[Malice_Kaiser]

I didn't find a topic like this already, so here goes.

SHORT VERSION:
I don't drink, I don't party, and it kind of cuts into my social life because everyone around me parties. Can anyone relate? Or just share about your lifestyle.


LONG VERSION:
Well I'm a freshman at Indiana University Bloomington, which, by the way, is a school that consistently gets put on the lists of top ten party schools in the nation.

I'm honestly not a partier though, and in that sense I'm in the minority. I don't drink, and I hate being around (most) drunk people. It's making being social really difficult. My entire dorm consists of partiers. All the friends I HAVE made happen to be partiers (I didn't even find this out for weeks) so it's hard to hang out with them because to them, hanging out means partying. So I only see them during classes really. And the FEW friends from high school who go to this school have turned into partiers.

And when I'm talking with my friends and they start talking about partying, I just kind of sit there with nothing to contribute to the conversation. Honestly it gets uncomfortable sometimes. For example once I was listening to my two friends share stories about other people throwing up in their friend's cars, and they were cracking up like it was the greatest thing ever. Or stories about how people spend their 21st birthdays puking all night in the bathroom because they got so drunk. And I'm just thinking "THIS is your idea of a good time?"

I know it's worst now because freshman are always the worst (as a whole) about getting drunk out of their minds. I just feel so out of place because I'm not into that stuff, even though people ASSUME I am. I'd rather relax on a Saturday night than get drunk.


Anyone else experience this?

[_ShiKAndA_]

i can relate. i actually tried going to one with my friend but it was awkward. i went home about 10 minutes after everyone came.
the people i hang out with party every week (something like that) and all they do is invite me to parties.

[EenXsooN]

i dont party
i dont drink
i dont smoke

[Luxirie]

I don't party nor have I been to any parties!
In fact, I hate parties.

[theninthtrack]

Same here. But the thing with me is that I go to school and go back home.

I don't even do things outside of my house, because there's simply no time T.T
I don't like partying though. It makes me cranky seeing all those loud people, acting all weird and stuff.

[joogrlpekaun]

I'm in my third year and I've been to maybe one party total. It's just not my thing and never has been. Luckily for me, though, I know way more people who don't party than people who do, especially after our first year. Even the people I'm friendly with who like to get smashed only do it every once in a while. I went out drinking a fair number of times with some girls in my suite at the beginning of the year, but that's about it, and by drinking I mean we went to bars and nobody actually got drunk. Those times were actually pretty fun, but not in a wild way. I just end up awkwardly nodding when a couple of girls in my suite talk about their wild times, so I can relate to that.

On the flip side, though, I still have a lack of social life and actually wish my friends were a little more lively sometimes, because we're all busy and tired all the time and it's like we have to make appointments way in advance to even see each other if it's not to study. Most of the times I "hang out" with friends this year, we're actually studying together in the library and often barely even talk. When we do hang out just for fun, we can maybe get everyone gathered for two hours tops, never at night and rarely on weekends, and most of us are too drained to even do much. I don't want to be a party animal or anything, but my friends and I have been leaning more and more towards the opposite extreme, which is not good, either! This is what happens when you're in one of the programs that has the least fun at a school that's not exactly a party school.
I used to have a few people I could call for spontaneous late-night hang-out sessions to do random stuff even though we weren't exactly friends, but I haven't talked to any of them this year. Oh well, no fun for me. I almost--almost--actually envy the partiers now when I see people doing the drunk crawl down the streets of Toronto at 3 a.m. on Fridays and Saturdays. Switch places with me for a bit, Malice_Kaiser, and you may actually find yourself sort of missing your own situation, who knows.

[azn_chick91]

i go to UCSD and i've only been to one party...

honestly, you're not missing out on anything
my friends and i hang out all the time and they usually go party too
you just need to find a balance for your social life

make friends who don't party so that you can feel comfortable with and around them
that way...the friends who DO party won't feel like you're a party pooper -.-

join some clubs, that's the quickest way to make friends
i joined a campus-wide club and have instantly made over 30 friends in the course of a couple weeks
it's not that hard...put yourself out there

[JAMIESHOCK]

I don't party, drink or do smoke. Neither do my friends. I am in my second year. I became friends with them through the dorms/Dining Commons/clubs sort of.

I have never been to a party, yet to say I am not having fun in college would be incorrect. I am lucky to have made friends who's definition of having fun is the same as mine. It may not be the same as other people's definition, but we have fun and are not completely anti-social. We're all pretty studious, but we kind of have a "schedule" or sorts for hanging out that works out with all of us. We definitely hangout on Friday and Saturday nights; we spend Saturday morning/afternoon studying together; though not exactly together since we all don't belong to the same major. But, together in a sense that we're studying in the same room lol.

Hanging out consists of one or more of the following: video games, Cranium, Apples to Apples (our own version lol), baking, Safeway trips, movies, adventures at the park, awkward conversations, etc.

You can have fun without partying. Just find some people who's idea of fun is along the same lines as yours. I'm sure there's bound to be others. Join a club! That really helps a lot of people connect with different people. (:

[BoAFriend]

It's kind of complicated for me. I crave partying and letting a bit loose but I don't know the right people. Meaning even the close immediate friends that I have...they don't really want to party. I try taking the initiative sometimes, but I'm not 21 so alcohol is impossible (and I don't know any 21+ people)

I never party in the sense of showing up to those random parties/kickbacks with a bunch of random random beezies and tent pitchers spreading vomit (and other bodily fluids) upon one another

[WENJJANG]

Same here, however I have friends that are exactly like me.
We have fun without the partying. Honestly, I know people
who party way before they even hit college, it's just a waste of time to me.

We rather go out karaoke or just chill at home watching a movie together
then go partying. I just don't enjoy being in the company of many who
find going to a party every weekend is the highlight of their college life.

[jvchou1316]

many people around me like to party - aka, every weekend - and i often feel a pressure to go out every weekend and the like.

but my closest friends are not huge partiers and we are normally too preoccupied to go party every friday or saturday.

so partying -like everything else i do- becomes "an event" - very planned... i go to occasional parties even though i don't think they're oMG the best time ever!!! ....i don't go party-hopping; tho i secretly admire those who do; it's great exercise.

[PDURRR]

i don't party, smoke, or drink

ehh i'm just not the type to
i can drink and all but i don't see the fun in it, plus my uncle is like an alcoholic and it just makes drinking even more unattractive

i try to go out for dinners with my friends every once in awhile
since i live at home and all my friends dorm
i dont have much friends...heh

[DoDam]

Not really. I mean, it's not because I am doing it for a greater good like not drinking. But I'd rather just hang out with friends on the weekend. If you mean by party by going to a random place with random people where you just drink and dance, I feel like I wasted a weekend. However, I'm all up for it if it's with people I know or have some sort of connections to.

I'm all up for cruising through the town and hanging out and having dinners or hotpots or watching movies ecetera. Something memorable at least haha.

I noticed that not a lot of asians party in the conventional sense of going to a random place and just drinking. Seems like a "white" thing, not being racist or anything, but yeah o.o;

[lokkita]

as a college freshman, I've only been to one party so far. It was nice, but I didn't drink/smoke either so it was interesting to be the last one left standing while everyone else was drunk and acting ridiculous, lol!

I don't think my healthy lifestyle has cut into my social life though since the people I hang out with aren't the party-type either. Depending on what college you go to it may more work in finding a good group of people that share your values, but you'll find them

[eledoremassis02]

Don't party either...well I really don't have a social life

I also don't drink or smoke...I don't get drinking cause I don't see how it's fun to wake up not remeber the night before and having a huge hangover.

[heartdrops]

I can definitely relate to you.
I don't party, drink, or smoke. In fact, I think alcohol tastes really disgusting.
Unfortunately, most of my high school friends drink. Whenever they have birthday parties, they know not to invite me since they know I probably won't go. Sometimes I just feel so lonely.
Now in college, I'm fortunately enough to meet a few people that don't drink or smoke, including my roommate so it's nice.
I really hate how everyone parties and drink nowadays.

[eledoremassis02]

I really hate how everyone parties and drink nowadays.

I also hate when they assume you do as well.....

[ranianev]

Mmm not really into parties.
I was a party goer in high school but I just didn't find it that fun.
Guess it was better for me to experience it then and not screw up my college experience now

[pri-T]

I'm a senior in college and I maybe go to a party every month, maybe even less.

I don't party in the traditional sense - going to frat parties, crashing parties where I barely know anyone - I'm not joking when I say I have only gone to one party on The Row and that was stopping by for a few minutes to visit my friend. I don't find it very social to party since the music is blaring so loud it's really difficult to have a decent conversation with people. And I feel dangerous getting drunk while being surrounded by a lot of strangers.

I do enjoy hanging out with friends and sometimes, that means drinking and 'partying' in that we have a kickback at someone's place with alcohol, some music, and just chill and talk or play drinking games (or drunken board games) but I think going to watch a movie, hanging out while sober is just as fun.

It definitely may be a freshman thing since it's the first time many people have the freedom to drink and party.

Maybe you can initiate hanging out at other times with your friends? And try to find some people who also don't like to party. There must be some out there, right?

[smileyface(:]

i don't party xP
but it's really because i don't have time. I go to school 6 days a week(kills, i hope i can change this next quarter) & i work 5 days a week. When i get home from work i go to sleep, and during my days off from work i sleep ;x
I don't like clubbing either & i'm not legal to drink =\