[teukiyesung<3]

So i will start from the beginning.
I dated this one guy for 10 months. he is 3 years older then me. We've known each other for at least 5 years...and our families are pretty close friends.
He is a freshmen in college this year. Things have really changed since he left for college. 2 weeks into college...we started to fade.
I brought it up wtih him that its hurting me how hes not the same as b4 anymore. He claimed i was doubting the relationship and perhaps this isnt going to work. So we hit the breaks.
4 days later. he got a new girlfriend.
It was so hard to accept. yet it was true. Rite before my eyes. The pictures wtih her....comments on fb..evyerthing. We didnt talk to each other anymore and he wrote some pretty crappy stuff to me about how hes so sick of me. etc.
This is my first actual serious relationship so it hurt me a lot. I moped around for weeks..and its been 2 months now..
3 weeks ago. She dumped him. claiming that he was inconsiderate and very self centered.
The day he got dumped, he got online and talked to me. telling me that what happend wtih that girl was all a set-up. It was all fake ..just to make me stronger and detach from him. so we can "Focus in school' but then he realised that i might move on and it would b too late to get me back. so he just wanted me to know. he loved me the whole time. and he still do.
I dont know what he thinks i am. No one on this planet will ever believe a lie like that.
i talked to the ex-girlfriend and she told me he lied. that they DID have a relationship. and that its really cruel of him to do this to me.
so now. hes clinging on to me. we talk daily. he changed his fb picture back to us. it drives me nuts..he knows wat hes done has changed me a lot. I tld him i refuse to be in a relationship in my HS years. and its definitly out of question.
He claims he undersatnds and is wiling to wait.
he claims we stil have a thing and we have a future. and i am his soulmate.
b.c i feel like i know which path is rite. and that is to get away from someone like him cuz it wil just hurt me more.
who knows how long it will b b4 another girl shows up in his life.
but im having issues trying to let him know..b.c sometimes its really hard to let go. Rite now its as if nothing happend. as if we were still together.
I loved the memories we've had and i cant seem to help myself but want that memory to continue.
Everyone around me is watching my every decision. They've watched me suffer in pain. And i know going back to him "unofficially" well just shatter their hearts knowing i've gone back to someone like him.
and everyday. he's still lying to me. refusing to tell me the truth. about the fact that he lied about the set up.
Rite now we're just "friends" but with a little more feelings for each other.*he loves me more then i love him*
i honestly dont think i love him the same as b4. especaily after what hes done to me.
wat. do . i . do.
?! plz help.

[Javus]

Drop him, ignore him. This guy treated you horribly and still lies to you even now. It may be hard beause the amount of time you spent with him. But you have to stop and ask yourself if you really wanna be a with a gy who lies to you and could easily dump you again for another girl. You know what you should do.

[hitokiri007]

yea, i think he only wants to get back with you because he thinks he can (since he's been with you before). you should cease all contact with him and just stop talking to him completely. unfriend him on face book and block him on aim/msn/whatever. this guy lied to you about being in another relationship with a girl, he could be lying about his feelings for you, too. he could be lying about lots of other things that you don't know about yet.

[RYUUSEi]

Maybe he started dating/flirting around with that girl once he got to college, and that's why he was so distant towards you?

I would suggest that you just STOP talking to him. You may still have feelings for him since the break-up is fairly "fresh" but do not forget that this guy treated you horribly and even though you're not with him now you're still gonna let him treat you that way? Seriously? He's putting a lot of pressure on you too by clinging that much. It doesn't seem like he's taking your feelings into consideration at all.

I think he's just suffering from the typical "don't know what you have til it's gone"-type of thing. My ex contacted me 1 year after our break-up and did the same thing, he told me that he regrets everything, still believes I'm his soulmate and he'll get me back in the future somehow blahblahblah. It's just a load of BS. You two broke up for a reason, nothing's changed.

[dahmanegi800]

It's obvious to you and everyone else on what you need to do, so what's the problem?

[evans]

do you think he's worth all your time and pain? you obviously know that he's trying to get you to swallow all that bs about still loving you all the time; but his actions prove otherwise. you also question his sincerity and how long it's going to last (the good treatgement), till another girl comes along.

perhaps your relationship now is just what it is: memories. and yeah it may be nice to relieve it for awhile, but ultimately you do know that it won't work out that way. perhaps you've just got to take a lesson from it and learn to move on for your own good and perhaps for his. don't commit to anything, until you really know he has changed. and it needs actions and not just words. however, his actions are telling you another story now. you have the choice to choose to walk away from him this time, instead of getting lied to and getting treated like a fool.

anybody can say 'i love you' it's just words. but what matters is how you treat the person you say you love. you two broke up and the problems are still there. it's just hidden underneath a whole pile of honeyed bs. i know, cause my current boyfriend (treated me like the ass he is and we broke up after 10 months "for good". he got together with another girl 2 months after and came back). the only reason why i let him come back was because he really changed a lot, seen through a lot of things that he did for me. but be smart! you know you don't want him anymore.

[Exquoise]

don't talk to him, he is playing with you. you deserve much better!!