[Danieruchann]

... thread about 2 guys.

IM JUST SO CONFUSED D:

well firstly, there's my current boyfriend of 4 months. Let's name him Calvin. I really really like him very dearly. I don't toss around the word love so yea. Anyways, he's Korean(i dont think race really matters, but its extra information) and hes really funny and outgoing and i just likeee him and yea? (: He's super nice to me and all, but i think he takes some jokes with others like his guy friends too far. like idk.. sometimes its just like.. are they your friend or do you like to pick on them? but maybe thats how some guys are so comfortable with each other it doesnt really matter? idk. whatever. umm so yea. lately he's been really busy with school and football and studying.

On the other hand, theres another guy that im not really sure where we stand? We'll call him Ben. anyways, hes a really nice Vietnamese guy who always makes me laugh and we're such great friends. We teease each other alot and he lets me borrow his clothes for spirit days when his are better (for instance nerdy day so he lets me borrow a button down) However he's very touchy-feely and likes to rest his arms on me and stuff and being as though Calvin is always busy, I look to him to like be there for me i guess and its easy to just do it back. i think he maybe likes me since he doesnt usually just do that to girls. it might also be because im just really friendly and i dont yell at him for doing that lmao. Its really hard to explain.

I really like Calvin and i like being with him but its hard because he doesnt have much time for us that much anymore.
I think im only developing feelings for Ben because i have a hard time dealing with this. And once the feelings appear, as a result of something else or not.. i think it would be hard for them to stopp.. so yea, help i guess? what do you think i should do to kinda stop this confusion? D:

[JinEnjuce]

1) Guys ragging on each other is just affection between friends. Me and my friends call each other names, with the occasional punch, and I don't mean a tap, I mean full-force punch. But it's all in good humor. I dunno.

2) Whatever you do, don't cheat on Calvin. If you're going to choose Ben, break up with Calvin first. Far less trouble down the road this way. That's the only piece of advice I can give, the rest depends on you, your own values, and your own desires.

[Danieruchann]

^ oh trust me, i'd never cheat on Calvin. That's just the wrong thing to do.
I just wanna get things clear so i dont screw up~ So i figure, this is a good place to ponder things and hear others' opinions~

[Javus]

If you feel that Calvin has been busy then bring it up with him. It's important when you're in a relationship to tell the other person how you're feeling so that both of you can try to work it out. And you might want to lay off Ben for awhile, you're still in a relationship and it would be wrong of you to be leading Ben on.

[Danieruchann]

^I try to talk to him but its hard at school because were always by his friends and such. but i guess i should just ask to be alonee probablyy. And im not even trying to lead him onn though. Im just a really friendly personn. I make friends with guy easily but i guess that that CAN come off as flirting. So should i just be more careful about how i interact with them?

[MNLV27]

It's simple, the reason you like hanging out with Ben is because you strive for attention from a guy and lately you can't get attention from Calvin so you turn to Ben because he gives you the attention you need. Have a talk about it with Calvin. If he can't give you the attention you need, then it's best to re-evaluate your relationship.

[Danieruchann]

Oh no I'm an attention girl D: !! D: ironically I dislike those kinds of people who require lots of attention aha
But yea, I probably should talk to him about it then. I don't like seeking attention from Ben but like.. He's there anyways so I just hang out with him..
Wait so does that mean like avoid Ben altogether or like.. Not be as super friendly as we usually are?

[peppermintsugar]

You can avoid this easily if you really want to stay with your boyfriend. Just stop hanging out with Ben, however, you don't really sound like you can be sure about wanting to stay with your boyfriend, so I guess you'll just have to decide. I don't know, it's hard to give advice about things like this because in almost every case I like to say stay with the boyfriend.

[Danieruchann]

^you make everything appear simplee.
Thank you. Like idk, I agree with all these posts but I agree with this the most. It's like.. So exact.
Anyways I think I'll give that a tryy. Thank you ~! Everyonee~