[`x Diiannaa]

Sorry it`s kinna longg. . .

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 3 months. . . but we`ve known each other for almost 6 years now. . . we were best friends and got along from the start . . Sadly, he`s goin` thru issues with his family that`s even spilled over to me and affects me greatly . He can`t stand his family anymore. . . and I guess it`s because of his past with them or whatnot. . . because to me, they seem loving and caring for him, but he just hates them . Just yesterday, I found out some of the stuff that he`s been doin` to his family and i kno he`s doin` this to seperate from them more and more . . . and it`s workin`. I`m torn because I don`t kno what I can do at this point where he can get over that hatred for his family and just concentrate on school and everythin` else . He ended up disappearing for more than 8 hours yday and would not contact me at all. . . I was worried sick and I finally get a phone call from him that he`s okay and he feels like if he stays at his house any longer, he`ll just act up and get worse . Then he surprises me with a question, "What if I go to the army?" and I just break down and just tell him that I don`t want him to go because I want him to deal with his problems head on and we`ll go from there . But he refuses to and told me that he`s been thinking about goin` for the past month or so and never told me that he thought about it again. . .

He always wanted to go to the army/marines/navy or whatever since he was 16, but he decided on not goin` until he changed his mind recently. I understand it is his choice and that he needs space away from his family, but I don`t feel like it`s the right thing to do. . . Especially if there`s issues between his family and there`s issues in our relationship that was caused by this and his family issues, I feel like he`s not fixin` anythin` and he`s just runnin` away from his problems instead of dealin` with them. . . I just don`t kno what to do at this point. . . to let him know that we all have family problems and it`s okay to tough it out and work thru it . But to him, he`s rather deal with it this way . When I was talkin` to him last night, it felt like he gave up hope on himself. . . and it just breaks my heart hearing that . I`m not sure on what to do anymore and I feel like since he didn`t include me on his decisions that he may be seperating from me too . . . but he told me. . if he goes to the army, he wants to get married before he goes because I was the best thing that happened to him . . I just don`t kno at all . . .It`s just so rushed . . . I don`t know what to do . . .

[taebins_luver]

why does he hate his family for? they must have done some hack job on him to make him so spiteful.
anyways, he needs to learn that family's family, and they'll still be family even after the army.
running isn't going to solve the problem, if anything, he needs to solve it with his family.

you just gotta let him handle it with you by his side.
although the choices he makes aren't going to be so bright,
it's choices you helped his make.

best of luck to ya,