[cicisaurr___]

What would you do if your beloved boyfriend doesn't like your close best friend, and vice versa?

[jas0n]

I'm going to guess that your best friend is a guy. Can you give more information to what the issue is? Sure it can be about jealousy, but there's a lot of factors that might have lead him to not liking your best friend and vice versa. I just feel that if we know more information about this, our inputs can be more effective.

[cicisaurr___]

alright (:
I love him very much, he's the closest thing to me.
I love my best friend very much as much as a sister.

Reasons for boyfriend hating on best friend:
-annoying
-talks about the past, about things that happened 2 years ago
-complains too much
-immature

Reasons for best friend hating on boyfriend:
-impatient
-mean
-doesn't wanna listen to her

I always felt like i was in the middle because if i'm with one of them, the other one will get upset.
If we're all together, there are A LOT of awkward silences.
They would always complain to me and i DID talk to them about it individually, but they keep blaming each other or they will get upset at me like... "oh so you like him more?/oh so you like her more?"
I was trying to fix it today by asking them to tell each other why they don't like each other and solve it as a group.
But i guess that method that DID WORK with me and my boyfriend DID NOT work with him and my best friend..
My boyfriend just popped at her because he was trying to word it in a way so it wouldn't hurt her feelings and she was just like... "you just gotta let it out.." "can you think of anything else?" "how long does it take you to think" over and over.

): now it's all awkwardd. D:

[jas0n]

I can imagine how this situation is. At least they were talking to each other, so that's a good start. I would advise that they let each other finish their sentences first instead of interrupting each other. If they can't comply with that, try having them write their feelings down on a piece of paper. Maybe you can get both of them into a chat room and talk it over with you, but talking in person would be the most effective way. Of course this sounds childish, but you'll be making progress.

Now I've seen some situation where the middle person throw out threats and it would work. An example would be: I don't care if you have problems with him or her, just try to show some affection towards him or her, or I don't think we can be friends. Yes, this is a big risk as you may actually lose someone. I'm sure no one would want to resort to something like this, but I've seen it succeed before.

Have you thought about ignoring both of them for awhile? Maybe some senses will come to the two of them and they'll discuss the situation together on their own, without you. For this to happen though, one would have to approach another. Only problem is, you won't know when they'll talk to each other.

I can't think of any other way where you can help sort this problem out. The issue seems to lie within the two of them, not you. Sadly, you're just in the middle and can only suffer. I hope they can see that.

[atomicangie-]

thank god my boyfriend and my best friend are also best friends with each other. I actually get worried 'cos they're close to the point where they do things that seem gay with each other. LOL

[HaplessChild]

It's the situation I'm in. It's extreme bec my bff is my roommate and she doesn't get along well with the BF. It's the bf's fault but none the less...

I just keep the sep. No big deal. Sometimes I have to cancel on one to be with the other but I see my bff all the time since I live with her so it's no big deal when I spend time with the bf.

[sixth.]

i had to deal with this in a past relationship. at first i tried to convince them to be friendly to one another and give each other a chance - but my ex would constantly make rude comments about my best friend, and vice versa. they both knew it was giving me a headache, so they agreed to stop pinkberrying about each other, except told me they would never be friends.. but that was better than nothing.
the real drama happened when i broke up with my boyfriend and he thought the reason behind it was my best friend. sigh.

[love]

i had the same situation as you before.
my best friend didn't like my bf. she did some things and he started disliking her as well.
my best friend kept nagging me to break up with him, but i didn't listen.
she got all mad at me saying that i chose ___ over chicks.
basically i could only choose one, and i chose my bf and lost my best friend.

Do your bf and best friend hate each other’s guts or is it just a dislike? If it’s just a little dislike, maybe you can do an outing together and they can get to know each other more. If they hate each other like in my situation, you may have to choose one or the other.

[cicisaurr___]

awwwws<3 thanks for all the advice.

The thing is, my boyfriend is a little.... uh....... he gets a little angry over small things. He's really jealous too.
They don't hate each other, but they dislike each other and it's REALLY awkward to go out with them if they're like that too... like if i go out with one of them, i talk about the other person and it gets them like.. fired up. So i TRY not to talk about them.

no ): i havent thought of ignoring them. I don't know how i'll live a day without themm D:

Sometimes, i just wish that my best friend would find another best friend because I don't have the time for her and i'm not doing things with her that i've did with her for like the years we've been together.

Today, she was asking me if i had free time but i didnt because i had to go deposit my cheque (i'm DEAD broke), and my boyfriend was gonna go with me. After i told her that, she's just like.. "Why do i even bother?"

Maybe our relationship is dying, while me and my bf's relationship is REALLY good. I just think it's my fault sometimes cause i don't get to spend that time with her. I really want to, but i just CAN'T cause of like... boyfriend, money, and school issues.

[PH4T]

separate them.
maintain and balance both relationships.
some people are just not meant to be friends.

my cousin had the same problem where the boyfriend hated the bestfriend and vice versa.
it's been nearly 7 years. she's married to her boyfriend and is still best friends with the same person.

[peppermintsugar]

Eh, I've had it happen, I just didn't hang out with both at the same time, or at least both were mature enough to be able to be in the same room together without making it awkward and uncomfortable for everyone. Just because you don't like someone, and they aren't exactly who you would choose to spend time with, doesn't mean you have to be a pinkberry and ruin it for everyone. Sometimes you can just deal, ya know? Especially if it makes the people close to you happy.

[xDMufffins]

If two people don't like each other, it's their business. You shouldn't try to force them to like each other. They have different likes and dislikes just like you. Would you appreciate it if someone tried to make you befriend someone you hate?

And like PristineNyte said, they should both be mature enough to not be a pinkberry to each other and destroy the mood for the rest.

And because you cherish both relationships equally, none of them should try to make you choose.

It is very immature for one to force someone else to choose either one relationship or the other.