[peanut]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a 2 months now, and we always go out and hang with his friends. Mainly with his BESTfriend, Well while we went out for Sushi last night, my boyfriend's bestfriend pulled me away from dinner and started caressing my face. Didn't seem too wierd, until he kept looking me in the eye, while caressing. He whispered a cuss word, then dropped his hand. I felt really weird so I tried to change the mood by laughing, and telling him to not scare me like that. Well, he didn't laugh. He stood there looking at me, with sad eyes then said, "yeah.. im sorry.". Then he went back to the table. The whole dinner, he kept glancing at me and I was really starting to feel weird. I also noticed that he would put food on my plate, and he even gave me his jacket when I started shivering. I told him it was okay, but he still put his jacket around me. Well later on, while my boyfriend was having a smoking break with his other friends. His bestfriend pulled me aside, and grabbed my hand. He looked at me, and confessed after like a minute, that he liked me. & He didn't know what to do, because he knew that liking me was wrong, but at the same time his feelings were taking over him. He said he couldn't take, seeing my boyfriend and I together, and he wished that I had met him first. Then after that, he kicked the wall and started to tear up.

Well. I was shocked, but I understood the situation and gave him a hug.

After last night I suddenly realized all the things he had done for me, since I met my boyfriend. He had done so much, and at the same time hurt him by doing the same to my boyfriend.

I really don't know what to do!?

& to be completely honest, I do have a hint of feelings for his bestfriend.
But I also know its wrong, because I'm with my boyfriend.

Ugh. I'm in a tough spot.

Help? Thanks.


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I love my boyfriend, and I would never leave him!
He means too much to me. I just don't want anything to be
awkward with me and his bestfriend.

[peppermintsugar]

Not really much we can help you with, you just have to weigh the pros and cons of each and make a decision. The best advice I could give you at this point is not to cheat on your boyfriend. Just sit down, and really think about both of them and what you want -- can your boyfriend offer what you want out of a relationship? Can his best friend? Do you even know his best friend enough to answer that question? If not, then I'd probably stay with my boyfriend.
Another thing I would do is tell my boyfriend, but I know a lot of people are just absolutely terrified of confrontation.

[sukixyume]

I'm curious. From the way you worded everything, it sounds like you started having "feelings" for the best friend after he told you how he felt about you? How did you feel about him before all that? And think carefully about the feelings you have for your boyfriend and why you're with him in the first place. Are you going to let yourself be swayed so easily by this and allowing it to affect you (or your relationship) because you have "a hint of feelings" for this other guy? Consider these things carefully.

[demllequ]

You have to make that decision.

[nHi-O]

Don't go there!

it's a total NO NO!

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

I'm going to be corny and say, "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love."

[whistlei]

If you like/love your boyfriend right now, and I'm sure you do ^^ ...I think it's better to stay with him. I mean the reason you went out with your boyfriend right now is because you love him right? There's no reason to question that. ^^ But if you do have feelings for his best friend then I'm stuck because I don't know how much feeling that is; if it's small then maybe it's something that isn't as big as the feeling you have with your boyfriend.

Think it over, and choose what's right for you.

[&rea]

I dunno about everyone else, but I think the move your boyfriend's "best friend" pulled is pretty shady.

Whenever people post topics about "Should I confess to someone who has a girlfriend/boyfriend?" people automatically say "Don't say anything, you don't want to be a homewrecker." and I'll say the same about him. I think it just shows a lot about his character if he confessed to his best friend's girlfriend. He wishes you met him first? Too bad, you didn't.

Best friend is pretty shady. Stay with your boyfriend. Sort out your feelings, fast.

[donporkuloin]

You gave him a hug.. WOW. I'm surprised you fell for that guy's ploy. The tears, and kicking the wall. All of that was "game." It was bait, and you fell for it. Wow, stick with your bf stupid. Calling you stupid in a friendly way. I'm not a violent person, but in this case If I was your bf.. wow I'd probably beat the brakes off of him, because he knows how to manipulate you to feel bad for him.

[ANJEE<3]

You gave him a hug.. WOW. I'm surprised you fell for that guy's ploy. The tears, and kicking the wall. All of that was "game." It was bait, and you fell for it. Wow, stick with your bf stupid. Calling you stupid in a friendly way. I'm not a violent person, but in this case If I was your bf.. wow I'd probably beat the brakes off of him, because he knows how to manipulate you to feel bad for him.

i agree with this poster

he's trying to make you feel guilty and just trying to confuse you

and also what he did was completely inappropriate...
he may actually have genuine feelings for you
but best friends don't do that to best friends gfs behind their backs!!!!

[Danieruchann]

i think you should stick with your boyfriend because the reason you got together with him is because you like/love him right?

if you broke up with him for his best friend, how sure are you that that relationship will last? you and your boyfriend might not be able to keep contact anymore because i think he'd be hurt that you went with his best friend. he'd most likely also be angry at his best friend for doing this, which was wrong in the first place. so lets say you and his best friend do break up, theres 3 friendships that are destroyed...

i think styaing with your boyfriend is the right thing to do.
weigh out which one you think is the better choice to do, thats just my insight ^^
good luck :)

[Liinax3]

awwww, sucks to be you :|

[tofu plushie]

You should stay with your boyfriend. His best friend is being disrespectful to him by confessing to you. He's not a good friend to your boyfriend =\

[NEEKA902]

I'm going to be corny and say, "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love."

+1

True, his so called "best friend" was disrespecting him big time.
One thing you don't do is make a move on your buddies girl.
I'm pretty sure if you left your boyfriend for his best friend you would regret it. Never mind the fact that your boyfriend would be pretty upset knowing.
I say stay with your boyfriend :]

[Malice_Kaiser]

You probably only like him because he likes you and confessed. Ask yourself if he were never interested in you, would you ever even give him a second glance in THAT way?
He's not being a very good friend to his best friend. If he likes you that much, that really does suck for him and I feel for him, but he's not handling this well at all.

Stay with your boyfriend. You can't be making rash decisions. You need to give yourself a lot of time to think about it. If you really do decide you like his friend more, LEGITIMATELY, then that decision is up to you. In the mean time, tell him he can't just go around caressing his best friend's girl. That's just wrong.

[MANTAI<3]

Why do you have feelings for the best friend?

I can relate to your story since my bf's best friend, the one he love like his brother, the one he could depend on for anything, the one he would give his life for, confessed that he had always liked me recently. I can sympathized with the best friend's pov but i really loved my bf. So does that mean you like both of them?

[WhiteRabbitsTime]

He sounds really immature- kicking a wall and tearing up.
I think you should make a definite choice and not lead him in any direction.
Tell him :GO AWAY!

[kirakirakoibito]

If he can't be a faithful, truthful friend to his own best friend, what makes you think he'd make a faithful and truthful boyfriend?

Stay with your current boyfriend. He's playing with you.

[Kanzen]

What a terrible "best friend". =/

Anyway, I agree with PrystineNyte and Donporkuloin.

[lance]

i agree with this poster

he's trying to make you feel guilty and just trying to confuse you

and also what he did was completely inappropriate...
he may actually have genuine feelings for you
but best friends don't do that to best friends gfs behind their backs!!!!

I'm going to be corny and say, "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love."

couldnt have said it any better myself. I say stay with your bf, if his best friend never confessed, did you have any feelings for him in the first place?