[nesser210]

OK, so like I was dating this guy for a while. He was chinese, and I'm hispanic by the way. So, everything was going extremely good for like the first 2 months. We got along great and had a lot of fun together. I liked him a lot, and he was pretty much everything I was looking for in a significant other. He asked me to prom, and of course I said yes. But a week before prom, he started acting weird out of nowhere. Like he started distancing himself from me, not texting me anymore, etc. So, I asked him 'um do you still want to go to prom with me?' and he was like 'yeah'. I really think he only said he wanted to go was because we had already gotten our prom attire and what not. I, on the other hand, was willing to not go because I felt like he really didn't want to go with me. I went anyways. I had this strong feeling that was the last night I was going to see him. I was right. After that, he didn't text me anymore. I knew it though. I spent weeks wondering why the hell he just stopped talking to me out of nowhere. I kept thinking about what I did wrong. I really couldn't think of any though. So I finally got fed up, and asked him why he stopped talking to me. His reason was "I'm talking to someone else", which I found hard to believe because I didn't see him talking to anyone else. So yeah, I was really really hurt. Recently, his friend told me the real reason he stopped talking me. He told me that he really liked me but after a while he realized he "wanted someone of his own kind". In other words, an asian girl. WTF. I didn't know he could be so close minded. Like, why did he like me in the first place? That was quite shocking to me. I've never been dumped for a reason like that. :/

[Ethriss]

yeah this guy is 100% jerk

even though i can kind of understand him since i too am more biased towards azn girls, this guy shouldve thought things through. He shouldnt have done this to you, u obviously dont deserve it. It sucks but there are just these idiots in this world that do this...

[nesser210]

Yeah, I didn't think race was ever an issue. Guess I was wrong.

[xxvictastic]

maybe his parents didn`t approve of him going out with someone
other than his ethnicity?
i know my parents wouldn`t allow it. >:[
and his parents probably found out and told him to stop dating you?

[nesser210]

maybe his parents didn`t approve of him going out with someone
other than his ethnicity?
i know my parents wouldn`t allow it. >:[
and his parents probably found out and told him to stop dating you?

I asked him about that though early on. His answer was, "oh, they don't care. as long as you're not black". So, I was like oh okay. His mom even told him to bring me over the day of prom. But he didn't after all, since by then his feelings had 'changed'.

[--remixx]

WHAT A GUY .
seriously thats pretty low , i cant believe he did that to you T^T that to , after 2 WHOLE MONTHS !
man , i freaking hate those kind of guys . plus his parents weren't stopping him ? wth . i would have just liked
slapped him T___T i feel so fcking bad for you =( thats guys a jerk =/

[xxvictastic]

I asked him about that though early on. His answer was, "oh, they don't care. as long as you're not black". So, I was like oh okay. His mom even told him to bring me over the day of prom. But he didn't after all, since by then his feelings had 'changed'.

maybe he used that as an excuse.
my parents wouldn`t want people to know they don`t want their kids dating non-asians ..
so they would probably make me say what he said about feelings changing.
just an assumption ..

if it`s not that. he`s an bubble gum.
just forget about him =.=;

[Lie]

If I loved a girl (and I'm completely capable of loving anyone, regardless of their ethnicity [the three girls I've loved the most in my life were all different races]), her race or ethnicity wouldn't make much of a difference, but prior to loving her, the older I get, the more specific I feel like my tastes in girls are. And the more I tend to gravitate towards girls with the same cultural background that I have (white, raised Christian [though I've become Agnostic], Western culturally, etc). As much as people tend to say it doesn't matter, race is definitely a factor in a lot of people's minds. Not even the outright hateful "I would never date an Asian/black/white/hispanic person," but moreso the "I'd rather date an Asian/black/white/hispanic person because I have more in common with them" type of thought. The bit in bold I hear argued VERY FREQUENTLY. Don't know if I completely buy into it, but I do to some degree. Then again, in many cases, race isn't as much a factor in the maturation/development of a person as the place (as with those who grew up in melting-potish metropolitan cities). For the most part though, the Asian, black and Hispanic girls I've dated (there were a few, actually) weren't fundamentally any different than the white girls I've dated. It's a complex issue.

[kcn_]

this topic is so gonna get closed, but i reply anyways
yes yes everyone agrees he is a douche bag
so move on, i understand your choked but if he dumps you
for appearances then he wasn't worth your time in the first place.

[nesser210]

I find that odd though. Maybe because I was brought up to never be racially discriminating toward anyone. But I guess so. :/

this topic is so gonna get closed, but i reply anyways
yes yes everyone agrees he is a douche bag
so move on, i understand your choked but if he dumps you
for appearances then he wasn't worth your time in the first place.

Closed? Oh crap. Sorry. I'm like a first time poster on here. Geez, so many rules on forums.

[agnes.]

he's not worth your time.
but that's how a lot of traditional asian families are really.
even my parents won't let me date non-chinese guys.

[nK)Duke]

Yeah, the worst of the worst. I know asians who would only date or hang out with asians. Seriously, whenever I see them, I wanna puke out. It's not only that they are close minded. They are immature, naive, arrogant and nationalistic, most of the time having a superiority complex as well. I know, I'm stereotyping. I never stereotype. But it's bugging me for quite a while now.

Forget him and despise him.

[kcn_]

Closed? Oh crap. Sorry. I'm like a first time poster on here. Geez, so many rules on forums.

lol no worries i'm not the mod here
but read the first announcement for L&R

[bonjour tristesse.]

He doesn't even deserve your time, less space in your thoughts. This guy is a straight up ass, you deserve someone better.

[HaplessChild]

Eh, I casually dated a guy that called it off before it really got started bec I'm not asian. I wasn't offended, I understand the reasons. He's hardwired. I was told a lot of it is about "making the parents happy."

[lychee_poo]

Well it's not your fault you're not asian, you're totally fine the way you are, he's just a jerk. I say forget him like everyone else said.

[Malice_Kaiser]

Whether his parents wanted him to break up with you or not, he still handled the situation like a complete jerk. Since when does ignoring someone get you anywhere? He should've grown a pair of balls and broken up with you instead of wasting your time.

At least now you can go find someone worth while.

[xRacho]

I liked this korean guy once...and he did show some interest. BUTT he was always like "i'll only marry korean girls" so im like wtf D: but then again...its like a PREFER/have instant attraction to asian guys more than..other guys? D:

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

He's a douche. At least he's out of your life now.

[terrorist]

Well it does seem messed up.
but you kind-of have to realize where he's coming from i guess.
whether it's because of preference or tradition. etc