[aznxmushu]

HI!
this is an all girls drama... that revolves around A BOY.
i'm not a big part of it.. but i am affected by it... so i need your guys' help.
i just don't know what to do anymore...
=(

OK LETS START ^^

This drama started on halloween.
NOTE: there is 4 of us. we've been good friends for about 5 years now... been through ALOT together...

So at this Party on halloween, we (us 4 + 2 other girls) were drinking else where (still at the party) away from other people...
i didn't drink at all... ( i honestly took one shot and almost puked; i wasn't in a state of mind to drink BLEH)
but anywhoo... after that... i don't think the girls were.. drunk? but they were tipsy... the party really started when MORE people came... everyone was downstairs "dancing" while i was upstairs with a few othe people...
they were just chilling there while i was calming down a mad host (he didn't want guys at his party... how stupid is that?)
when i notice one of my bestie (lest call her BF1) was upset and one other girl was trying to make her feel better... not being a very good friend i set it aside in my mind and thought of something else...
Soon after i went downstairs to check everything out... and to my left i saw my other Bestie (BF2) cuddling up with some guy... i looked carefully and to my surprise that GUY was BF1's crush... my face LITERALLY was liek OoO.
i turned around to see BF1 and she gave me a pissed of nod knowing what i was thinking...
i pushed her to go upstairs to talk about this...

Kay RIGHT OFF THE BAT... what BF2 is doing ... IS WRONG! we all got that...

BF1 told me that, BF2 did ask her if it's ok (no it's not!) and BF1 said yes... (wtf?!) BF1 told BF2 that BF2 need a man more the she does (BF2 got into a fight with her ex tha t day.) BLA BLA BLA.
i was pissed because BF2 has done this before.. with me... and BF1 & 2 has been friend WAY longer then we've been together.
i told BF1 that she shouldn't have done that, and either way BF2 should know better... right now it's all up to BF2, it's like a test...
that whole night i was pissed/dissappointed at BF2 and didn't dare to talk to her or look at her... cause everytime i doo she gets closer to that guy... BF1 tried to calm me down by saying she's fine with it... deep down i knew she wasn't.

The next day i talked to BF1 and she said that they went to that guy's house after. Him and BF2 hooked up... right in front of BF1 O_O... i went bizerk ranting on...then BF2 text me soon after.. i was being really cold to her, and both BF1 and 3 knew that...

btw. where was BF3? she was... somewhere... unaware of what was going on...

the whole week end i ignored BF2 and BF3 encouraged BF1 to ignore her too...

then school on monday... i have Chem with BF2... i felt that it was going to be awkward but it wasn't... BF2 knew i was pissed at her for something so she didn't even dare to look at me, talk to me the WHOLE day... she catched up and didn't talk to the other two either...
that day she texted all of us asking why we're so pissed at her... i didn't reply..

THE NEXT DAY (i'm sorry guys for making this soo long... if you're still with me... THANKS <3)
before the day started BF2 stopped and confronted me in the hallway... i gave her a BIG piece of my mind.. she understands and gave me her perspective on the while drama... i was iffy but we talked it out... ( we were even late for first period.) i was OK with her after... but i knew the others weren't..
i didn't hang out with the other two like the day before at lunch... instead i spent it with BF2 and was still talking to her about the situation...
i guess the other two found out i was talking to BF2 so they went ape on me and didn't talk to me for a few day >_>
sucks because at the end of the week.. i was planning a trip with us 4 and some other girls to go to the hot springs for my BIRTHDAY...
that didn't turn out of course, cause BF1 couldnt find the "time" to talk to BF2...
i was pissed that even foy my birthday they can't just pushe it aside for one day...
i ended up leaving the city with my cousins for the weekend because i need to get away..
when i came back i started talking to BF2 more and realized that she is REALLY trying to talk to BF1 but, BF1 wouldn't reply to her text or answer her calls.. in school BF1 wouldn't look at her. they kinda started talking to me again... but i think it's kinda awkward...

OK to a conclusion...
i want them to talk again.. i really do!
but BF1 doesn't want things to go back the way it use to be (like nothing happnend)
BF2 can't take it anymore... and about 7 years worth of friendship is NOT worth all this silent treament anymore.
I'm fed up, having to pick between them...
BF3 isn't talking to BF2... idk why.. she has no say in this... (she just likes to follow BF1)
ARGHHH!
this is soo frustrating...

SOOMPIER! tell me what to doo... tell me what to say to BF1 that will make her man up and talk to BF2...
she does want to talk to her but the excuse it that she doesn't want to "embarass" BF2 by yelling at her... and there is nothing BF1 has to say to BF2 that i already haven't said (that is the WORST excuse i haven ever heard).

I'M SOOOOOO SORRY ABOUT THE LOOONNNGEST POST EVER...
but if you guys help me.. you guys would be the BEST!


andi.


ps. sorry for the UBERly bad Grammar

[peppermintsugar]

Honestly, it's rare that I see something like a stupid crush on a boy break up a legitimately important friendship. I'd just let them cool off and if they want to work it out, they will, if not, then oh well. Friends come and go, that's life, I don't really think you should interfere too much because one of the friends could take it the wrong way (like you're taking sides, etc etc).

[sixth.]

it's bf1's own decision whether or not she wants to talk to bf2.. i don't think there's much you can do about it. and i do agree that you probably shouldn't interfere too much - you may think you're neutral but others might see it differently. and it's only been a week or so since it happened, right? so it's probably still fresh in their minds & they're still worked up over it. in a few more weeks, their minds will clear up and they should be able to make more rational decisions about the situation

[xlila]

If you think about it, you were being a hypocrite too. You tell BF1 not to talk to BF2, but you ended up talking to BF2 a lot more. This is their problem though, so even though you're all "best friends" I think you should stay out of it. There's only so much you can do and you've already done it by trying to have them make up. Don't force them.

[Stupidity]

Tbh, no boy should come in between such solid "friendship"..
If I were you, I would let everyone cool down, and all have a civilized talk..
I definitely wouldn't want to lose my bestfriends all because of a boy.

[evans]

somehow it seems like you were the one who encouraged them not to talk to bf2, but ended up talking to her anyway, so of course it'd be wtf-ish when bf1 and 3 know that you two were talking. imo you should get all four of you out, and talk it out. preferably in a secluded area where you guys can air everything out.i guess things will be okay if you guys are willing to make up and stuff like that. all the best!

[RYUUSEi]

Trick them into gathering at a paintball court or something so they can let off steam and all the frustration.

BF1 had no right to get pissed at BF2 for going for the guy if BF2 got permission to do so, she even came to BF1 to get the "okay" before doing anything. It's either yes or no, what's with the "I'll say yes but I mean no"? That's just ridiculous. She should have said: "Listen, I like him so please don't touch him.". If BF2 STILL went ahead with it despite that then I would understand the rage but that's not the case. Now she's the one that's refusing to speak to BF2, who is trying her hardest in repairing the friendship even though the blame shouldn't entirely be on her? You guys were conspiring and freezing BF2 out? That's unfair and I truly feel sorry for BF2 who had her supposedly bestfriends turn their backs on her for something this silly.

I also think it's immature to be all "don't talk to her!" and getting mad at others for talking to her lol, since you guys are supposed to be such good friends. It's elementary school-ish and won't solve anything. Tell BF1 to grow up and talk things over with BF2. I understand it's hard to be in the middle but don't butt in too much, the issue is between the two of them.

[aznxmushu]

THANKS SOO MUCH YOU GUYS ^^

yea i get it that i was being a hipocrite...
though i was hoping that BF2 wouldn't stop me in the hallway she did...
Talking to her more... is just trying to get them back together...
i guess high school is really the place to find who your TRUE friend are...
pft not even..

i just wanna solve this soo bad cause this year we are graduating and... i don't want to graduate knowing that we broke up over something stupid.

[meiming8_1]

If BF1 gave BF2 permission to get with the guy, then she has no right to be mad. Why did she think BF2 was asking her if she was allowed to get with the guy, for fun?? BF1 is in the wrong- BF2 may have handled it a bit crudely, making out with her crush in front of her, but she gave her permission to hook up with him. I also think you were in the wrong, because it seems you encouraged everyone to avoid BF2, and BF3 is in the wrong for following BF1 mindlessly, even though it's obvious BF1 is in the wrong. And BF1, BF2 and BF3 are also in the wrong for not coming to your birthday over this. SO in the end, it seems all of you are in the wrong, but BF2 is least in the wrong because she stated her intentions and received permission. Just get all of them together and make them talk to each other, and tell them how immature they're being...show them this thread to knock some sense into them

[tofuni]

So I kind of skimmed, but did I read it right - BF1 gave permission to BF2 to hook up with her guy?? O_o
If that is right, why did BF1 say YES, it is okay...? If she liked the guy, JUST SAY NO.

If that is the case, BF1 is WRONG and needs to let it go. She gave her friend permission so obviously BF2 saw nothing wrong with that (maybe she thought BF1 was over this guy or whatever). Yeah it hurts, but it's her own fault and she needs to come to terms with that.

Tell BF1 to let it go and make up. It's so stupid to throw away a friendship because she did something wrong which lead to something she didn't like.

Oh yeah, and they are all so stupid that they couldn't even make up for your birthday. Ridiculous and unnecessary drama. Happy belated btw. (:

[babikorean]

You seem like a good friend because i can tell you are trying to make it better!
However, i don't think getting involved and forcing them to talk with each other is going to make it better.
i am in a similar kind of situation in the position of BF1 and MY "BF2" and i have not even for over a week. It's something you can't force, when they're ready and BF1 has calmed down, then it's time to talk!
To BF1, just be like "I know you're upset with BF2.. i was as well! i'm sorry i was bit of a hyprocrite to talk to her as well but understand i was only trying to make things work between you two because i care about you two so much! When you are done being mad at her, can you give her a chance to talk? I know she misses you!"

I'm sorry they did that to you on your bday! that really sucks, i hope you still had a good one!