[hello kitty]

Ffff

[WhiteRabbitsTime]

Who says having friends is the right way. Maybe you only need that one friend.

[sbk143]

how long have you felt this way.
personally it sounds like you are dealing with depression.
maybe you should go see a doctor to get a professional diagnosis.

[tasty]

you remind me an 'ex-friend'.

slowly but surely all her friends left her and she hangs out with her mum only.

[bigD103]

nothings wrong its human nature. society and your parents tell you that you have to think about other people's feeling when its natural human behavior to only worry about yourself. as far as not replying to people i wouldn't worry too much about it. everyone goes through phases like that. if it lasts for a long time, then i'd say its something to worry about.

[HaplessChild]

You don't have to hang out with and talk to a crap load of people to be healthy. If one or two is all you need, that's fine. The only people I really talk to are my roommate and my bf. I'm the queen of ignoring texts and phone calls.

It's not that I don't like the people that are trying to get in touch with me, it's just that I don't have enough desire in me. I doubt I've been that thoroughly depressed for the past 10 years.

[Urahara_]

We all have that time in our lives where we realize that having a huge circle of "friends" is absolutely meaningless
somewhat you just passed beyond the "OMYGOSH-I-really-have-to-look-popular-and-cool-in-front-of-everyone-in-high-school" thing

[lamylamy]

When i read this i feel like u r talking about me!
there is nothing wrong in this, i do the same thing , so i have some few friends who really understand me through the yeras and don't feel ofended if i'm not replying their messages or keeping in touch with them so the true friends need to understand and accept u as u r , no need to change!

[Gofishus]

- I don't know if I'm anti-social or heartless or what but when some people text or call me I feel so lazy to reply, it's like I don't care about their feelings I just ignore them and when they ask about it I act like I didn't receive the text/call.

- I have friends and knows people but I never put the effort into keeping in touch with them. I only talk to them in person when we hang out, I never try to approach them online (facebook/chat w/e) or text/call them to keep a good consistent friendship.

- Most of my friends don't last because I eventually get bored/annoyed by them and start to ignore them, and they eventually disappear outta my life. Then I meet new people, and then the routine repeats...

- I never ask people to hang out or be first to approach a friend to hang out. I always feel like if they don't ask me, we just wont hang out, I'm not gonna ask them.

- A lot of people ask me how come they're always the one texting/calling/asking me to hang out, and they tell me they feel like they're the only ones keeping up the friendship. And I don't know how to answer them. I don't do this because I think I'm the shiitt I just feel like I don't want to bother people? Maybe because I get annoyed by people easily so I don't want to be annoying either? Or maybe I'm insecure I feel like they don't want to hang out with me so its just best if they ask me first.

- I feel like such a heartless person, how I just get bored/tired or annoyed of my friends and avoid them. It's like I don't even care about their feelings.

- The only person I talk to everyday that's not in my family is my best friend which I love so much. I feel like I just need her because she's the one that knows me best and I tell her everything. I feel like I am how I am because of her. Its like I only need her in my life? I'm so content with just one best friend I don't even care about making new friends or having other close friends. We've been best friends for about 10 years and are extremely close.

I feel like such a strange person like abnormal and just not human. I've never met people that are so jacked up like me, always ignoring people and avoiding people and getting rid of people. Most people try to make as much friends as possible and I'm here trying to get rid of everyone except my best friend. Idk what my problem is. =\

What's even worse is on weekends when everyone is out and I'm home with no plans I feel like a loner. And it's like I did that to myself, what the heck do I expect?

I'm just like you. That's why I don't have any lasting friends.

[aznscrewball]

You are not alone! I feel fake when I talk to a bunch of people that I hardly know or try to talk to them. Like I don't know what to say...I don't understand how people can randomly talk to you when they probably haven't even thought about you in years. I do have friends that I can not see for months on end, but when we do decide to meet up its like we pick up where we left off. The only people who I talk to on a daily basis are my roomates...because duh, I live with them.

As long as you are content with yourself I don't think theres anything wrong with you. You are human, because at least you feel kind of bad that you don't try hard enough.

[Myss Blewm]

You're not alone. I've been there plenty of times. Not everyone wants to be social and I am someone who does not go out very much like most people my age who all seem to go out as often as they can. I have ignored people's texts and phone calls, and plenty of my friends have done that to me in return (and I've had the nerve to be mad at them to do it on me). I've flaked out on plans, excusing it on "bad timing" when really I didn't feel like it and just stayed home. It's human to be selfish sometimes. It's not always good, but it doesn't make you crazy.

You realize what you do, and it seems it affects you. The question is, do you want to do things more with people but feel anxious or scared when it comes to taking a step forward towards getting to know people more, therefore you shut them out of your life? Or do you just don't want to get to know people further because you don't want them to be a part of your future? If it's the first perhaps you suffer from some sort of depression or social anxiety. You can go seek professional help if you think it is a problem.

Just realize that you're not alone.

[lennjao]

I don't understand U. U said that U get bored of your friends and in an other hand U feel like a loner...
What' s the problem ? Do U know what U want ?
There are people who need to be alone (I understand that) , and there are people who need friendship.
Chose U path. First, accept yourself and u would accept other people.

[AsuCaga16]

It just seems like you are at a point where you've opened up to one person and that is enough. If you considered those who get a hold of you friends then you'd probably want to talk to them to a certain extent. Don't stress about it, but this day and age lying about not getting the call/text isn't good. At least say your phone is off or on silent =p! (Not that I'm encouraging anything) >_>

The only thing I want to add is when you are in a situation where you depend on one friend for everything, there might come a time where you wish there was one other person (like if she is busy or something). Protecting yourself by not getting close to others isn't exactly horrible, but there could be some cool people who are fun to be around that you are missing out on. Don't let yourself find excuses for why you shouldn't try to be real friends in those situations. Good luck

[sashimi005]

It just seems like you are at a point where you've opened up to one person and that is enough. If you considered those who get a hold of you friends then you'd probably want to talk to them to a certain extent. Don't stress about it, but this day and age lying about not getting the call/text isn't good. At least say your phone is off or on silent =p! (Not that I'm encouraging anything) >_>

The only thing I want to add is when you are in a situation where you depend on one friend for everything, there might come a time where you wish there was one other person (like if she is busy or something). Protecting yourself by not getting close to others isn't exactly horrible, but there could be some cool people who are fun to be around that you are missing out on. Don't let yourself find excuses for why you shouldn't try to be real friends in those situations. Good luck

That's one thing that I want to mention...not putting all your eggs in one basket, so to speak. You just never know if a time will come where your friend will not or cannot be there for you when you really need her. But, that's not to say to make friends for the sake of "emergencies" or just when you need them. It's understandable that you feel sociable with your best friend since she's someone you don't have to "impress" and will accept you as you are. Try meeting people with a nonjudgmental mindset of what type of person you think they are and try to find qualities that you like in them. Build upon that and be engaging with them to discover their true character. Sometimes, first, second, and even third impressions aren't enough to determine whether you'll hit it off. If they really don't seem genuine or sincere in their interactions with you, then move on.

[Tuffcore]

Introversion is mostly misunderstood but normal.

[hello kitty]

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[mintcracker]

I think I'm becoming like this.
Or it's getting worse.

Darn I need to get out of this lol.
I really don't know what you can do o_O, perhaps try alittle harder

[Temoin la Nuit]

Pretty normal.

Most people we meet once we're older that become friends are just friends of convenience, acquaintances, or coworkers that you talk to. The reality is that if all them disappeared the next day and were replaced by new people, we would not really care or notice, as long as we get our same degree of social interaction. Some people to eat lunch with, some people to chat with during downtime, some people to hang out with, etc.

I feel the same way since I moved to the US.. when I was back home, I was very social, etc.. now it's like everyone around me is just a shell I don't really care about.

[Freda]

I feel the exact same way and depending on who I meet I get mixed reactions on it. In high school everyone just thought I was really shy. Plus, I lived far from my high school so whenever my friends chose to hang out, I wouldn't bother going because I'd have to drive at least 30mins to them. A lot of them were also friends since elementary, so I did feel left out at times (that wasn't the main issue though)...I just never felt comfortable enough around them...I think I only keep in contact with one person in high school. When I say in contact, I mean I talk to her once every few months and meet up with her once or two or three times a year. Someone else from my high school ended up being in my program in college, we barely talk. She tried to become friends with me back in second year (trying to make conversation...), but I'm not the type to start conversations and keep conversations going. Someone asks me a question, I answer. That is that. So not getting much for me she stopped trying.

When I first got into college people in my program thought I was too cool for them. I was one of those who'd just show up for class sit in a corner and leave right after class. The only time I talked was when I needed (groups, presentations, etc). I'm in my third year and I've eventually made friends...and they always bring up how I never pick up my phone. I'm just like you, I see them calling and I don't bother picking up. Sometimes I see a certain person is sending me a text message and I actually let out an annoyed grunt because I always assume that they're asking for a favor. The people I've hung out with during my first year and second year are completely different too...once I start hanging around people for too long I start seeing their flaws...and I feel horrible for saying this, but it always gets to the point that it annoys me so much I can't be around them anymore. I either end up blowing up everything I'm trying to suppress or I avoid them. Either way, it ends up with me being a total pinkberry and we no longer stay as close as we used to.

I've passed that point with my house mates. We met in first year when we were placed in the same dorm/room. We started off on our own and didn't become close until the first term was over. Afterwards, we ate together, watched movies together, shopped, roadtrips...etc. One of them moved closer to my actual home (the home I live in with my parents) so she was expecting to hang out a lot over the summer. I met her once over the summer, but some days she'd suddenly call me and say she's walking her dog and that she'll drop by. I frankly tell her that I don't really feel like seeing her (or anyone) and just want to relax by myself....half an hour later she calls again tell me she's outside. I then tell her that I wasn't going to answer the door and after some, "Don't be so mean!!" she'd leave. I feel bad afterwards, but I told her that I didn't feel like dragging myself down and having that awkward moment at my doorsteps just saying stuff like "how's your summer been?" These days the only words we say is, "Hi, how was your day", "Any tests this week?", "How was your weekend?"...we used to talk about 'stuff'. She and our other house mate are still close though. I hear them at one in morning laughing and whatnot...they don't come to me to talk...also, first day moving back in, I found that the one who lived close to me left the other a note saying that there was cake in the fridge that she made for her...I didn't get one. I've actually had thoughts of relief whenever I thought about moving out next year.

I'm somewhat of a hypocrite, I get somewhat upset (I don't say anything though) when something like this happens-- they suddenly get the point that I don't like to hang out most of the time and just decide to exclude me. When I think about it, I obviously brought this upon myself and even though I may say something like "No, I don't feel like it," most of the time, there are days where I'm up for it and it's good to know that I was at least invited...I don't know, I know I'm contradicting myself, but I hope someone knows how I feel.

Actually, I think I'm on the brink of that point with my current group of friends. We got into a fight Monday...we got on with the day eventually acting like normal, then today something was mentioned again and I freaked out. We were shopping too, so I drew some attention from the sales lady. It only escalated because they wanted me to apologize for getting angry at them on Monday (on Monday I found out that they went somewhere I've been really wanting to go during the weekend after I went home). Basically I think that no one really understands me. Normally, I seem like a person who's very strong and "cold". I say what's on my mind so people don't need to 'read' me often and they think I have no emotions or something like that. If I don't like something, then I'll say it (to an extent though...like if my friend keeps asking me for notes or if they keep asking for something without putting the effort in themselves, I don't tell them no...it's these types of things that piles up). With that said, I think they overlook that even I'm sensitive at times and there's only so much they can ask of me. According to them my personality is very laid back in a sense that I go with the flow whenever we're together. For example, going for lunch between classes, I pretty much agree to anywhere...(It's when I'm all relaxed at home and they suddenly call me out that I get in anti-social mode)

Sometimes I think whether or not I am anti social. I have my days where I'm all up for getting out of my comfy PJ's to hang out and some days (many days) where I just don't want to deal with anyone.

The only thing I can say though (that may be different from you slightly)...I'm still close with my elementary school friends. There are seven of us including me...3 of them I don't see or talk to often, but we're still close when we meet. The other 3, we're almost like glue during the holidays (since we all go to different colleges)....I've become close with their boyfriends+his group of friends and I oddly get better along with them then people from high school and college. I think I'm still hanging out with them and feel the most comfortable with them because we grew up together and they know how I am and how to deal with me. Whenever I do freak out, they have their "wth moment.." but deal with me...they don't judge me and they're not as sensitive as all the other people I've met in high school and college (so they don't get offended if I don't pick up their calls or what not)...they also accept that I have major PMS (haha ). But I think we just need to find those people who can accept us for us. We meet so many people in our life time and the chances of getting along with everyone is slim.

Of course we all get along after breaking the ice, that's because everyone is still cautious and being as nice as possible to each other. I notice that things get rocky as soon as we reach the point where we get comfortable enough to subcautiously reveal our flaws. That's just me though...I haven't seen my elementary school friends since September. We always make plans, but I always back out because my prof moves some major test or assignment. Regardless, they still ask me out whenever they want to do something and I appreciate that--- in other words, they don't give up on me....I'm just going to start repeating myself so I'll end it here. I hope I made some sense.

[chemical9]

you don't really need to change. i think you just haven't met the right group of friends yet. or maybe you only need that one friend. think about it. she's the only person you actually call right? maybe you'll meet someone as amazing as her. that's when you'll start calling that person. or maybe you won't. it doesn't matter. i can actually relate to this! i do this to most of my friends too, unless they call or text me first. sometimes i don't even reply because i forget to. actually i think my mom and my sister are the same too. so don't worry. you're actually pretty normal. some people just like to be left alone more than the others. just be yourself.


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