[taebins_luver]

WARNING: LONG STORY

my sister is married to this wonderful guy who she loves with her life,
but her brother in law and i don't get along.
we've clashed a few times, and he's holding it against me, making the situation between her and him bad too.


so when we met, we were cool, i mean, we weren't TIGHT, but like, fine.
so then he went on to talk crap about my brother in law in front of my sister and she got pissed and defended her hubby
which 'offended' him, and he started talkin crap about her, and i defended my sister, which offended him too (ahole)
after that we were like, whatever about each other, and so forth.
then like, he started getting into fights with his sister in my sisters house, and she told him to leave, and if he wanted to fight, to take her with him, which pissed him off because i guess like, he never got used to being told off.
so he's been like, talking crap about my sis behind her back, and her sister in laws like, close with me.
so she's telling me this stuff, and it pisses me off, but i'm like, i'm cool, i don't want to get up in his face (cuz he's an ahole)

but recently he's been talking crap about her, her hubby and me to his sis, and she's told me
which, their my family, and i take into offense because my sis isn't a bad person.
she's verbal and she has an opinion, so that makes her dangerous(?) to him because his wife doesn't talk back to him.

i guess he doesn't like it when people are verbal with him
because i guess it means he doesn't have full control of the situation,
and he can't put them down like he does everyone else in his family.

but when i think about it, it also makes sense that he's possibly jealous of my sis n her hubby.
like, my sis n her hubby, they're not rich, but they own a lot of their own personal property bought with their own money
(a house, 2 cars*oldntrashy*, computers, laptops, two annoying kids who EVERYONE loves)
VS him who owns like, nothing, well, he has things, but they were like bought for him by others.
kinda like he's jealous they're independant while he isn't,
cause him and his wife still live with mommy and she's not allowing them to have much of anything.
because my sis didn't put up with her mother in law being a b**** to her, so she did a lot of things, and didn't listen really.

and like, lately he's been talking SUPER trash about them including me,
and i'm contemplating confronting him about it, but i want to take precautions before doing so.
my sis isn't going to be devistated she lost him as apart of her family,
but i don't know why he's even gone to the point to do so much crap talking about us.

so, this is where everyone tells me i'm being an idiot and i should leave their business alone.
and that possibly confronting him could break apart their family.
^ i'm not concerned about that, she's planning to keep their family away from his after her in laws pass away anyways.
because not to be mean or anything, but his family isn't 'normal' nor 'healthy' to be around.


what should i do?
and if you're just going to bash me for wanting to defend myself and my sis, don't.
i don't need your 'OMG, YOU'RE SUCH A B****'
i need advice how to handle the situation, not your 2cents on me

thanks and luvs

[fobbiyo]

Her brother in law? So that means it's her husband's brother? Why would his brother talk crap about him ._.

[taebins_luver]

^
because M*named him* says that V's wife has "poisoned him"
don't forget the fact that he's an ahole who doesn't like people who can speak for themselves

[trickx]

Glass him. Glass the mtherfker.

[bombb_]

i think that since your sister and her husband are going to break away from her husband's family anyways, you should just let it break calmly, like with no arguments and shizz.
'cause my parents have both broken off ties with both of their familes--my dads parents and brothers and my moms gma, mom and siblings (except one, who is my moms sister and is suuuuper close to us and who broke ties off with her other siblings).
but, my parents broke ties off really badly. i know, breaking off from them would be bad anyways, but like SERIOUS heated arguments and shizz happened. my mom still has stress about it, i still hear my mom nagging my siblings and i to not make the same mistakes of stupidity that her and my dad's families did.
and when they argued my siblings and i were in the house and my cousins. and we were all..under age 11 i think. so it was confusing to us..yet mad us sad because my mom was emotional, my aunts and uncles were emotional. it was just a huge mess.

so i suggest, just let it break as calmly as possible/:
but thats just imo.