exams and approaching deadlines, it strains a relationship from what I've seen from my friends around me.

anywho~ i think once you enter college his view of you can change, but its still vague take advantage of your "sister" role and go out for dinner with him, snatch up every opprutunity to get to know him better
and eventually tell him how you feel. The moment you tell him you like him that way he won't be seeing you as his little sister anymore

[[K]Jae]

Hi guys. I've been on this subject for a long time now and i really want to let it out!

I really like this guy who goes to my church but he's 23
and i'm 18!
he's always treating me like his little sister and when he tells me he's going to buy my dinner, it's more of
" Oh i'll feed my little sister! " Type of talk.

but i'm going to college next year so maybe he'll look at me differently., what do you guys think??
and what should i do??

I think there's your answer. But take a chance if you like to.

[CriticalHit]

Also, I know that sometimes guys will use the "little sister" thing when they become embarrassed about having a crush on a much younger girl. They don't want to come off as some weird pedo.

O_O Did not know that. I hope that's not true for every dude LOL



Anyway... I don't know if you want to risk your friendship. If you tell him that you like him, but he really just sees you as a little sister, he might start avoiding you if he doesn't want people thinking he's a "pedo". It's a risky situation. See how things go, first? I do'n tknow how close you guys are or how you guys interact so I really don't know whether or not you have a chance or not. Think it over, though xD

[perfect visual]

i'd say you for sure have a chance, but good luck, because if you do get involved, it could get complicated